To be grossed out

[Sparklfairy]

I feel really mean writing this thread so please give my head a wobble for me.

My friend has let me stay at his place (tiny studio) as I was suddenly made homeless. The situation is not ideal (cramped etc) but we get on really well and are making the best of it. He's provided a lot of emotional support and is helping me find housing.

However, he is on a very low income and is short every payday after bills are paid. I've 'lent' him around £500 in the last month or so (but may put part of that towards rent contribution) but I also pay for all food/shopping.

He used to call me up and sigh dramatically 'oh I wasn't going to eat today as I can't afford It'. But wow, when I buy food the man can seriously eat

Last night I bought us a kfc takeaway (think the bargain buckets for four people!!). I had 2 pieces of chicken and a handful of fries. The rest he ate then was laughing and are 3 share bags of Maltesers etc and those share pot things of like brownies or whatever.

It made me feel quite sick. I'm a foodie but that was pure greed and gluttony. It's making me not want to buy food as I won't get a look in anyway. I'm being a cf aren't I

It's not 'a treat' Parpulous it's about 5 weeks worth of food, I think two, maybe three takeaways now, plus electric and £500.

Have you looked at an Air B n B OP? Lots of people have suggested it, but you haven't responded to any of them, unless I've missed it.

Air B n B plus a storage unit for your stuff might be a better option for you.

I have stayed in air bnbs locally before when this all first started. I will look at it again.

With friends like you, who needs enemies eh?

If I had taken someone in and allowed them to share my very limited space, I would be incredibly hurt if they described me the way you did.

He's just stoned and has the munchies! But he does seem to think that you owe him for the favour.
When he says he's broke just reply with 'oh me too' and don't offer money or food. Buy very basic food to cook for one. He's clever so will realise after only a day that you're not sharing. Don't stock up the fridge as he will take it and you'll be angry.
You've paid your way for this month now so no guilt. Hes just chancing his arm don't let it make you move out if you're stuck for somewhere to live. Two people can use each other in different ways!

I think if you want to preserve this friendship you should probably move out ASAP. I get that you've paid him for your stay and paid for his food, but it's a tiny apartment and as you've said already he's given you emotional support and help when you needed it. You might be annoyed at his large appetite but I'm sure there's plenty of inconvenience you've caused your friend too.

If you live together any longer you're going to snipe at him and that would be a shame considering how good a friend he's been to you.

I think perhaps in the future you shouldn't give more than you're willing to part with. There's two cases now you've presented where you've given and then subsequently complained about - the £500 rent and the food. Don't bother being "generous" if you're just going to use it as ammunition against someone when they take up your offer!