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Should I send dd to school.

88 replies

sophisticatedsarcasm · 03/10/2018 22:15

Dd threw up this evening, only once and not allot, I’m pretty sure it was caused by how much she ate and then a round of wrestling with my sister, she was then sitting in a room that wasbfairy hot as she was playing with her brother who has ASD and he likes things to be a certain way. Just before she went in the bath she was sick. I’m confident it’s not a bug, she Had no temp and returned to normal self straight away. I think it was a case of over indulgence after having seconds and then pudding. I don’t see why I need to keep her off school if it’s not a bug 😐

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newmumwithquestions · 03/10/2018 23:40

YWBVVVVU to send her in.

Is she usually sick when she plays after eating? No? Then she’s got a bug. Even if she’s only sick once.

The only times it’s different is when it’s travel sickness.

garethsouthgatesmrs · 03/10/2018 23:50

continuallychargingmyphone see a doctor - thats not normal

TickTickBoomBoom she isn't sure it isn't a bug is she? how could she be? It very possibly is a bug. ( it almost always is)

Lalliella If you’re sure it isn’t a bug then send her in. I’ve done that with DS. No-one else got sick it's always a relief when someone scientific comes on to sort things out. At least now we know it's not a bug cos Lalliella says.

moita · 04/10/2018 03:30

My daughter has a heart condition - if her older brother gets ill he tends to recover quickly. If she gets it, it could mean hospital. Please keep her off.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 04/10/2018 04:01

Send her. As you've said she's just eaten to much then run around a lot.

If you're confident it's not a big then I don't see a problem. I know personally I'd be annoyed at missing a day of work and my daughter missing a day of her education due to a bit of over eating.

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sophisticatedsarcasm · 04/10/2018 06:22

No she hasn’t been sick again, generally i never send her to school when she’s vomited. Her school states 48 hours so that’s what we do at it isn’t fair on other children. When it’s a bug usually has other symptoms too. My DS has a smoke machine which both him and dd were playing with. I’m wondering if that set her off. Not gonna send her in just in case.... it’s just as there were no other accompanying symptoms it doesn’t feel like a bug. Thanks for the advice guys 😊

OP posts:
Seacow87 · 04/10/2018 06:44

Absolutely boils my blood. It's very hard to truly identify the cause of a vomit. Which is why the rule is 24/48 hour since last.
People rarely understand how vital this is until they have an immunocompromised family member.

Nightwatch999 · 04/10/2018 06:48

She vomited end off. Of course she should stay off school, she was sick for a reason. Please do not pass a nasty bug around the school because you clearly want to palm her off Hmm

Nightwatch999 · 04/10/2018 06:51

@continuallychargingmyphone your sick 4 times a week then you go into work where there are children?
Please let me know where you work, you need reporting.Hmm

Conseulabananahammock · 04/10/2018 06:51

24 hours after last bout of sickness of diarreah it's really not hard to comprehend. Hate hate hate parents that send sick kids into school . They are the reason my poor son develops pneumonia several times in the winter months. Parents sending kids in with scarlet fever,chicken pox etc. Especially when they have no bloody jobs and just want the break as they've had a rough night.

Nightwatch999 · 04/10/2018 06:53

@user1484424013 Well said. My heart goes out to you and your family Thanks

SuburbanRhonda · 04/10/2018 06:57

Schools spend so much time trying to reinforce that kids come to school that it clashes and overrides the need to keep infectious ones home.

There’s no “clash”.

Sick kids stay at home, well kids come to school. If a child has vomited, they stay off for a set period because you can’t guarantee they won’t put other children at risk.

And rules on attendance come from central government, not from schools.

Itchytights · 04/10/2018 06:59

As I read through this thread there are still ignorant arseholes encouraging op to send her kid in to school.

Tell you what, I fucking hope none of you go to my school. I hate parents like you and I will shop you to the school every single fucking time.

It's absolutely disgusting. You need educating.

AngryAngryAngry

Conseulabananahammock · 04/10/2018 07:02

^^ this

Itchytights · 04/10/2018 07:05

*Thesnobbymiddleclassone^

You are exactly the parent I despise. Entitled, uneducated and completely ignorant on this issue.

Sod everyone else. As long as you get to precious work.

Immune compromised, cancer sufferers, the fact that this could spread to whole families and cause misery for everyone involved, kids, parents, teachers.

So long as you get to work.

Well fuck you I say.

Angry
ADastardlyThing · 04/10/2018 07:07

You could check with the school? I had a similar situation, I knew it wasn't a bug (it really was combination of a certain 'treat' food/jumping around = sick about 10 mins later) I called the school in the morning and explained and asked what they wanted me to do and they said they wouldn't keep him off in that case.

Nightwatch999 · 04/10/2018 07:07

@SpoonBlender you are so right about school attendance. My DS2 had Chicken Pox, Conjunctivitis and 2 vomiting bugs last year. His attendance dropped to 89% for the year resulting in an official warning and monitoring put in place. I was livid.
Schools cant have it both ways.

Dychmygol · 04/10/2018 07:17

My eldest will be sick if she's tired. My youngest will be sick if she's eaten too much chocolate. Whilst I know this is why they've been sick I will always keep them off school for the next day at least.

It's just not worth the risk of spreading stuff, none of us like to catch bugs so we should all be cautious about spreading bugs. I think you've made the right call sophisticatedsarcasm

anniehm · 04/10/2018 07:18

As long as she seems well now I would send her

SuburbanRhonda · 04/10/2018 07:25

Schools cant have it both ways.

Actually they can. Monitoring attendance is another task central government insist we carry out. Schools can fail an inspection if they can’t show what measures they’re taking to address persistent absence.

A letter to a parent of a child with 89% is one of those measures. If you know it’s due to illness and was therefore authorised, why get “livid”? Just ignore the letter. It’s not hard.

Dermymc · 04/10/2018 07:26

Itchy but can you not see that being sick doesn't always equal a bug. I am regularly sick and have no bug. Travel sick kids, kids who have reflux, kids who are sick after too much excitement. Parents know their kids. The most infectious time on most bugs is before you are even sick.

Wolfiefan · 04/10/2018 07:34

Suburban talks sense.
I’m on immunosuppressants and DS has a serious kidney condition. I bloody hope none of you saying send a vomiting child to school live round me.

FullOfJellyBeans · 04/10/2018 07:34

My eldest pukes very easily. He'll often throw up in the car or if he's in the swing too long. In that case I'd still send him in. In other cases where I think "it was probably XYZ" I keep him off. One time I was certain it was a one off but kept him hime to be safe. The next afternoon the whole family came down with the worst ever D&V. So glad I didn't send him in to infect everyone else.

Princess9891 · 04/10/2018 07:48

I wouldn't send mine. Every time they have had a bug they only puked once but it was still a bug!

Thelastredwinegum · 04/10/2018 07:50

Some unbelievably selfish people on this thread.
Ah well, as long as you don't think it's a bug.

Booie09 · 04/10/2018 08:48

Hate selfish parents who send in sick children...my daughter is a type 1 diabetic and if she gets a sickness bug she could end up being admitted to hospital because her suger and ketones levels could become dangerously Low or High.