If I sent you this message, what would you do?

[QuestionableMouse]

Message was "help migraine pills drink help please"

I sent it to my sister after waking up with the worst migraine I've had for a while. I never ask for help, ever. I sent it at 12:20. She's still out shopping and I've had no help from her or my parents. Just managed to make it downstairs to get a drink.

I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself and quite fragile so I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable in feeling a bit annoyed and upset.

@Userplusnumbers

On that occasion, when it took you 45 minutes to get yourself downstairs to get your tablets. A couple of hours later were you in a fit state and frame of mind to be posting a thread on mumsnet?

Sounds like you were doing the dance of the dying swan. Are you always so needy and melodramatic?

OP does have health anxiety, she has posted about various issues she perceives to have before

I think your anxiety wound you up to the point where you sent an hysterical text, but if your sister knows you she probably thought all was fine.

(Which it obviously was)

@Notsohorriblehistory probably not, but what's that got to do with anything? Are you the symptom police? I would have been able to listen to the radio, and hold down a glass of water two hours later, but the OP has increased sound sensitivity, so perhaps us able to look at a screen but not do that.

How my migraine presents and how the OPs presents are two different things. Triptans can act incredibly quickly, so it's not unreasonable for the worst of the symptoms to have passed two to three hours later.

Debilitating pain. Can hardly move. Sends a barely intelligible message pleading for help.

Couple of hours later pummelling out a mumsnet thread bitching about her sister.

You don’t have to be the “symptom police” to suspect that perhaps the OP was being a little, shall we say, dramatic.

I’d be a bit confused about what you wanted from that text TBH. It’s a bit garbled.

If I happened to be in the same house I’d probably go ask what you meant. Or if I was elsewhere I’d might call you when I had a minute and ask what it was about.
But then I might equally text a response along the lines of “did you mean to text me because your text makes no sense”

And then the bit about your sister still being at the shops - if I’d told you I was planning on going shopping I could easily misinterpret that text as a request to buy you more migraine pills and drink (maybe the “help” part of the text was because your supply was running low, in this scenario).

I am going to admit to some bias because I have hemiplegic migraines....this means I present with the symptoms if a stroke (this is all after having an actual stroke) so when I have a migraine I lose the ability to use my arm and leg , cannot speak or walk along with mindnumbing pain that if I don't get to bed I'll be found on the floor (as poor DP has experienced)

So no I struggle to take a migraine where you can text and post on mumsnet seriously.

Ok but I accept mine are particularly severe however you did actually make it downstairs?so you could do it yourself

If she had been in the house then fair enough but to be honest you do sound very attention seeking ....even with mine I have a management plan where I keep medication and a kit in the bedroom

And using the word pills is a dead giveaway for attention seeking

So frankly no she was fine , you are overreacting

And irritating because crap like this means if I ever tell someone about my experience they ask what's so bad about a headache because people with a bad headache claim practically near death experiences

(Disclaimer this is not having a go at real migraine sufferers ....i am all too aware that they come in many forms and are legitimate but no way is OP really experiencing thay)

God what a drama queen, some of us have serious health problems and disabilities and still manage to get through life without a maid to respond. Yabvu.

I’d ring my sister as soon as I read the message which might not be for a few hours if I’m working.

Although I suspect this might be the poster who regularly posts about her migraines and family ignoring it.

You have to be strong like a warrior on here op. Asking for help, especially from family is a big no-no 😂.

Close family and if anyone needed anything from me I’d be there (whether I thought they were being a wimp or not). Not that I think that about you though op!

So funny that there are campaigns everywhere about mental health and speaking out if you need help and then you come on a forum like this and they go mental and call you a snowflake / drama llama 🙄.

I hope you feel better!!

I would think you'd been watching too much Father Ted and I would reply "Drink! Arse! Girls! Feck off!"

HTH

"She's still out shopping and I've had no help from her or my parents."

Back to the OP. Do your sister or your parents actually live with you? Were you texting them from upstairs in the belief that they were downstairs and could bring you pills upstairs, or were you texting your sister, thinking that she would either come to your house or alert your parents and send them to your house? I'm not sure which??

Sorry op but honestly I think that text sounds ridiculously dramatic and I'd be doing a huge eye roll if I received it.

You're on mumsnet, posting and reading comments, you can't be at deaths door.

This must be a reverse, no reasonable person would expect someone to hot-foot it home from the shops to take some pills and water upstairs to someone who was at home the whole time.

It's like my DM sending me 3 fucking texts yesterday morning, at 8.54, 8.55 and 9.15. My phone's on DND so I'm not distracted while trying to get the DC to school, or disturbed while shopping, as I'm not going to stand in a supermarket aisle texting. She knows what time we leave the house, and what time the bell rings. She knows my phone's on DND. The 3rd text reads: "Read my text." which sounds arsey to me. The 1st 2 texts I'd have just come out of the back gate, yesterday I had to walk round to the front gate as I had an appointment with the school nurse, the 3rd text I'd have been in the appointment. I was pissed off that my DM sounded arsey and I hadn't even done anything wrong.

If you'd sent me that text, I'd have texted back: "And? Wtf do you want me to do about it?"

I’m inclined to think that if you were able to send a message, you could have sorted yourself. I’m a migraine sufferer, and I wouldn’t even cope with the light from a phone screen, let alone type a message out.

Can I suggest keeping a bottle of water and a stash of migraine medication in a bedside drawer? I sometimes get a migraine in my sleep which wakes me with the pain, being able to grab what I need immediately is a massive help. And that’s the key to easing a migraine; taking your medication early on in each episode.

*Couple of hours later pummelling out a mumsnet thread bitching about her sister.

You don’t have to be the “symptom police” to suspect that perhaps the OP was being a little, shall we say, dramatic.*
And? If im lucky and iv took a triptan at the right time i may be fine a few hours later,
I can text and look at a screen with a migraine.
I simply can’t move my head because of the pain and the sound of blood beating in my head which makes things difficult.
Migraines affect people differently.

Chicago

That would be an ecumenical matter.

Blimy you lot are reactive.

I’d call them if I didn’t know what medication they needed, otherwise I’d get it and take it round as soon as I could.

I've had a migraine since yesterday.......it's starting to subside but my hands are still wobbly.

I've managed to make tea as usual, stagger to the shop for painkillers and do basic bits at home.I was in my sons school yesterday when it came on, I had to pinch some painkillers off one of his TAs and just carried on, twitchy eye and all.

If I got that message id pick up some painkillers on the way home but I wouldnt race home. 🤷‍♀️

Ok...chronic migraine sufferer here (yes, diagnosed by a neurologist that I see regularly. It is truly shit and has ruined my life but that's another story!).

I want to point out that not everyone experiences photophobia when having a migraine. So whilst previous posters have said that you can't possibly have a migraine and make this thread that is not true. Not everyone experiences this type of light sensitivity, although it is common. I generally have it with my migraines but not always. There are a lot of misconceptions about migraine and lots of people think that it is made up.

I sympathise with you and your pain OP. I don't think it was wrong of you to send your sister a message. However I think you were capable of sending her a less dramatic message as you were able to make this thread! You could have said "hey sis, I'm feeling really shit and not coping with this migraine at all. I really would appreciate some support". But... you can't expect anything from anybody.

For those in the back.
Not every migraine sufferer gets light sensitivity/visual symptoms!!!

lougle I've spent many an hour contemplating going downstairs to get painkillers when I've woken in the middle of the night with a migraine. Almost always without fail, the thought of turning over and lifting my head off the pillow is too painful. At the same time, the knowledge that it won't go without the painkillers is unbearably awful!

Perfect description. That always prompts me to restock my bedside meds after the fact.

Also want to weigh in on the people saying this or that is or isn't a migraine. Migraines come in all shapes/sizes & variation, even within one person. Those of us with chronic migraine get really good at faking normality - to the point those that know us don't get how bad it is. There really is no point in trying to get people to understand, all it does is make you look like a whiner. It is an exhausting condition to live with, without having to expend more energy convincing people that it's awful.

So with regard to the OP, I get where she's coming from. If I had a phone next to me, and the aura was over, and I could put a few coherent thoughts together, I could probably text someone in the house to bring me my drugs if my bedside supply was empty. Sometimes it does seem that impossible to get out of bed. And sometimes the drugs will work well enough within an hour that I can be upright and semi functional. At that point I look for mindless activities to provide some distraction to how crappy I feel, so maybe that's why she's on mumsnet posting. Though I wouldn't be able to put sentences together.