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To have been annoyed in the hairdressers?

235 replies

LargeGlassOfPepsi · 29/09/2018 19:59

I had a hair appointment today. I turned up at 12 really looking forward to having my hair done and reading while my colour was put on. My hair takes 4 hours to do and I enjoy having a few coffees, reading and chatting to the hairdresser. I turned up and noticed the pram then the toddler running around while the hairdressers were trying their best to dodge her.

After being sat next to the parent I asked to be moved to another chair. The baby was 5 months old (mum repeated this numerous times), then there was the "Do you need your lunch, can you remove my gown otherwise he'll suffocate when I feed him and we don't want that do we?" "Oh look here's Sophie giraffe" then fucking Sophie giraffe was squeaked."My nipples must be elastic as you're just chewing on them." Then to the toddler "oh look at what that lady is having done, look over there that lady is having her hair washed, oh look that lady is having purple in her hair"

She was there 3 and a half hours. The above went on for the whole time mum was there then a hairdresser was asked to hold the baby while she had her hair rinsed.

I appreciate people need their hair done but FFS some of us want to relax and have our hair done in peace.

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Helipad · 01/10/2018 16:37

YANBU - Similar thing happened to me few years ago too. Mine was only a cut and blow dry but next to me sat a woman who had her hair high lighted and had a toddler with her. She wasn’t paying any attention to her child, just went on to chattering to her hair dresser. The said child kept leaning on my chair and staring at me which was really annoying. I want to read my mag in peace, not to be someone else’s childminder.

Eventually the child got bored, then she found those long, spiky end combs and started to jab them into a plug sockets. At that point I opened my mouth and pointed it out to her mother. She dismissed it all, apparently it was ok as the sockets were switched off Shock and carried on her inane chat.

I just don’t understand people. When mine were smaller, I never brought them into the salon. It wasn’t always easy, no family to help etc but it was out of question to take them along.

Takingshape12 · 01/10/2018 16:42

More child friendly salons are needed. That's the issue. Mothers need a hair cut too! I personally wouldn't take my kids to a normal salon but I'm lucky we have an awesome child friendly salon in my town with a kids play area. Every town needs one!

LeftRightCentre · 01/10/2018 16:49

More child friendly salons are needed. That's the issue

Why? There's no issue. Business responds for demand and obviously demand isn't there for hair salons that also serve as a creche. It's not a play park. The world does not revolve round one's kids.

ToftyAC · 01/10/2018 16:57

I would have been severely pissed off with 4 hours of that crap. If I wanted all that, I’d have stayed at home!

Takingshape12 · 01/10/2018 17:20

Clearly it is though as there's so many people moaning about kids in salons when they're trying to relax! Many mum's would love a place like that. I'm sharing a story of a great business in my area. It's a great business model. Women can have their hair done without having to Palm their kids off on someone. People who don't want to be surrounded by kids don't go there. It's wonderful to have that choice.

And for the record I agree with the OP. If I was at a "normal" salon for a relaxing afternoon it would pee me off too.

Mushroomsarehorrible · 01/10/2018 17:23

YANBU

As a side, I get a headache if I have to be in a salon for more than an hour due to the dye chemical fumes. It cannot be healthy for a baby to injest said fumes.

GallicosCats · 01/10/2018 17:23

The hairdressers I go to are in a leisure centre with a creche on site. I think this is probably a better option.

Banana770 · 01/10/2018 17:30

YANBU - I’ve taken my baby to the hairdressers at a time when I knew they’d be fed and would sleep but would never take my toddler. If I had to I’d go armed with snacks and a Peppa marathon on the iPad!

Mummyof0ne · 01/10/2018 17:33

It probably annoyed the mum more having to bring the children!!
I’m sure she would have preferred to have her hair done in peace but didn’t have the luxury of childcare

Deltaquinn · 01/10/2018 17:38

You sound like a proper pain in the arse, OP. Get over yourself. I'm sure it wasn't her intention to go in there and ruin your special "me time".

pollymere · 01/10/2018 18:05

My hairdressers do late evening appointments, with wine if you want it. They stay open until ten on those days so it's very much an adult environment. Would recommend it if you have long appointments where you want to feel pampered. My hair only takes half an hour!

Iseveryusernametaken · 01/10/2018 20:24

I was a lone parent for a while and had to take my daughter with me. She could be an absolute horror, so would wash my hair at home, arrive dead on the appointment time and just have a wet cut with no styling. There's no way I'd have inflicted a long appointment on anyone, me included.

SerenDippitty · 01/10/2018 20:33

*More child friendly salons are needed. That's the issue

Why? There's no issue. Business responds for demand and obviously demand isn't there for hair salons that also serve as a creche. It's not a play park. The world does not revolve round one's kids.*

Couldn’t agree more. There should be no obligation on any sort of business to make themselves child friendly unless they want to.

MoonageDaydreamz · 01/10/2018 20:40

Haven't rtft. But isn't this what mobile hairdressers are for?

I have a baby and a 3 Yr old too, used a mobile hairdresser for the first time, she was great. Think gone are the days where they only do blue rinses etc, I think they are hairdressers that want to make more money by being self employed.

Takingshape12 · 01/10/2018 20:50

I did not suggest there was an obligation! Jeez!

All I said was it is something that works and is an excellent idea for salons who want to cater for people with kids. I didn't say they fucking have to.

Purplerain1985 · 01/10/2018 20:53

I have kids but ‘not that I get that luxury’ would take my 5 year old son to a salon for hours!.you can’t expect all little ones to sit in silence,I’d cringe if mine were running riot like that.BlushShock

nannykatherine · 01/10/2018 21:30

sigh
go live on the moon if you dont want real
people in your perfect you only world

SalemBlackCat · 01/10/2018 21:38

Lol Valerievalerie oh how amusing your posts are.

@wink1970 No, definitely not jet black. Did you miss the part where I said I get compliments all the time on my hair and asked if I got it done at so and so salon? Even my hairdresser admits the colour looks natural and gorgeous. See, that is what I mean. Ignorant people who think because it comes out of a box (as opposed to being repackaged for hairdressers - same product) then it somehow must be 'inferior'. Oh you fools. Hmm

FlamingoLass · 01/10/2018 23:16

There is nothing 'budget' about it, when the dye is almost the same product as what the hairdresser's use (yes, a friend once worked in distribution/sales of the products), just less faffing around doing massages and whatever else to justify keeping you there for 4 hours for a one hour job and getting a sore bum/DVT. It is the same product. You are paying 5 times the price and paying to get a sore/stiff bum from sitting for so long.

Omfg 🤣

You do know hairdressers don’t just stick a random colour on like you would choose in Boots ? Yes it is the same product - to an extent! The strength of the product is often too strong in an over the counter product, causing damage. A hairdresser will choose a shade that works and mixes with the clients colour hair colour, at a suitable strength causing as little damage as possible:

You’re paying someone to do it for you. You’re paying for their rent, electricity, equipment and insurance. I suppose you are the type to think you do a better job than a trained professional with your box of nice and easy? 😂

Strongmummy · 01/10/2018 23:22

Since when do you relax in a hair salon?! There’s the constant noise from the hair dryers, the shit chart music and the hair dresser trying to make small talk. The only relaxing bit is the head massage during the wash. If it were a massage or facial I’d get your gripe, but not a hair cut and colour. The process is a means to an end. I’m surprised the salon allowed her to have a baby and toddler so you should direct your annoyance at them, but to be honest I would have just ignored

pinktissuepaper · 01/10/2018 23:33

@Strongmummy are you kidding? I find my hair salon gloriously relaxing. No kids, no work, having someone pamper and feed me hot drinks for three hours? Heaven. I'd be disappointed if that time was disrupted by a screeching toddler and I always make sure my appointments are either when the kids are at school or being looked after.

Zippetydoodahzippetyay · 02/10/2018 00:07

That definitely would have annoyed me. My children are 3.5 and 1.5 and I would never consider taking them to the salon with me. Which is why I only go 4 times a year. We haven't got any family around and my husband works long hours so those 4 hours 4 times a year are some of my only child free time. I understand the importance of mum's taking care of themselves, but we do need to be conscious of other people too.

HelenaDove · 02/10/2018 00:08

My hairdresser uses an item called Olaplex (not on me because i never use hairdryers or straighteners at home My hair is in great condition and undamaged. Her words)

But i wasnt aware you could buy it over the counter!!

HelenaDove · 02/10/2018 00:11

YY Flamingo. i have brunette hair but with slight red tones The salon color is mixed to suit and really brings it out plus the shine.

Underappreciatedtococreator · 02/10/2018 01:47

God op your the one who is entitled. Have you ever stopped to think maybe this was a single mom who for the first time in 5 months has been able to treat herself. Possibly for a special occasion. Maybe she was giving a blow by blow because it’s the first time she’s had any adult conversation in 5 months and has forgotten how to do so. Maybe her babysitter let her down and she had no choice but to take kids with her. You don’t know what happened but are so quick to judge. People like you are disgusting and should learn that this poor woman is a person as well.