To ask how to hide a topic

[LEMtheoriginal]

How can i hide a topic? I kniw how to hide threads but would like tohide a topic?

Thanks

It'd be interesting to find out why people leave Mumsnet. (Aside from being banned of course!)

I'll start hiding topics later after I've done the important work that I should be doing instead of typing this.

This was followed by a bit of preaching, a dollop of patronising and the faux innocent "we want to listen to alternative views guv, we really do"

Absolutely nothing 'faux innocent' about what I said. I wasn't trying to be innocent.

I have been on FWR for a while and have debated with people who disagree with me. I have still never seen single poster be able to give a workable non circular definition of 'woman', give a concrete non stereotyped basis upon which transwomen are actually women, or explain how 'gender identity' is in any way relevant in a world where women are oppressed solely on the basis of their biological sex, out of which they cannot 'identify'. I'm not patronising anyone, anyone who has the answers to these questions I would genuinely like to hear (not on this thread through!)

Like I said earlier, coming on to a thread and saying 'a woman is anyone who identifies as a woman, you are all transphobic, transwomen are women' just isn't good enough.

And I said repeatedly, whoever wants to hide the Feminism topic should absolutely be able to do it with no judgement.

another thread hijacked and made to be about Trans....

Yes, by people accusing FWR of being transphobic.

Thank you, OP for starting this! Have been trying to hide that topic for ages,but it never worked. Will have to try again.
I used to engage on the boards but if you don't "think the same" as all the rest, you get rounded on. I've lost track of the times I've been called a man or a TRA.

Thank you for this thread. I too have now hidden the feminism section.

it is a shame it is just being used to trans bash to the extent that I feel the need to do this as there are other feminist issues I would like to be alerted to. However I will now just dip in every now and then to see if there are any of those without the constant fill up on the active thread feed.

Hey Dione

I think I’m reading this thread differently to you.

LEM is a massive voice and I’ve pretty much agreed with everything I’ve seen from them on MN. I think / hope their question is answered.

I’m seeing anything from FWR here as a response to questions asked rather than a talk over, but I realise that’s my reading.

People are perfectly welcome to come onto FWR and put across coherent arguments as to why transwomen should be included in the definition of woman. They really are.

Maybe they're welcome, but only to be shouted down and called a bloke.

It'd be interesting to find out why people leave Mumsnet
People leave forums for many reasons.There is a board called flouncers corner though that might help.

I've found my people!! God love you AuntBeastie and others

Sorry you're feeling shit Lem

I come here for the camaraderie and as a place I can express myself and connect with others. Whether we agree, disagree, or come at things from completely different perspectives it makes me feel good to explore that. I'm having a massively challenging time too at the moment and am taking A LOT of prescription drugs but this place means a lot to me.

I'm going to hide FWR now too. And I've contributed a lot to discussion there in the past. I'm sure I will again in the future, but I don't need it in my face. It doesn't look like feminism to me. And the way the women there speak to those who disagree is nothing like any woman-centred feminism I've ever been a part of.

Feel better soon Lem, I remember you had a recent health worry; I hope that all panned out okay for you.

Only to find out why flouncers leave. I'd like to find out why normal non-overly dramatic people leave.

I just did it.... oh my god I feel so much better!

I owe this thread for prompting me.

There is a thread at the moment where MN have asked its users why they use the site - there are 850 posts on there and about 90% of those posts refer to the feminism boards as a reason they stay on MN.

But of course that doesn't mean that 90% of talk users are there for the feminism boards. Could be more to do with the fact the thread was flagged up in the feminism boards so a high number of feminism chat users commented?

Well you learn something new everyday!

Fantastic news, I'll be hiding feminism topic from now on and MN will become so much more enjoyable for me.

Thanks for the tips. Another ardent feminist here whos views do not correspond with FWR... so I am a hand maiden, and not a real feminist. Ah well.

I've had to hide it too, for exactly the same reasons that @AuntieBeast has so eloquently summed up. The constant and unrelenting current of transphobia is just out and out depressing, and the belligerence towards anyone who disagrees is exhausting.

@RatRolyPoly

An important part of self care is recognising when it’s not worth expending your energies because an atmosphere is too toxic or entrenched to be worth challenging. I find it incredibly hard to let it go when I see some of the anti-trans content on here, but I know that if I try to address it I won’t make a difference, and I’ll be inviting a lot of abuse. It’s so much healthier for me to hide the FWR topic and the threads that crop up elsewhere and use my energies in ways that I know can actually make a difference. I hope that others who share the same views as me remember that it’s ok to prioritise and to recognise when a toxic lost cause isn’t worth fighting for!

But of course that doesn't mean that 90% of talk users are there for the feminism boards. Could be more to do with the fact the thread was flagged up in the feminism boards so a high number of feminism chat users commented? and if the percentage of users is an indication of why something is so, it can surely also be said that “in AIBU there’s a thread asking how to hide a topic, and at least 90% of people posting there want to be able to hide the feminism boards, therefore the majority of users on this site agree that feminism should be hidden.”

That is true. But then again the traffic on FWR has apparently also gone up hugely in the last few months, I guess different people can make of that what they want.

And they will!

Lots of people are probably reading it disbelief! And it doesn't matter from a revenue perspective why people are staring at a page. They could be nodding in agreement, or tweeting their mates in disbelief. The number of clicks through is the same.

I hope you don't think of this as me hijacking op but your thread has given me just a thought.

Back in the day I appealed to mnhq to have a Liberal Feminism section. It was suggested I should start a thread initially but I never did it.

Looking at this thread there are a couple of us for whom feminism is very important but who can't interact productively on FWR; shall i (or anyone really) start a thread on chat for "feminist" discussion for those who don't visit FWR? It probably wouldn't meet the criteria for feminism in an FWR sense anyway, so why not just a general chat? I have so much I'd like to talk through

It might get trolled to fuck off course, but it might not?

Thank you for the flowers @AuntBeatie :)

Thank you so much for asking this and thank you to those who answered

I have hidden loads of topics and now my active list is much better. I now don't have to see those thread titles that include things that conjure up yucky images in my head. I'm not squeamish but some titles occasionally make me want to vomit.

It might get trolled to fuck off course, but it might not?

You're braver than I am Rat

*they are usually to do with a certain topic or two.

I have been on FWR for a while...
Then you will have seen the name calling, misgendering of long standing posters, accusations and recipe derailments designed to shut down anyone who doesn't agree with the FWR orthodoxy.

Then you will have seen the name calling, misgendering of long standing posters, accusations and recipe derailments designed to shut down anyone who doesn't agree with the FWR orthodoxy.

I have seen some shit like that, not long ago a thread was derailed with people talking about breakfast stuff, I don't know what was going on there but I reported it.

However, don't forget that it's not all happening in a vacuum either. TRAs are going on that forum, posting controversial things (eg. That all trans people should wear purple triangles) and the screenshotting them and posting them on Twitter as evidence of the transphobia on MN. Or starting a thread about a very specific subject and then taking screenshots completely out of context as 'evidence' of this or that.

Or PBPs coming on and being deliberately goady and promptly getting banned again.

FWR has always been a bit like it, because it has always subject to pretty bad trolling, so everyone is always a bit cautious.

I agree that sometimes it goes too far, and I've seen people being accused of being men or this and that with no real back up, when really all they are doing is disagreeing. I think that is wrong. But I don't think it takes from the purpose of the board, which is women talking about an issue that can't easily be discussed elsewhere.