Should I send dd to school.

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Dd threw up this evening, only once and not allot, I’m pretty sure it was caused by how much she ate and then a round of wrestling with my sister, she was then sitting in a room that wasbfairy hot as she was playing with her brother who has ASD and he likes things to be a certain way. Just before she went in the bath she was sick. I’m confident it’s not a bug, she Had no temp and returned to normal self straight away. I think it was a case of over indulgence after having seconds and then pudding. I don’t see why I need to keep her off school if it’s not a bug 😐

ADastardlything- exactly the same happened to my friend last year, she called the school and they said no problem send her in as was a one off. Her brother and sister then vomited at school that same day. Turns out it was a bug after all and had likely been spread to three year groups.

People are ignorant. End of.

This is why it is so rife.

There's nothing else to it and it causes me so much outrage and anxiety because it is completely disgusting and shit parenting to send in unwell sick/ diarrhoea kids to school.

Don’t send her.

A selfish Mum sent her kids in to nursery with a tummy bug and it robbed me of precious days with my dying mother, because I couldn’t go near with the bug me and my kids had caught from her. I still bristle every time she comes in.

Swish that's really unlucky! In our case it was most definitely the massive greasy but delicious kfc the healthy tea I'd made.

I was in doubt once when he had the runs for no obvious reason so kept him off for the 48 hours and when I told the school he hadn't been ill apart from the one incident I got bollocked nicely for not using my common sense

@Itchytights wow aren't you a lovely individual.

I know when my child is ill from a bug or from just stuffing her face (rare occasion) and I'm pretty sure most parents do.

And so what if I want to go to work. I enjoy going to work and I'm not letting her miss a day of education because she stuffed her face too much.

OP is very clear that her child has down that and that it isn't a bug. She can trust her instincts as a mum and I'll trust mine.

If she had clearly been ill and unlike her usual self then I wouldn't.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone DD went to bed on Tuesday night totally fine. Threw up first thing Wednesday morning, again was fine. Then around 2pm began throwing up consistently and became really ill, really quickly.

Why am I telling you?

Because your confident assertion is wrong and by going along with it, you are potentially putting people at risk.

Just to clarify I was just unsure because even though I don’t know 100% I still believe it was a combination of the things said in OP. I kept her off all the same which I would have done subconsciously just needed some reassurance. She stayed with my mum and drove my mums nuts. My mum literally said you wouldn’t believe she had been sick. Eating, shouting, being a little cow. All other times my kids have been sick they have been kept at home because I feel the same about catching bugs. However I will say I do send them in with colds because if I kept them off everyt8me they had a cold thier attendance would be through the roof. Yes the school can we contradicting. I know a kid from my DS class who had quite a bit of time of due to medical issues. She got a letter about his poor attendance regardless of him being in hospital for 3 weeks. They bang on about attendance, then moan if you send them to school sick but then complain about the attendance for the times they were off sick. So no wonder parents panic. I have a fear of being sick myself... but you can’t avoid it,... you could sit next to s9meone on a bus who has a bug, a shop etc.. yeah you can limit it by not sending them to school but it won’t avoid it completely.

being a little cow

What an awful way to talk about your daughter.

I have to say calling a child a little cow makes me very uncomfortable.

Do you not realise that schools are judged on their attendance figures at government level. They have to send the letters if your attendance is below a certain percentage. Otherwise they would have ofsted on their back about it. If your child is genuinely off ill, ignore the letters and move on with life.

Ignoring the letters would be a lot easier to do if they weren't so threatening.

I've always kept kids off school when they're sick. I tell my minions at work to stay home and be sick and get better. It's just sense.

The letters about attendance bang on about fines, legal repercussions, children condemned to the mines due to lack of GCSEs, in CAPS or bold. Nowhere do they say "Of course, if your child was ill, ignore this letter". They're just rubbish.

@SuburbanRhonda Perhaps your school does this balance better? Because there is a balance, despite your comment. All the letters I've ever seen have been really fucking insistant that the sky will fall in if attendance drops below 95%. The info about keeping a kid off when they're sick is in a corner of the parent's guide or year welcome letter - which sometimes don't get given out every year. That's rubbish.

All the letters I've ever seen have been really fucking insistant that the sky will fall in if attendance drops below 95%.

No, our letters don’t say that and neither did I say the letters tell parents to ignore them. I was just stating what I would expect a parent with some common sense to do if they received one of these letters and they knew the absences were due to illness.

The letters have to state the potential consequences of low attendance. They're just stating facts. If you are off school you are less likely to succeed. 90% attendance is a day off every 2 weeks. That is a lot of time off. Sporadic non attendance is worse than taking a block, say a week, in terms of learning. The odd day off means you often miss the first lesson on a lot of different topics. If you have a week you only miss a whole topic.

Some of you don't realise the huge pressure schools are under. It's a broken system and there is only so much teachers can do within the system and not be punished by ofsted.