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Its just boiled vegetables

128 replies

milkytea · 02/10/2018 19:57

Earlier DH and I were discussing dinner. Were talking a simple pasta dish with vegetables. Had it all planned out but I got sick and said I don't really feel up to eating so I'm going to sit dinner out tonight. He then gets all pissed off and says "well fine then. We had it all planned out but I guess I'll just have plain pasta instead." He proceeded to silent treatment me for 45 minutes until I asked him wtf was wrong. He said "I was really looking forward to it and now I can't have it." I told him of course he can I just won't be making it as I keep being sick. He sulks and says " just forget it then, I won't bother."

AIBU? Or should he have just boiled the bloody vegetables himself if it was that big a fucking deal!

OP posts:
Lalliella · 02/10/2018 20:45

Your husband is a massive twat. So he gives you no sympathy at all for being ill and just complains you won’t cook him dinner? What a spoil to baby. I’d be cooking his testicles and presenting them to him with a nice vomit sauce.

Link to the jacket potato thread please!

thisneverendingsummer · 02/10/2018 20:46

Reminds me of my twat of an ex who came and sat down at the kitchen table one morning, with no breakfast, because all 4 cereal bowls were in the sink (dirty.) He just sat there with his arms folded, complaining he couldn't have any cereal as there were NO clean bowls!

So he would rather have no cereal - and starve - than lift his lazy fat cunt of an arse up, and wash a cereal bowl. I just said 'just bastard well starve then!' He then proceeded to be a silent cunt for nearly an hour, until I got up and went out.

Vile, passive-aggressive arsehole.

Sadly, many men display this passive aggressive, wank-stain, cunty behaviour. They want you to feel bad you see, (for nothing usually!) because they are insecure, controlling, sad wankers who want you to be as miserable as them.

Your DH sounds the same OP. Do you want this for the next 50 years?

If the answer is no, then LTB.

NonaGrey · 02/10/2018 20:47

He’s angry that you are ill? Because you can’t make his dinner? Confused

Because that’s what it boils down do.

It doesn’t speak very well of him.

I’d personally be unavailable to make dinner for sometime until
there was a serious attitude adjustment.

BackBoiler · 02/10/2018 20:50

My DH's mum did everything for him and I do admittedly do all the cooking but he doesnt care what he eats. He's not the best at cooking (mainly a timing issue) but he would just knock something together ams bring me whatever i needed in bed???

IHaveBrilloHair · 02/10/2018 20:51

Ugh.
I had an ex once who had a sulk that there was only Brown bread left and he wanted white.

Dumbarse men children.

PillowOfSociety · 02/10/2018 20:53

That’s mad!

Who wants someone with a stomach bug preparing their food anyway?

PillowOfSociety · 02/10/2018 20:54

(But pasta with boiled veg sounds awful )

serbska · 02/10/2018 20:57

Does his cock get in the way of operating the hob?

Flashingbeacon · 02/10/2018 20:59

DH doesn’t like to cook for himself, so I’m at at work or sick and ds isn’t about he’ll have a fridge buffet. But it’s all on him and he’s never moaned about it.

Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 02/10/2018 20:59

Omg. I know your pain. I was pregnant and really wick, so I was sitting on the couch with a bucket and felt like death and he was looking at me expectantly to cook his dinner. I always cooked; I love cooking, it's my thing so that wasn't a problem. But I expected him to cook for himself when I was chucking my insides up. But no...
After a lot of huffing and puffing, he got up and decided to make the pasta bake with some chicken breast (because I could talk him through it). So I had to instruct him to boil the pasta, dice the chicken, fry the chicken, place it all in a dish and cover with the sauce I had made the day before. The behaviour he displayed whilst having to do this... I remember thinking "fuck me. I'm having a kid with this".

He was great at everything else. Housework and all. So when not sick, I could be happy with only having to cook.

AssassinatedBeauty · 02/10/2018 20:59

Why would he expect you to cook for him, if you're feeling ill and actually vomiting? Is he normally so vile?

Why the hell would he sit and sulk for 45 minutes rather than just cook it?

Holdingonbarely · 02/10/2018 21:00

@serbska
Hahaha made me laugh out loud.
He sounds like a cunt. End of. How can you live with someone like this.

If you lived with your friend/mum/dad etc. You would probably be very shocked at this behaviour. Perhaps apply that to your dh

diddl · 02/10/2018 21:01

" He proceeded to silent treatment me for 45 minutes"

Twat could have cooked & eaten in that time!

April2020mom · 02/10/2018 21:03

Ask politely if he wants to try cooking next time?

tillytrotter1 · 02/10/2018 21:04

Is your husband incapable of boiling a pan of water and and making a basic pasta sauce?

When I was ill I told OH to defrost a pack of bol sauce from the freezer, I batch cook bol sauce, and cook some pasta. Two and a half hours later, kitchen like the Somme, we had very cool bol sauce and barely cooked pasta on freezing dishes. Apparently I was ungrateful of his efforts!

AynRandTheObjectivist · 02/10/2018 21:04

What on earth?

Let him eat plain pasta. How on earth is that going to punish you?

harrietthehare · 02/10/2018 21:06

Aw you could have quickly just russled it up for him? I know you're not feeling great, but as he was looking forward to it, surely it's not too much to ask is it? I expect he does a lot for you.

I would have made the pasta dish for my husband, it's not a big ask

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 02/10/2018 21:06

Just remembered another gem from my ex, when I was off sick with a chest infection he came in while I was cooking dinner to ask ‘you’re not coughing all over the dinner are you?’

He was a fucking prince among men, that one.

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 02/10/2018 21:07

harrietthehare I hope to god you’re being sarcastic.

AssassinatedBeauty · 02/10/2018 21:07

"Aw you could have quickly just russled it up for him? I know you're not feeling great, but as he was looking forward to it, surely it's not too much to ask is it? I expect he does a lot for you.

I would have made the pasta dish for my husband, it's not a big ask"

You're being sarcastic, right? I mean, you're joking, surely....

NonaGrey · 02/10/2018 21:10

I know you're not feeling great, but as he was looking forward to it, surely it's not too much to ask is it?

Harriet please, please confirm that’s sarcasm, it can be so hard to tell.

Perhaps we need a Sarky Emoji...

AynRandTheObjectivist · 02/10/2018 21:11

I don't think it was sarcasm, but that's not to say we should take it at face value.

Rebecca36 · 02/10/2018 21:11

What a big baby! Could he not have done it for himself?
Hope you're feeling better btw.

TheyBuiltThePyramids · 02/10/2018 21:11

Boiled vegetables and pasta doesn't sound very nice whoever cooked it. I would tell him to piss off though. Is he like this often?

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 02/10/2018 21:13

Ask politely if he wants to try cooking next time?

Why politely? Grin

harrietthehare

Sarcasm, had to be. Right?

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