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Should I send dd to school.

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sophisticatedsarcasm · 03/10/2018 22:15

Dd threw up this evening, only once and not allot, I’m pretty sure it was caused by how much she ate and then a round of wrestling with my sister, she was then sitting in a room that wasbfairy hot as she was playing with her brother who has ASD and he likes things to be a certain way. Just before she went in the bath she was sick. I’m confident it’s not a bug, she Had no temp and returned to normal self straight away. I think it was a case of over indulgence after having seconds and then pudding. I don’t see why I need to keep her off school if it’s not a bug 😐

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Swishswish26 · 03/10/2018 22:55

Please please do not send your dd into school tomorrow. It could still be a bug despite her only being sick once.
My dd caught a bug whilst on holiday a few months ago and was sick for two days, I caught it 24 hours later but was only sick once. Everyone reacts to bugs in different ways. My children play fight/wrestle regularly but are never sick from doing so. Please think of the rest of her class and teachers.

Happygummibear · 03/10/2018 22:56

There is a sickness bug going around..me, dh and dd got it. Also several people around us got in..including someone we were in contact with that had gone on holiday. We have no idea where the bug came from. Dh wanted to go into work I told him no for the exact reasons above.

He had d&v..I just felt really poorly like I ate too much and it sat heavy on my tummy.

Gastroenteritis.... or tummy bugs can affect people in different ways. Especially children who seem to bounce back from things.

Jamieson90 · 03/10/2018 23:01

Already had to clean up a case of diarrhea and another case of vomit this week. It INFURITATES me that some parents think it is okay to send their child into school drugged up on calpol full well knowing they are not well.

Your child needs to be at home in bed resting, not spreading their illness to every other child and member of staff in the school. It is totally unfair and completely selfish.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 03/10/2018 23:02

Selfish and irresponsible to send her in, even if it was only once. DS was sick Sunday-Monday, DH felt sick Monday-Tuesday. When I puked just once on Wednesday was at a) the same bug, or b) a random one off that was not infectious? I’m guessing a. I stayed off work on Thursday so that I didn’t pass it on and then was super careful about handwashing on Friday.

Teaandbiscuits35 · 03/10/2018 23:02

Please take the above advice and keep her off. I’m a TA and it’s so frustrating when a child tells us they vomited last night. I accept that I’ll pick up colds, head lice and the odd virus, when you work so closely with kids you expect that. But a sickness bug is a nightmare. Think of the knock on effect if you’re wrong and your child does have a bug, is it worth the risk?

LondonLassInTheCountry · 03/10/2018 23:03

Don’t see why I need to keep her off school if it’s not a bug 😐

So why ask on here!?!?!

By the way.... I caught a sickness bug, i was sick for 3 days, my kidneys failed and i was very ill.
Doctors said if i had fell asleep that night, instead of going to the hospital, i wouldnt of woke up....

But you send your child to school if its that unimportant to you !

MumUnderTheMoon · 03/10/2018 23:05

Send her to school. If she doesn't vomit again then she should be fine.

NoNoCharlieRascal · 03/10/2018 23:06

@continuallychargingmyphone if you are truly sick four times a week minimum, I would suggest you get checked out. I've worked in nurseries and schools for well over a decade and have never been that sick. It's not normal.

Dermymc · 03/10/2018 23:10

Odds are it was too much food.

I get migraine with sickness, I'd be off all the time if I waited an unnecessary 48 hours before returning to work.

If she has no other symptoms I'd send her in.

upsideup · 03/10/2018 23:12

You know your dd best, 9 year old ds is sick a bit every probably every 2 weeks from eating certain things and messing around and he would never be in school if he missed 48 hours each time.
I know when he's actually ill and have never gotten it wrong so far.

Naty1 · 03/10/2018 23:15

I can see why the rule is there however, sometimes for D certainly one episode can be food related. Dd apparently ate a snack at school of pear and then i gave her a snack at home a couple of hours later of pear and something bear claws. It wasnt even diarrhoea really just a 'wet fart'. Other times she has just had one loose BM. (Technically D is at least 3.) Also she seems to get D or V very badly when she does get it so wouldnt ever be one instance of anything.
Another time she had actually had D for a few days was then better as hadnt been having dairy, went into school and had dairy that day so that night had D again. Clearly was LI temporarily but had 2 days off again, though she was fine once stayed off dairy again.

Some bugs do just seem to cause 1 maybe 2 V incidences. Or even V after coughing.
However im not sure how much affect the 48h rule has because

  • Siblings are still going to school (and parents to work), when they may be sick there or have the d&v germs all over them from in the house.
-often kids seem to V in the classroom or assembly so then everyone might catch it.
  • some d&v bugs are actually adenoviruses or hfm, which can present and spread as colds. So the people unlucky enough to present with the d&v stay off but it's still spreading because the kid with the cold actually has the same thing...
  • kids can throw up from fevers/cp/hfm/uti/ear infections/reflux/teething/coughing.

I would say encourage hand washing before eating especially if you are at a soft play etc.

When did the rule come in. Common sense was used i think when i was at school.

mumsastudent · 03/10/2018 23:15

when I childminded one dc came to me am &half an hour after mum left dc vomited. The next I woke up & had it - which meant I had to ring round all the parents & tell them I couldn't care for their dc for a couple of days - one of my dc caught it. Its not fair to others keep her home & don't expect the child minder to look after dc either!

chipsandgin · 03/10/2018 23:19

Fuck no. At least you are thinking about it - some useless parents (see above to work out which ones..it's not tricky) are self-centred, irresponsible twats and just do it anyway & then all of the above happens and worse. So incredibly selfish and thoughtless. Please listen to each and every one of the people advising you not to, it really isn't alright, ever.

MissEliza · 03/10/2018 23:20

TeandBiscuits what you've said is so true. Giving the rest of your family a sickness bug is a lot more serious than the cold.

Wolfiefan · 03/10/2018 23:21

If you are routinely sick then you need medical help.
Bugs can make you sick just once.

TrudeauGirl · 03/10/2018 23:22

Don't send her in. When I worked with children I was constantly getting sick because of parents sending children in after being sick. It's not fair.

SpoonBlender · 03/10/2018 23:23

How's a non-medical parent meant to navigate the path between "being fined for truancy" and "kid threw up, keep them home"?

Schools spend so much time trying to reinforce that kids come to school that it clashes and overrides the need to keep infectious ones home. It's not all "stupid parents", it's conflicting orders.

Brainfogmcfogface · 03/10/2018 23:25

Nope don’t send her. My lo was sick yesterday during the night, like yours only once and has been absolutely fine today but I’m still keeping her off for 48 hours (school rule) as a precaution.

MintyJones · 03/10/2018 23:26

God can't you just make the decision yourself? You honestly don't need randoms online to give your their opinions. Have faith in your own parenting and YOU decide

cadburyegg · 03/10/2018 23:27

Conflicting orders as well as needing to use common sense. Some kids , like my ds, who suffer from car sickness would never attend school if their parents kept them off every time they vomited.

TickTickBoomBoom · 03/10/2018 23:27

I'd say if she doesn't throw up again send her in (if you're very sure it isn't a bug). And I say that as a mother of an autistic DD who does stupid things like eat soap and then throws up at school and gets sent home for 48 hours. Sometimes being sick is not due to a bug, but kids being kids.

Wolfiefan · 03/10/2018 23:29

How can you know it isn’t a bug? If a child ate something they shouldn’t and threw up that is different. But trying to excuse random vomiting because the room was warm etc is unfair on the rest of the school.

tastylancs · 03/10/2018 23:32

Nope don't send. Same thing happened to me and 24 hours after the first sick episode (that I was convinced wasn't a bug) DC was sick again. It was a bug.

Lalliella · 03/10/2018 23:34

If you’re sure it isn’t a bug then send her in. I’ve done that with DS. No-one else got sick.

Wolfiefan · 03/10/2018 23:36

No one else got sick? You know that for sure?
I hope no one at these schools where you’ve sent vomiting kids in have immunocompromised staff or kids. (Or families of.)

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