To have been annoyed in the hairdressers?

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I had a hair appointment today. I turned up at 12 really looking forward to having my hair done and reading while my colour was put on. My hair takes 4 hours to do and I enjoy having a few coffees, reading and chatting to the hairdresser. I turned up and noticed the pram then the toddler running around while the hairdressers were trying their best to dodge her.

After being sat next to the parent I asked to be moved to another chair. The baby was 5 months old (mum repeated this numerous times), then there was the "Do you need your lunch, can you remove my gown otherwise he'll suffocate when I feed him and we don't want that do we?" "Oh look here's Sophie giraffe" then fucking Sophie giraffe was squeaked."My nipples must be elastic as you're just chewing on them." Then to the toddler "oh look at what that lady is having done, look over there that lady is having her hair washed, oh look that lady is having purple in her hair"

She was there 3 and a half hours. The above went on for the whole time mum was there then a hairdresser was asked to hold the baby while she had her hair rinsed.

I appreciate people need their hair done but FFS some of us want to relax and have our hair done in peace.

"If you don't get your hair cut for months or even a year or two, nothing terrible happens, you just have longer hair."

or you end up with an employer asking you why you cant look presentable

I am totally with you on this one OP.

I agree with the OP Salons are not a place for toddlers to be running around.

On my last visit to the salon there was a mum with her 4 to 5 year old little girl who was getting her hair cut for school. The little girl was impeccably behaved.

And the baby was very relaxed and got fed,

I cant see my hairdresser letting toddlers run around,

Wow is this all you got to complain about in life OP?

In my childhood, Mums had little choice about taking kids to the hairdressers, as Dads did not get involved with childcare. I recall listening to adults talking about the assassination of JFK in the local salon near our primary school. My mother had three kids with her, I was the only one of school age.

@CloudCaptain How does one book a child-free appointment? :S

Wow is this all you got to complain about in life OP?

No, she also has supercilious twats to complain about too. As do we all.

Appalled at the entitlement of both her and many posters on this thread Your children are adorable to you and you alone. If you don't have childcare on a Saturday morning then get a mobile hairdresser or go without.

1. Having your hair treated for 3.5hrs is not essential and if you can afford that you can afford a sitter.

1. No your toddler isn't cute, when they are bored they are irritating to pretty much everyone else who isn't you.

1. The argument "oh you must think children shouldn't be seen in public" is ridiculous. Of course they should be in public..but not in an adults only environment.

It is neither safe nor appropriate for the poor kids to be stuck in a hairdressers whilst dearest mummy gets a 3.5hr treatment. It's selfish on both the children, the staff and other customers.

I have a salon and am regularly appalled by some of our customers kids.
Yesterday the mother sat passively while toddler put hands all over the newly cleaned window, shook the wires holding the window poster , shoved the expensive flower display on the coffee table. We have a book case full if kids books, but the parents sit on ohobes and ignore.
They often like to pump up the spare chairs and spin them round.
Can I ask honestly what I can say without offending the parents?
I try glaring at child, or occasionally ask them to stop if it gets really bad.
Its not that easy though as we don’t want to offend customers who are paying,
This thread has given me confidence to challenge more.
It gives me the rage . It’s incredible watching the parents ignoring it.

On phones *

I'd tell them Valerie

These entitled types would also quite often be right there to complain if their dc was burnt by a straightener or they tripped on a wire or hurt themselves.

I'd fake that you've had an incident and ban em all.

@Valerievalerie they sound awful. They are expecting a baby sitting service. Sadly, I have seen many like this - worst was in a hospital waiting room where a mother allowed her kids to have their keys to play with and didn't intervene when the child started using them to scratch the windows!

To avoid causing offence I would set a blanket policy in which children are very welcome for appointments for their own hair but reluctantly you cannot allow children to accompany long adult appointments. Maybe even make something up - a child was unsupervised by their parent and they broke something expensive and as a result you can make no exceptions. That way you are not insulting that parent specifically, as it's an overall rule for all parents.

Also say that you are sorry for the inconvenience this may cause but children's safety is of paramount importance to you

As someone who used to work in a hair salon - we absolutely HATED it when people brought in their children. We are using chemicals, sharp objects and electricals with heat!!! We had to stop and start because parents had to attend to their children and we have appointment times to keep.

I've worked in lots of salons and I don't think it's absurd or unreasonable to ask that your appointments don't clash with anyone bringing children in. Most would just make a note on your file and try to accommodate your request. People request all sorts in salons, special drinks, certain appointment times, particular chairs, never being booked when the woman who ran off with the ex is booked in, whatever, it's all fine as long as we know what you like so we can make your appointment enjoyable for you.
We don't like kids coming in either but appreciate that not all parents have childcare and sometimes it can't be avoided. It's a shame about your appointment and understandable you'd be annoyed but just speak up and a good salon will do their best for you.

@Shitonthebloodything I had no idea people would make any requests like any of those beyond particular times or chairs! I'm such a people pleaser, it wouldn't occur to me!

Op I agree with you. I don't even like going to the hairdressers myself, but I would definitely hate kids running around etc.
My hair also takes forever to do, very long and very thick. I have a mobile hairdresser who comes to do mine, it takes at least 3 hours for balyage, top colour and cut and she doesnt dry my hair.
I also have a 9 year who absolutely hates getting his hair cut due to a large scar all across his head. I only bring him on a quiet day to get his cut because i dont want to put others through the ordeal of listening to him. He unfortunately inherited my thick, fast growing hair!

My hairdresser wouldn't allow someone to bring their young children into the salon while they had their hair done without someone else there to look after them.

She is very much into making the whole experience a good one and understands that for most women it's a way of treating themselves and a time to relax. Thankfully.

Nope, YANBU.

I'm not a massive fan of the hairdressers but surely this is why mobile hairdressers exist?

I remember going to my mum's appointments with her, but I was 8+ and capable of sitting and reading or playing on my Gameboy while she had her appointment. I also remember loving getting a hot chocolate and a biscuit while I waited!

My hairdresser would have told her to GTF. Completely out of order. DD age 7 came with me for the first time recently as I didn't have anyone to watch her, and she is now old enough to sit quietly with iPad and not get in the way, I would never have brought a pre-school child let alone 2!

How can people not understand 4 hours? Average time for head of foils, toner etc on long hair.

I feel sorry for her too, perhaps she doesn't have a support network or anyone to look after them. What are people supposed to do in that situation

Mobile hairdresser. Or a quick trim in the salon and a home dye!

^or you end up with an employer asking you why you cant look presentable*

Don’t be melodramatic. No employer ever would query a nice neat French plait, or a bun or similar groomed hair style.

I love my salon, but was intensely grateful that the performance parent in there was leaving as I was entering last time I had my hair coloured. I cannot understand the mind machinations of people who want me to observe their awesomeness. Fuck off with Freddie and his amazing cheeky attitude, I just want a cuppa and my hair to be lilacised in peace.

For the most part it’s wonderfully quiet when I go. If I have a child with me it’s because the child is having a haircut, not me. Thankfully the eldest goes on her own now, but as she has to go after school she has to suffer the pretentious set. Perils of a decent salon in a gentrified area though. We stick with it because I like my stylist and my daughter doesn’t trust anyone else but her stylist to do her hair.

You don't just go to get your hair cut. You go for the ambience. Having someone else's kids running around and being disruptive is annoying at the very least. Young kids shouldn't be able to run around in a salon as there'll hot tools and dangerous chemicals around. If you can't get a sitter then book a mobile hairdresser. Having young children doesn't give you a free pass to be a self centred arse.

I would complain to the salon owner and start looking for another salon with an active no young children policy.