taratill - afore ye go to the SEN Boards - the general baseline for an LEA to consider SS education is 2 permanent exclusions.
This is a hard concept for a parent to get their head around because instinctively parents want to keep their child included - I know, because it is a state of mind I have inhabited.
After the first permanent exclusion, which I fought and lost, no school for months, the PRU and then PT placement, where despite very supportive Teachers, TAs and Senco - the HT would exclude; I withdrew DS (age 7) and HS.
Visited by LEA to check and all ok - looking back I did produce a pretty good curriculum for ds, but really HS wasn't something I wanted to do, I felt his 'socialization' was being compromised.
Diagnosis - ASD - after 18months of Assessment.
New County - 2 years later - No School, then a bad placement which led to the inevitable exclusion. PRU.
I remember I was in the bath (relaxing) when the LEA called to ask if I wanted DS's exclusion struck from his records. I was very happy to say No. He had achieved 2 Permanent Exclusions!! A very strange circumstance to be pleased about. DS aged nearly 9.
Then in he went to an Indie SS as a Day Boy and after a few years I pulled the plug on that and we returned to nearly where we left from. No School, then PRU then mainstream Free Academy.
This year DS passed enough GCSEs and is now at College studying a Level 3 Btec.
Just trying to give hope to taratill and others.