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Its just boiled vegetables

128 replies

milkytea · 02/10/2018 19:57

Earlier DH and I were discussing dinner. Were talking a simple pasta dish with vegetables. Had it all planned out but I got sick and said I don't really feel up to eating so I'm going to sit dinner out tonight. He then gets all pissed off and says "well fine then. We had it all planned out but I guess I'll just have plain pasta instead." He proceeded to silent treatment me for 45 minutes until I asked him wtf was wrong. He said "I was really looking forward to it and now I can't have it." I told him of course he can I just won't be making it as I keep being sick. He sulks and says " just forget it then, I won't bother."

AIBU? Or should he have just boiled the bloody vegetables himself if it was that big a fucking deal!

OP posts:
QueenOfMyWorld · 02/10/2018 21:13

What a prick

harrietthehare · 02/10/2018 21:14

I would have made my husband pasta. But that's me, I accept we are all different and many wouldn't.

AssassinatedBeauty · 02/10/2018 21:16

You'd cook for him whilst vomiting?

SleightOfMind · 02/10/2018 21:16

Come back OP!
My youngest DC have started school and I’m missing their imperious little demands.

Does his lip wibble if you cut his sammidges into big triangles instead of small squares?

PillowOfSociety · 02/10/2018 21:17

Harriet: she was regularly throwing up!

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 02/10/2018 21:18

I would have made my husband pasta. But that's me, I accept we are all different and many wouldn't

Why? If you felt ill, sick and can't eat yourself, why on earth would you prepare food for someone else?

Why can't your husband make it himself? Confused.

pallisers · 02/10/2018 21:18

I would have made my husband pasta. But that's me, I accept we are all different and many wouldn't.

I'd kind of hope most people wouldn't cook while vomiting.

Does his lip wibble if you cut his sammidges into big triangles instead of small squares?

that made me laugh.

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 02/10/2018 21:18

I would have made my husband pasta. But that's me, I accept we are all different and many wouldn't.

That’s terrible food hygiene, for a start! Someone with a sickness bug should absolutely not be cooking for someone else. Does your husband often expect you to cook for him between vomiting spells?

BigChocFrenzy · 02/10/2018 21:18

With 2 people, one healthy and one vommy,
how does anyone come to the conclusion that the vommy one should cook for the healthy one ? Confused

ButchyRestingFace · 02/10/2018 21:19

I would have made my husband pasta. But that's me, I accept we are all different and many wouldn't.

I agree.

Given that the OP is clearly married to a blind, quadruple amputee, cooking-through-the-puking would have been such a small ask and would have made the poor, poor man happy. Sad

PillowOfSociety · 02/10/2018 21:20

Rustled. It’s ‘rustled up’.

Oh, god, I’m being snotty, aren’t I?

But it is.

DreamsofJacaranda · 02/10/2018 21:24

I had a sickness bug the other week, felt lousy, so I told DH I wasn’t up to cooking lunch and wouldn’t be eating.

At about 5.00pm I asked him what he’d had for lunch.

Answer? Nothing! (complete with a sad face worthy of the Daily Mail)

He knows perfectly well how to cook, but couldn’t be arsed. He also hadn’t had any breakfast. Seems to have turned into a sulky toddler Sad

Topseyt · 02/10/2018 21:24

What an arse! He is clearly very self centered.

Sulking and giving silent treatment for 45 minutes because you are ill (really, how very dare you be ill) and couldn't cook diddums his dinner! In that time he could have either cooked it himself or got himself a takeaway.

He sounds pathetic.

GabsAlot · 02/10/2018 21:27

wtf youre ill cant he cope does he ever cook

and bore off harriet

LydiaLunch9 · 02/10/2018 21:27

I think I'm just going to start copy and pasting my responses to these threads, since so many mumsnetters seem to be in these shitty relationships apparently without realising how shitty they are.

You OH is a dick. This is not "normal" behaviour, nor is it acceptable or attractive. There are men out there who are not such dicks, you can do better. LTB. HTH.

vampirethriller · 02/10/2018 21:28

He's a knob. Unless he wants a sickness bug too?
(I had a boyfriend who, when I'd walked to and from hospital with suspected appendicitis, announced when I got home he hadn't been able to have a cup of tea because all the cups needed washing.)

number1wang · 02/10/2018 21:29

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AdoraBell · 02/10/2018 21:30

I could not put up with that childish behaviour. I hope you feel better PDQ milkytea. Does he have a brain? If so, he could use that to work out how to feed himself like an adult would.

Seniorschoolmum · 02/10/2018 21:31

vampirethriller Shock

Holdingonbarely · 02/10/2018 21:31

God I hope he gets your sick bug and you do sweet FA.
But you probably won’t, what with being a normal nice person

BitchQueen90 · 02/10/2018 21:32

@harrietthehare

Is a grown man not capable of making his own dinner?

FuckyDuzz · 02/10/2018 21:33

Pasta and boiled vegetables??

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 02/10/2018 21:34

Fucking hell what it is with some of these men?

IHaveBrilloHair · 02/10/2018 21:35

Tell us his good points.