My in-laws are staying (many separate threads are worthy for this alone), so my judgment may be impaired.
Out with them yesterday, and there was a discussion around the kids names and alternatives if they were girl/boy instead of boy/girl. DD has a very special family middle name, from my side, that goes back 6 generations. It was a non negotiable from my point of view, so she has that and DS has a name from DHs side. Oh, both have the surname from his side too obviously.
Anyway, MIL last night said to DS that if he was a girl his name would have been ‘Sarah Olivia’ - not the real names, but ‘Olivia’ being her middle name. I immediately jumped in and corrected her by saying, no, it would have been ‘Sarah Annette’ as we need to pass on my family tradition. MIL went quiet after that so I think she was quite offended.
In context, we NEVER discussed using her middle name, so she had zero idea. I also have been given jewellery and other family heirlooms to pass on to DD that is engraved with the middle name (I don’t have it myself as I have an older sister). The name is a big deal.
So was I rude, or was MIL presumptuous?