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Should I send dd to school.

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sophisticatedsarcasm · 03/10/2018 22:15

Dd threw up this evening, only once and not allot, I’m pretty sure it was caused by how much she ate and then a round of wrestling with my sister, she was then sitting in a room that wasbfairy hot as she was playing with her brother who has ASD and he likes things to be a certain way. Just before she went in the bath she was sick. I’m confident it’s not a bug, she Had no temp and returned to normal self straight away. I think it was a case of over indulgence after having seconds and then pudding. I don’t see why I need to keep her off school if it’s not a bug 😐

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Wolfiefan · 03/10/2018 22:16

But you don’t know it wasn’t a bug.

PickAChew · 03/10/2018 22:17

No.

continuallychargingmyphone · 03/10/2018 22:17

I’d send her if she isn’t sick again.

SpottingTheZebras · 03/10/2018 22:18

Children eat and play every day but they aren’t usually sick afterwards.

Ywbu to send her to school.

Wolfiefan · 03/10/2018 22:18

Send her? And that’s why sickness bugs go round schools like wildfire.

Catmum26 · 03/10/2018 22:19

i guess it depends on if she vomits again in the night and how she feels in the morning?

Queenofthestress · 03/10/2018 22:20

24 hours after vomiting

This is how bugs get spread

tiggerbounce77 · 03/10/2018 22:21

If you send her to school and it is a bug another child could easily pick it up and take it into a home where there is someone with a compromised immune system and make them very poorly, please keep her at home

continuallychargingmyphone · 03/10/2018 22:28

I don’t think it is a bug. Bugs tend to be repeated sickness. People are often sick for reasons other than bugs. If I had a day off every time I vomited I would never be in work (I work with children.) I am sick four times a week minimum.

Elliss2018 · 03/10/2018 22:32

🙄 keep her home, you don't know it's not a bug.

Crunchymum · 03/10/2018 22:36

Keep her off tomorrow as a precaution?

I'm one if those annoying immunocomprimised people and having a sickness bug means I would have to stop taking medication while I recover and if I don't take my medication I can't walk!!

user1484424013 · 03/10/2018 22:39

Do not send your child to school. Sorry to sound a bitch but it's selfish. One occasion a twaty mother sent her sick child in with the virus in December 2012. Bragged about how she had a nail appointment. My daughter landed in hospital with suspected meningitis the spread was that bad wiped half the school out.

Fucking hate parents sending vomiting and shitting kids to school.

On another note. My husband is currently fighting stage 4 cancer. Radiotherapy and chemotherapy and we have to be so careful. If I can care for him and be an acting single parent to two girls at school and a baby and keep them separated from him for weeks at a time then you could keep your child off for the recommended 48 hours. It's there for a a reason as confirmed by an oncoloigist. Just think your saying over indulgent.... vomiting bug.... what if it's not.

People who send sick children to school are reckless and selfish. What if a child at your child's school has a parent with cancer like my daughter's and spreads a vile bug and therefore leading to either the spread to a cancer patient or nearly as bad having to keep the children separate from the parent causing unessasary harm towards what they already have to deal with already.

Don't be the arsehole parent who causes chaos to others.

More awareness needs to be spread about this. During this long fucking cancer journey as horrendous as it is to watch and all that comes with it seeing how utterly selfish people can be is even worse to handle and swallow.

I would never ever send a sick child to school before this. And from now on if j ever hear some parent tinkle about poor Ronnie being upset because he was barfing all night I am naming and shaming.

3boysandabump · 03/10/2018 22:39

Please keep her home. If it is a bug she'll pass it on and other kids in her class may have tiny baby siblings at home or family members with immunity problems or elderly grandparents. It's inconvenient and frustrating to have a child jumping round the house full of beans eating you out of house and home the morning after they've been ill but it's the right thing to do

thaegumathteth · 03/10/2018 22:40

Ywbu to send her

Jeffstar79 · 03/10/2018 22:41

You know your Dd and if it's likely she was sick because she ate too much. My Dd is regularly sick through migraines, even the school accept if she's sick there it's not a bug and the exclusion doesn't apply. We're an immunosuppressed family (transplant) so know the risks but sometimes you need to use your judgement.

cadburyegg · 03/10/2018 22:43

What triggered the vomit? If she was just sick randomly then I wouldn’t send her. Was she coughing or something?

My ds was crying so much tonight out of tiredness it made him cough and gag and was a little bit sick, I will still send him to nursery on Friday.

confusednorthner · 03/10/2018 22:44

DO NOT SEND HER IN! That's how schools get bugs spreading round because so many parents say oh it's only the once!
We've been phoning parents who've sent kids in who then tell us I was sick but mummy said it's ok as only once and asking them to come back and collect them. Completely unfair on the child with comprised immunity, the one with family member fighting cancer, the staff who have to keep playing nurse etc etc

Itchytights · 03/10/2018 22:46

But bugs can be different and at the end of the day, she was sick.

Ffs wayyyy too many irresponsible and ignorant parents sending in kids to school after this.

It's 48 hours after being symptom free.

All this bollocks as " you know your child" etc is just bullshit.

If a kids sick, they stay off school. End of.

I name and shame as this makes me so fucking angry. Keep your child off and show some responsibility.

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QueenofLouisiana · 03/10/2018 22:47

Please don’t. As teachers we dint want children who are children unwell in class, we don’t want it to spread, we don’t want to clean vomit up in the clasroom or evacuate the room because of the smell.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 03/10/2018 22:47

I hate these kind of decisions because I can so see both sides. Honestly if you don't have a job interview or a significant medical appointment tomorrow I would keep her off. Send her in Friday if she shows no more signs of a bug.

If she is carrying something and she passes it to someone with an immunocompromised relative or someone who is getting married at the weekend etc. You can probably accept that your minor inconvenience is worth it.

Over the years I can think of several occasions when I have thought that it probably isn't a bug because of x/y/z It always has been.

caroloro · 03/10/2018 22:48

You to send her in. I totally get why you wouldn't want to, but YWBU.

But also....sick four times a week minimum, every week?!? You either have a permanent bug or a medical condition. You should really see a doctor.

Observatorycrest · 03/10/2018 22:49

user1484424013 totally agree

theuntameableshrew · 03/10/2018 22:49

Don't be the arsehole parent who causes chaos to others

This ^^

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plominoagain · 03/10/2018 22:52

Please don’t . I’ve just been put on management action at work because I had to take a week off work , after some stupid bloody parent sent their daughter into school with a highly contagious bug because ‘she had to go to work’ , which then spread like wildfire , and our whole family got it . Well no shit lady , so do most of us . Except some of us can’t risk taking it into work and it decimating the teams we work with .

So I had to take the responsible decision not to go in , and have been landed with an attendance action plan as a result . Which will mean I will get any post I apply for , any course I apply for , refused , for the next year . All because of some thoughtless bloody fool .