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To have been annoyed in the hairdressers?

235 replies

LargeGlassOfPepsi · 29/09/2018 19:59

I had a hair appointment today. I turned up at 12 really looking forward to having my hair done and reading while my colour was put on. My hair takes 4 hours to do and I enjoy having a few coffees, reading and chatting to the hairdresser. I turned up and noticed the pram then the toddler running around while the hairdressers were trying their best to dodge her.

After being sat next to the parent I asked to be moved to another chair. The baby was 5 months old (mum repeated this numerous times), then there was the "Do you need your lunch, can you remove my gown otherwise he'll suffocate when I feed him and we don't want that do we?" "Oh look here's Sophie giraffe" then fucking Sophie giraffe was squeaked."My nipples must be elastic as you're just chewing on them." Then to the toddler "oh look at what that lady is having done, look over there that lady is having her hair washed, oh look that lady is having purple in her hair"

She was there 3 and a half hours. The above went on for the whole time mum was there then a hairdresser was asked to hold the baby while she had her hair rinsed.

I appreciate people need their hair done but FFS some of us want to relax and have our hair done in peace.

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LeftRightCentre · 29/09/2018 21:08

The cheek of some people is astonishing. I just laughed and said, 'No can do! Those days are long in my past.'

PyongyangKipperbang · 29/09/2018 21:10

Nobody would plan to take such young kids to such a long hair appointment.

Wrong.

My friends had a "sad face" done about her salon when she was forced to ban children who were not getting their hair cut. This was due to the behaviour of a particular woman and her kids. She let them run riot and fully expected the staff to look after them, she flatly refused to get a sitter when asked to do so for future appointments. She could but wouldnt.

Can you guess who was the subject of the sad face photo, complete with "adorable and well behaved" children....?

Thehop · 29/09/2018 21:14

It would annoy me, but I get She May have no choice.

I only go to the hairdressers once a year purely because I can’t get childcare more often.

Thesnobbymiddleclassone · 29/09/2018 21:17

If you can't control your children then you shouldn't be taking them to place like salons!

You are more than justified to be annoyed and I don't know how you didn't say anything!! I'd have complained to staff in front of her and asked her to control her child.

HundredsAndThousandsOfThem · 29/09/2018 21:19

I can't see how she could have no choice. Surely if you literally have no one to babysit you just get a quick haircut not go for a long appointment.

AliceRR · 29/09/2018 21:21

I understand why you were annoyed OP. I look forward to relaxing at the hairdressers and some people are oblivious to other people. She should have got someone to look after the child or got her hair done at home or simply been a bit quieter and more considerate IMO.

chutneysandwich · 29/09/2018 21:21

I used to take my baby (breastfed) and then young child to the hairdressers with me as we don't have any family and no one to help with childcare. Also couldn't just get childcare for one offs every so often when I needed hair done. It was either take child or never get hair done. I suffered with PND also and getting my hair done was a small personal boost. However, my child (luckily) was always very good and didn't cause a fuss. It's sometimes just not possible to do it any other way

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/09/2018 21:22

I'm surprised the hairdresser allowed this, totally not on. If you have no childcare get a mobile hairdresser! Don't ruin everyone else's appointment!

Brummiegirl15 · 29/09/2018 21:25

So @rainycloudyday

Even though I ever only went to the very first appt of the week, 10am on a Tuesday morning, when it was their quietest time, with a young breastfed baby who I just fed whenever she needed it so it was the minimal disruption to the staff and customers

I am STILL considered selfish?? Why not just come out and say as a mother I shouldn't leave the house? As you make it very clear you think that

PlinkPlink · 29/09/2018 21:26

Isn't this a health and safety issue for salons?

Seriously. Hair straighteners, chemicals, hot water... add a mad toddler into the mix and you've got a recipe for chaos right there. Possibly even a lawsuit.

I had my hair done earlier this year. I did not take my son. I would not want to be stressed looking after him whilst I had scissors near my ears or eyes. Nor would I want to inflict that on other patrons.

Having said that, maybe she is on her own. Maybe there is no one else to help her whilst she gets her barnet chopped.

Doesn't stop it being fucking annoying though. YANBU to be annoyed. I go to the salon for a relaxing pampering too. Not to be surrounded by a fucking creche.

amicissimma · 29/09/2018 21:26

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Dilligaf81 · 29/09/2018 21:26

No one is saying she should have shit hair but a toddler running about a salon is dangerous and very inconsiderate. She could get a hair dresser to come to her home. The toddler can then have access to their toys and know the home is save.

StoneofDestiny · 29/09/2018 21:27

Nobody would plan to take such young kids to such a long hair appointment
Not true - seen pantomime behaviour like this when accompanied by more than one adult i.e. mother or friend there too. Seen it in cafe's were kids run around other diners tables playing 'chase' and where servers and other customers dodge kids while carrying hot coffees etc - meanwhile parent chats to pals.
Some parents are just oblivious to the fact that their kids need their supervision so as not to be a nuisance or danger to themselves and others.

Iwanttobeanonymous · 29/09/2018 21:36

If Im being annoyed by free roaming toddlers in such situations I usually find telling them loudly to bugger off has the desired effect. The mother clutches her pearls and whisks them away from the terrible sweary lady.
Result!!

RibbonAurora · 29/09/2018 21:43

To the ones that say it's a public place so expect children - give it a bloody rest. There are public places which are child-friendly, safe and welcoming and public places that most definitely aren't. A busy salon with all that implies - chemicals, hot irons, scissors, razors and who knows what other hazards all over the place - and employees who are NOT trained childminders is NOT a suitable environment for a child.

And it's fucking appalling parenting to allow a toddler to run around in a salon unsupervised, except in the most perfunctory manner by those whose job description does not, I'm certain include 'babysitting' for 3.5 minutes let alone 3.5 hours! YADNBU OP.

AntiHop · 29/09/2018 21:49

Yabu. I have never come across the idea that a hair appointment is a time to relax. It's just a task that needs to be done like going to the pharmacy to pick up a prescription.

Dp and I have taken 4 year old dd to the hair dresser with us multiple times. Dp's hair dresser even commended him for doing that as it gets her used to the process of having a hair cut.

notangelinajolie · 29/09/2018 21:51

I'd say it was bad luck that you just happened to be there at the wrong time on the wrong day.

However, relax and peace are NOT words I would associate with going to the hairdressers. Going to the hairdressers is definitely not relaxing. Hair dryers, talking, bad booming music, more hair dryers, voices getting louder over hairdryer noise, news channel on TV, phone ringing, shouting over hair dryer, more bad music noise, noise and more noise ...

How on earth would anyone find that relaxing?

But yes - add baby and annoying children into the mix and I can see how that could tip anyone over the edge.

YANBU for that.

But hairdressers ever being a place of relaxation ... never. Definitely YABVVU on that count.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 29/09/2018 21:52

I have never come across the idea that a hair appointment is a time to relax. It's just a task that needs to be done like going to the pharmacy to pick up a prescription

It absolutely isn't. Women's hairdressing is a huge business where any decent one strives to make the whole experience enjoyable.

ElioElioElio · 29/09/2018 21:55

I've got short hair and I've had 3+ hour appointments, so I can well believe someone with long thick hair has 4 hour appointments.

Barbie222 · 29/09/2018 21:57

I just had long hair in a ponytail and very quick infrequent haircuts in those queue up places for years, and one good thing that came of all that is that I now don't feel the need to have long expensive hair appointments ever again. With children running amok I always feel a bit of relief tbh when it's someone else's child and not my concern, I can tune it out and sort of enjoy that it's not my problem.

SalemBlackCat · 29/09/2018 21:58

Agree with AntiHop and notangelinajolie. I've never heard anyone say that going to a hairdresser is relaxing. It's a pain in the arse. Hairdressers are noisy places with hairdressers either wanting to make small talk (which I find stressful) so you can't relax, or the hairdresser is interrupted with calls, customers coming in, etc. My idea of hell. A Doctor surgery waiting is more relaxing. I can relax at home with dye in my hair, play a game on the computer with a glass of wine. In my own peaceful space, without a hairdresser constantly wanting to make small talk. Salons are my idea of a semi hell.

sprinklesandsauce · 29/09/2018 21:59

YANBU, a hair salon is no place for either a baby or a toddler. Definitely a health and safety issue and the salon should have asked her not to do it again. Sure they may lose her custom but better that than to lose everyone else’s.

Nobody here knows that she didn’t have support , she may be one who is so entitled she thinks they can go everywhere with her and that they can run around to “express themselves.”

I always made appointments for Saturdays when XH was home. After he left I made them for when he had DC. You just can’t supervise a manic toddler while you’re having your hair done.

SalemBlackCat · 29/09/2018 22:00

Oh and bad booming music, tell me about it! I was thinking of getting a hair trim at a salon at a mall and the music in the salon itself was so loud, I instantly changed my mind. I would have gotten a migraine. Luckily the local salons I've encountered don't have loud music playing, maybe a radio in the background.

stressedtiredbuthappy · 29/09/2018 22:05

No way, I don't think toddlers should be allowed in a hairdressers if they're not having their hair cut. For one thing it's not safe to be running about and it's not fair to the staff or customers.
And I'm saying this as a mother of a 2.6 yo dd who hasn't been in a salon chair since I was pregnant.

dontbesillyhenry · 29/09/2018 22:06

How does someone saying they don't think a baby should be in a salon equate to thinking you shouldn't leave the house brummiegirl?

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