Its just boiled vegetables

[milkytea]

Earlier DH and I were discussing dinner. Were talking a simple pasta dish with vegetables. Had it all planned out but I got sick and said I don't really feel up to eating so I'm going to sit dinner out tonight. He then gets all pissed off and says "well fine then. We had it all planned out but I guess I'll just have plain pasta instead." He proceeded to silent treatment me for 45 minutes until I asked him wtf was wrong. He said "I was really looking forward to it and now I can't have it." I told him of course he can I just won't be making it as I keep being sick. He sulks and says " just forget it then, I won't bother."

AIBU? Or should he have just boiled the bloody vegetables himself if it was that big a fucking deal!

A Stepford wife character with a feminine username is not generally to be trusted...

The most surprising part of this for me is the thought of anyone looking forward to pasta with boiled vegetables that much! Which vegetables were being boiled? Surely most veg that would form the basis of a pasta sauce would be stir fried? Or perhaps roasted? I now have a vision of a plain bowl of pasta with the odd Brussels sprout or carrot sat in it.

Returning to the point of the thread - yes, ridiculous behaviour on the husband’s part. YANBU.

I'm giving the boiled vegetables the benefit of the doubt (unlike the DH, who sounds about as desirable as a boiled vegetable himself) - could be tomatoes being gently simmered/reduced with garlic?

I know it's not the point of the thread, but obviously a few of us keep coming back to the boiled vegetables

I wouldn't cook for him again. Petulant man child. How unattractive.

Irrelevant, but I'm watching this thread simply because plain pasta with boiled veg is probably dream meal for my pretty fussy son so I want the recipe. I'm hoping there's more than just pasta and plain veg btw.

Boiled veg and pasta??

I have one who periodically tries this shit (I think he must have had an ex in his past who fell for it)

He works part time, erratic hours, (zero hours, shit employer) so often has a full day at home to himself.

Last time this happened I walked in knackered form a double shift and he actually fucking asked ME what was for tea.

Amazingly I didn’t murder him. I lied and said I’d eaten. So he ordered dominos. I intercepted it at the door, swiped half AND ate the doughballs. Won’t pull that stunt in a hurry. Arse.
On other occasions I have cooked something he hates and slowly eaten it with great relish.

It’s sinking in.

Some of the stories here...how you even get through dating when you discover a man "can't" do basic domestics? Being pregnant and ill and giving cooking instructions?

If you love someone, you care when they are ill and want to look after them.

Haha... There's always one like Harriet.. devour her, o ye pit of vipers 😂😂😂

fucking hell vampire what a cock

Honestly, a sandwich/a takeaway/a bowl of cereal, surely he could find something?
Dh is normally very lovely and very supportive but when me or the kids are ill he is crap - really crap and I have never really understood why other than that's just the way he is.

How the hell do these men end up married ? Do they really hide their arseness and twattishness right the way through a relationship and then just reveal themselves after the honeymoon like a makeover show or something.

What a bellend. That is all.

Unless there is some HUGE dripfeed about his extreme psychological phobia of raw vegetables, or a life-threatening allergy that means if he touches an uncooked carrot he might die.

Did he manage to choke down some plain pasta? As I write I almost feel sorry for him. I mean, what if he couldn't even find the olive oil, butter and cheese? The horror.

Ooh vampirethriller I think I can do one better than that. My ex was once so ‘ill’ that he actually called his mum to come over and make him a cup of tea. He had a cold. She also did all the washing up while she was over.

Yes, this is the same ex as in my other two anecdotes, who expected me to make his breakfast as soon as I got out of the bathroom from being ill.

How the hell do these men end up married ? Do they really hide their arseness and twattishness right the way through a relationship and then just reveal themselves after the honeymoon like a makeover show or something.

I've no idea. I like a man who's competent enough to keep himself alive in our industrialised, developed world. A man who walks into a fully equipped modern kitchen and literally doesn't know how to wash his clothes or make a simple meal would turn me right off.

How is any woman having sex with men like this?

How is any woman having sex with men like this?

That thought runs through my head on MN in a regular basis cantsleep.

This issue isn’t about whether the OP’s DH can cook or not though. My DH isn’t a particularly good cook, whereas I find it relaxing so I do most meals.

If I was throwing up, my DH would hold back my hair, help me to bed and tuck me up with sweet tea and some dry toast.

He would cheerfully work out some dinner for himself: omelettes or frozen pizza or sandwiches or a takeaway.

In a million years he’d never think to complain.

The “in sickness and in health” bit in the marriage vows - it’s in there for good reason.

@Wearywithteens I see what you mean. I meant he doesn’t bother to cook for just himself. He easily cooks as often as I do. If it’s just him needing to eat he often won’t bother “proper” food. He definitely doesn’t complain about it. I just meant if it’s just 1 person you either cook for yourself or suit yourself it barely needs a comment.

What a fucking arsehole he is.

Looked back at how bloody awful my cooking sounds. It's more a homemade pasta sauce, with tomato, carrot, peas, onions, etc. (DDs favourite) I pre prepped the sauce in the morning and all he had to do was boil a couple carrots and some peas, and throw them in. After all the drama he didn't even bother with the plain pasta and sulked off to bed at 9:30. Finally stopped spewing my guts up (you're welcome) about half an hour ago. He knows how to cook simple things, but generally it's my job. He also has the pallet of a 8 year old so hes not that adventurous with food.

He got like this the other night over me going for a hair cut instead of spending time with him because he works all day and I should want to spend time with him. Kinda makes me feel like a crappy partner when he does these things.

Wow, this is absolutely ridiculous..I don't get why he would want you to cook anyway whilst vomiting, surely that would make him likely to get the bug too?!

He got like this the other night over me going for a hair cut instead of spending time with him because he works all day and I should want to spend time with him. Kinda makes me feel like a crappy partner when he does these things

Oh OP . That's NOT normal. It's really not. He sounds petulant, unpleasant and controlling.

Do you have DC together?

No, he's the crappy partner.