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To ask how old was your baby when u went out,?

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HaulingFreight · 07/10/2018 03:33

That's it really... I have name changed but for a completely different thread.

When was the first night out, or first way away from baby.

I believe one works for one the other one doesn't for the other x

OP posts:
Lazypuppy · 07/10/2018 08:27

First whole night away was 12 weeks, then again at 5 months. We've also had 1 or 2 evenings out without baby a month as well where mum has babysat at our house.

Done 7 KIT days so far, final 3 this week as well

Cookit · 07/10/2018 08:27

2 years and I haven’t but I leave during the day.

IrishMamaMia · 07/10/2018 08:29

Left baby with my mom at about 3 weeks and my husband at 4 weeks for about 2hours each time. Went out for a meal and a quick catch up with friends,not too far from home. Baby was bottle fed obviously. Found it mentally beneficial to meet friends.
At 3/4 months we had a night away for our anniversary and my parents babysat.
Haven't been out much lately as I'm tired back at work with a toddler.

Luckystar1 · 07/10/2018 08:30

Went out for dinner with my DH when DS turned 1, with DD we went to a ball thing when she was 5 months, but we only stayed 2 hours. Both were ebf.

As to a night away, we went on our first ever night away this year, DS was 3.5 years!

Saracen · 07/10/2018 08:41

My first baby was left with her dad once a week for the evening so I could work. He and I went out on our first post-baby date when she was four months old, but we spent the whole evening talking about her and went home early!

My second child... can't remember. A really long time. Her medical condition was precarious so we didn't tend to leave her. But she was an "easy" baby who wasn't BF. I used to feel it was enough of a break to have someone else look after her while I was elsewhere in the same house, so that happened often - at my MIL's house for example.

Saracen · 07/10/2018 08:41

should have read "first baby was left with her dad once a week from the age of three weeks"

GinIsIn · 07/10/2018 08:42

The first time I left him for more than about 30 mins to walk the dog or nip to the shop, he was about 6 weeks I think - I went for a few hours to get my hair cut.

We left him overnight with my mother at 6 months as we had to go to a wedding. I was only comfortable doing this though because my mum lives 15 mins away and had spent time with him every day since he was born. He started nursery part time during the day at 10mo as I had to go back to work, and at 19mo he’s never been left with anyone apart from DH, my mum and nursery. I wouldn’t feel happy having him looked after by someone I didn’t know.

Saracen · 07/10/2018 08:44

My first night away from my eldest was when she was five years old. I went abroad for two weeks to be with my mother when she was very ill, leaving my child with her dad.

My younger child was probably about eight years old before I left her overnight. I didn't really have a reason to do so before then.

Treaclepie19 · 07/10/2018 08:44

8 weeks. I went to a friend's birthday, he was with his dad and slept the whole time apart from one feed.

buscaution · 07/10/2018 08:44

I went to work when one of mine was 3 weeks old. First weekend away they were 10 months. Neither of those count really though as DC were with DH. I haven't ever left them overnight with anyone (never had cause to) and eldest is hitting up the high end of the teens.

GinIsIn · 07/10/2018 08:44

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Treaclepie19 · 07/10/2018 08:44

Obviously just for the night. I stayed away for a night when he was about 15 months old.

GinIsIn · 07/10/2018 08:44

Sorry wrong thread!!

Camomila · 07/10/2018 08:45

In the daytime at about a week old! Left DS with DM for 45m and went to the supermarket just to stretch my legs.

In the evening at about 1year old...ebf and didn't like cows milk at the time. Figured he'd be ok with food and water.

Overnight at 18m for a conference...still bf, DH was up a lot that night!

geekone · 07/10/2018 08:49

Leave him with who? If it is DH then my DH has DS on his own for an hour or so from day one to give me a break then 3 hours at 6 weeks to get a haircut he was EBF so it was difficult. Then we moved to combination feeding and had a night out at a wedding when he was 14 weeks and both grannies looked after him. I also went to France for a week when he was 9 months due to my job but again he was with DH so I don’t count that as leaving him as DH is as good a parent as I am.

GrumpySausage · 07/10/2018 08:49

I first left DS with someone else (DM) at 5 weeks when I went to register his birth!

My DS was 18 months when I first left him overnight with my DM. But that wasn't because I was worried about it rather that the opportunity hadn't arisen until then.

With DD I left her for a few hours with DH when she was 4 weeks to get my hair cut. She's only 15 weeks so again I haven't had the opportunity to go away overnight yet. But I wouldn't worry if the need arose. DH and DM are more than capable.

oopslateagain · 07/10/2018 08:54

Went out for a valentines meal when DD was 3wo, spent the entire time watching the clock and kept urging DH to hurry up and finish his dinner. DD was with my mum and we were out for a grand total of an hour and a half, including driving time. I can't say I enjoyed it at all, I just wanted to get back home.

geekone · 07/10/2018 08:55

@buscaution you have never gone on a night out with your DH in over 15 years? Without Kids?
Wow

Crunchymum · 07/10/2018 08:55

Well I technically left my baby overnight when she was 36 hours (she was in neonatal, no beds for parents and I had two other kids at home)

What other parents do [what age they leave their kids, how they feed their kids, whether they sleep train or not] is none of my business.

Yes occasionally I may disagree with other people's parenting methods but I tend not to voice it out loud.

MsHopey · 07/10/2018 08:57

DS is 14mo and I still haven't left him longer than a few hours and only then he's been left with DH.
Never been a night out kind of gal anyway.

Observatorycrest · 07/10/2018 09:02

By the time I got to number 4 I took him out with me and my OH. We went to many restaurants with him which was easy when tiny and I even took him to the movies. They have a mother and baby screening. I have no family close by so a night away never happened with my first until he was around 8. My second she was 8mths and stayed over night at the MIL. My third was quite a sickly baby and didn’t get left until he was around 2 for two nights. My youngest has never spent a night away from both of us. I have been away with work for two nights and my other half too but not together and he is 4.

Upsy1981 · 07/10/2018 09:04

First overnight night out at 10 weeks. She stayed with my mum. She was FF by then so no issues there.

Walkerbean16 · 07/10/2018 09:05

i ended up in hospital with an infection when DD was 11 weeks old, i was in for three nights. totally buggered up BFing.

minniebow · 07/10/2018 09:05

3 months old for a work do. Dropped her off at my mum’s at 6pm ready for bed then drank too much, was sick and ended up in my own bed by 10pmGrin I felt awful the next day! Enjoy yourself OP, relax and breatheSmile

PomPomBears2 · 07/10/2018 09:06

4 years old!!!!!! Blush

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