to go anyway

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It has always been my dream to visit america however i have never actually got round to it, a few months ago I booked for my bf and I to go to florida for a fortnight next year, the total cost of the holiday was just under 4 thousand including park tickets etc and the hotel is right at the entrance of universal which made it a little more expensive but the company i booked with lets you pay up in monthly direct debit so that made it affordable

last week i found out i'm pregnant and due 2 months before I go, when I told my mum I jokingly said "there goes Florida" and she said she would look after the baby to let us go

so, do I go or not?

Are you planning on breastfeeding? How involved will your DM be with your baby in the first few weeks?

Personally there would be no way that I would want to leave my 2 month old baby with my mum - the trip would be a waste as I'd have hated every second.

It would have also screwed up breastfeeding. I'd have been more tempted to take the baby with me.

Not sure if the way I felt is universal though.

You want to leave a possible 6-8week old for two weeks while you go on holiday?

I’m not glued to my kids but no way could I do this.

Change the holiday dates.

No way! There is no way on earth I would leave my baby at that age, you would miss so much bonding time

I’m massively relaxed about shit like this but;

No feckin way I’d leave a tiny baby to go off to Florida for a fortnight.

I mean apart from anything else (hormones all over the shop, you might have had a c-sec, you might have PND) you’re going to have to commit to bottle feeding.

Sorry OP!

Take the baby with you?

I think it’s pretty unlikely you’ll want to leave your baby for 2 weeks at 2 months old.. as hundredsandthousands said above I’d have been more tempted to take the baby with me. Could your mum go with you to help out?

No - I don’t think you should leave an 8 week old baby with your mum so that you can go on a two week holiday to Florida. Change the holiday dates or take the baby with you.

No way could I leave a 6/8 week old baby for a fortnight.

What if you end up having a c-section?

Take the baby- they are v portable until they start moving...

Why would Florida be more important that bonding time with your newborn? In the nicest possible way, you really need to sort your priorities out before you have this baby. This is the start of your needs coming second to someone/something else. Your mum was right, there goes Florida - unless you organise to take the baby with you.

Facilities for kids in the parks are fab too. We took our under 12m child and wouldn’t hesitate to do it again.

Absolutely no way on Earth I would have left any of mine at that age for 2 weeks.

Hang on, what about your other DC?!

No brainer ... take your baby with you. Contact the company you booked the holiday with and sort it.

My baby is 12 weeks and quite honestly I’d have been ok leaving him with my mum at 8 weeks. Each to their own but my baby is very social and comfortable with my mum and both would have enjoyed the time together. If you decide to breastfeed that will be an issue but if not just see how you feel. As others say you could take the baby. Won’t cost much more. Perhaps your mum comes and helps you?

This can't be real. No way.

She has other kids?

One other thread says she’s lying in bed all day but there are no DC around.

This can't be real. No way.

Why wouldn't it be real? My cousin went to New York for ten days when her baby was 7wks old, she left him with her parents.

OP, it's your decision but bear in mind that you mind not want to leave the baby or you might spend the whole holiday missing him/her terribly which would spoil your enjoyment of it I'm sure. Could the baby go with you? Or could you pay the admin fee to the travel agent and change your travel dates so that the baby is a bit older?

Also keep in mind that if you have any complications with the delivery, you might not be able to fly 6-8wks afterwards and some travel insurance companies won't cover you until after your six week check which in some areas might not be booked in until 8wks.

Blimey

No, there’s no way I would do that.

This plan is lunacy. If you go - with or without your baby - it will be so monumentally stressful you will KICK yourself for lining yourself up for it in the first place.

MsOliphant

my bf has 3 children and I was lying in bed all day because I felt exhausted prob due to the pregnancy that I was unaware of at the time - whats your point?

No, I have an 8 week old and he's changed so much every week. I only notice looking at photos as I'm with him all the time, but honestly at that age it might feel like coming back to a different baby!

Also, your baby might arrive late - up to two weeks late...

Your travel insurance might well cover this, worth a phone call. Congratulations and all the best with your little one

Just wondering. Thanks for clarifying.

Still think you’re bonkers to consider this. Your mum had it right on the money.