To be mortified I just shouted 'fuck off you cunt' at my boss.

[itchybumhole]

Bad day, terrible even. Was in a foul mood walking home from work. Crossing road at a T junction with my head down and a car beeped at me as it turned in to the minor road.
Assuming it was an impatient driver who honked at me to get out of the way, I looked up and shouted at the top of my voice 'FUCK OFF YOU CUNT!'
As the last word left my mouth I realised it was my boss and he was pipping his horn and waving to say hello. His window was down so I've no doubt he heard what I said.
We both looked at each other in horror as he drove off.
Shit, shit, shit.
It'll be ok, right?

Am I the only one that thinks it disgusting to shout that at someone, whatever they did!
Not in the slightest. I'd be mortified if that came out of my mouth to a complete stranger!

Shouting FUCK OFF YOU CUNT at the top of your voice at the most minor instigation. Really?? Don’t think that’s appropriate for anyone over about 18, really immature. Bet your boss isn’t impressed.

Brazen it out when you see him.

There's an episode of Seinfeld where fiery George quits his job in no uncertain terms, saying awful things to his boss.

After he has cooled-off at home, he realises he cannot afford to lose that job.

So Jerry advises him to just go back to work and never refer to the incident in any way, shape or form. Just brazen it out.

Maybe your boss will think HE imagined the whole thing and put it down to some stress of his own

tell him that youre really sorry, but you thought it was your mum

I don't think the earbuds idea would work, because of you shouting right at him such extreme words.

I would be mortified also, and I do think it shows how much you are struggling with whatever has been going on in your life toake you react this way. No its not OK to be beeped at by a man as a women walking along/crossing. I had wanted to hurl abuse at abusive people but it never achieves anything does it? You can end up in big shit, road rage incidents and so on.

I also don't like using negative female insults, it really doesn't help the rest of us women shed these feminized insults. That being pretty much one of the most hard hitting to many.

I don't know, its hard to tell, how close he was to you as you stepped off the kerb, but it was a polite way of saying 'look the fuck out' that could well be his perception.

It could be a case of so many things that we can conjecture about and still be totally wrong. Speak to him, show some humility about your extreme reaction, but ask him why he beeped...he may have been scared you hadn't seen if he saw your head down at that point he beeped, as this is what I get from your post.

He was smiling and jovial you were screaming extreme insults, speak to him about it, whatever either thinks it comes across as the decent and amiable thing to do. His being your boss shouldn't have any sway, or its sounding a bit oppressed

Clearly people fall in to two separate camps. Those of us who think 'cunt' is a great word and use it whenever the opportunity presents itself.
And those who find it deeply offensive and an insulting to their vagina.

Maybe it's a regional thing?

And the person that said I was 'common'. My poshest friends are the ones 'cunt'ing and 'motherfuck'ing all over the shop. The upper classes aren't offended by a naughty word for a chuff.

Shouting FUCK OFF YOU CUNT at the top of your voice at the most minor instigation. Really?? Don’t think that’s appropriate for anyone over about 18, really immature. Bet your boss isn’t impressed.

^This. OP has issues

If I were you op I wouldn't do anything, just wait until you see your boss at work and then have a quiet word. Just say you're so sorry about what happened, you'd had a really bad day and obviously had no idea it was him beeping at you.

I do think it's a bit OTT that you yelled fuck off you cunt without knowing why someone was beeping at you, but hey. It's done now. Lesson learned for the future

Swearing like that in public used to be breach of the peace and would earn you a £25 fine and a police record in the 80s.

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Oh OP 🙈

I know you had a terrible day but I really think shouting that at anyone was a bad move

How is this any thign to do with some sort of class perception?!?! I am so sick of hearing 'types' being made of people, the never-ending classes divide...still exists???!! What does it have to do with this and why would it matter, what perceived 'type of person' uses language that is widely received as offensive, and it is widely received as very offensive otherwise OP would not be 'mortified' at having used it.
I have heard offensive ways of speaking from so many different walks of life; that people still use expressions like 'common' from any side; its all very negative.

If your boss had thought it was funny he would have laughed when he realised it was you. I'd be really worried about going into work if I was you. Even if he can't do anything because it happened out of work your card is now marked.

It’s funny to see the posters having a go at the op for her unbecoming behaviour, for letting herself down, not being decent etc, do so enjoy kicking a mortified woman when she’s down.

It never occurs to them how this comes across though, does it.

It could have been someone with small kids in the car, it could have been your next boss who recognises you at interview, it could have been your child's teacher, it could have been a person having an even worse day than you, a hearse....

All good reasons to get out of the habit of screaming abuse in public before you know who you are screaming at.

Thanks Helmet. I couldn't agree more. There's a lot of people who enjoy nothing more than sticking the knife in on Mumsnet.
It doesn't matter what you post about, there's always some cunt coming along to tell you off and make you out to be the scum of the Earth.

And I'm not 'in the habit' ffs. I just found out a close family member is terminal in their cancer diagnosis about an hour beforehand.

We'll, you clearly are in the habit of it since you just called everyone who disagreed with your choice of language a cunt.

On the whole, you just don't come across as very pleasant. Barking out language like that really isn't OK. It's just not.

Fifty, can't you see I was deliberately being provocative? 🤦🏼‍♀️

I came here to share my embarrassing tale and get some reassurance that I wouldn't be sacked come Monday morning.

Should have known I was just in for a bollocking though. Now I've had my telling off I feel so much better. Cheers.

Did u not read the second post? Family member terminal! Where's your empathy

For you itchy

Gosh, TheOnly.

Your boss sounds like a right cunt.

Because he wouldn't be amused at having abuse yelled at him in the street, Professor Moody? Good grief: where on earth do you work where this is considered so normal as to be hilarious?

I really don't get it. I just don't. I feel like I live in a parallel universe - one where a person yelling abuse at people in the street on absolutely minimal provocation (and everyone else saying, "yeah, it'll be fine, everyone does it, it's hilarious, of course your boss will be absolutely fine with being told to fuck off, you cunt") is normal. Well, if that's what normal is, I'm just very, very happy to not be so.

Oh fucking hell @itchybumhole sorry about your family member.

My guess is that 1. Your boss won't mention it and it will forever be the elephant in the room. Or 2. It will be known as 'cuntgate' and merrily discusses at Christmas parties for years to come.

Good grief: where on earth do you work where this is considered so normal as to be hilarious

Part time primary school teacher, part time academic Everyone is very sweary.

I stated that I was having the worst day imaginable and that I was close to tears. I said I'm mortified about the whole thing. Yes, I'm worried about what will happen on Monday morning.

No one here has said shouting verbal abuse in the street is ok. No one.

They're just doing the kind thing and telling me not to worry, it'll be fine, it's actually quite funny if you try not to think too hard about what could be the ramifications. Thank you to these people.

Then there are the people who just want to stick the boot in and make me feel even worse than I already do. I know this is mumsnet and some people revel in making others feel terrible, but come on! Cut a person a bit of slack, can you?!

But it's not funny.

However, that doesn't matter. You wanted to know if there could be ramifications at work and that's been answered. If you were clearly identifiable as an employee to the public (an obvious uniform) then you could actually be in trouble. If not, then your job is safe but you may have marked your card on a personal level.

So the moral of this story is to control your verbally abusive outbursts in public. Even if you're having the worst day imaginable.