To complain about another child in Reception class?

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So, DS is in a small class and has been with his classmates through Nursery.
They're now in Reception together and all the kids are lovely apart from one who's behavior drives me insane.
It's a few things that wind me up...being cheeky and disrespectful to other parents and from what I've witnessed seems disruptive in class, generally very immature in behavior compared to the others and I worry that the others are being influenced and distracted by the bad behavior.
DS (obviously I'm biased.......) is such a good little boy......(most of the time) polite, tries really hard and loves to learn new things. But....he copies this other kid all the time and really lets himself down and makes me a bit
Do you think I should mention it to the teacher or AIBU given that it's such a small class....would it be difficult for the teacher to address?
Feel I need to do something and don't want to mention it to other parents at school in case they just think I'm being a bitch.....I'm really not but it's making me sooo uptight!

What behaviour in class have you seen?

OP, how long have they been in school? Presumably it’s only a couple of weeks, so this child may be struggling to settle in. Equally he may have SEN or behaviour issues. But the teacher will not talk to you about these and whether you think you are ‘that’ parent or not, the chances are the teacher will likely think you are. Not the best start to what will (hopefully) be a long relationship with the school.
I’m not sure how you’ve seen what goes on in class though? Do you work in the school?

You could always ask the teacher about your own DS's behaviour in class and ask if she feels he is easily lead? It might be a way for you to put your mind at rest regarding what is and is not going on in the classroom. You don't have to mention the other child. As everyone has said it's about you looking after your own DS and making sure he knows what behaviour is expected of him and how to handle it if he notices other people doing things that aren't what is expected / required. There will always be someone mucking about / being a bit cheeky / not listening. They are 4 years old and there to learn all these things!

For example, my DS got in trouble with the playground assistant when in YR for not listening and not getting into line at the end of break. He told me it was because two of his friends were messing about. I told him that didn't matter and he should have done what he was told and had a general chat about listening to what trusted adults are saying!

My son is easily led - he found it difficult to make friends initially so now tend to just run along and do what his friends are doing to fit in. While I let him know I sympathise with the desire to fit in he's still responsible for his own behaviour.

It's a good learning experience to have to decide when to go along with your friends and when to draw the line. Much better it be learned in reception by being a bit cheeky than at 12 or 13 by getting into real trouble. For all you know your DS is providing this boy an audience and encouraging his bad behaviour too. All kids behave worse when they're with their friends than when they're right next to their parents. What you've described of this boy sounds well within the normal range of reception behaviour.

Typical Mn double standards
Other peoples kids misbehave because they are naughty
My child misbehaves because he is misled by others

Your reaction to the responses I think if you take a step back you will see is an over reaction, you clearly weren't shot down in flames, nor is it toxic, simply you were told that to focus on your own child's behaviour, and that the teacher already knows. I wonder if you are also over reacting to this kid,

I suspect that possibly this is just kids being kids, messing around, they are four and are daft at times. It's part of growing up. Kids can also be little shits at times, becayse it's fun and they want to be, or that's how they feel. Your kid will never behave perfectly all the time.

Honestly, if you struggle with being silly or a bit naughty at four, you're going to die with you arse in your hands when he's 14.

Take a step back, chill, gently explain if he does something naughty. But accept its natural for him to test his boundaries and be naughty at times.

Honestly, if you struggle with being silly or a bit naughty at four, you're going to die with you arse in your hands when he's 14.

This.

and just want DS to be happy, kind and well behaved ....like he is at home. School isn’t for everyone and doesn’t suit all children. Remember you don’t have to send him!

Private school? Biting? The way this is written reminds me of one that was pulled yesterday as the OP had a bashing apparently!

It is true some children are more easily led than others but they are still choosing to follow them. I've never bought into the 'my child is naughty because they are led by others'. It's probably because I saw my db and his friends be blamed by one boy's parents for his bad behaviour but he was always the instigator. With my dcs, I've known them to have friends who are 'bad influences' but I've always told them they are responsible for their bad choices.

I would add that is equally true at 4 or 14.

It's a few things that wind me up...being cheeky and disrespectful to other parents and from what I've witnessed seems disruptive in class.

How on earth have you "seen" what's happening in class? Are you a volunteer or TA in the class?

You still haven't answered the question of how you know this little boy is disruptive in class?

I don't think the Op will come back.

Oops. Another one bites the dust.