to go anyway

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It has always been my dream to visit america however i have never actually got round to it, a few months ago I booked for my bf and I to go to florida for a fortnight next year, the total cost of the holiday was just under 4 thousand including park tickets etc and the hotel is right at the entrance of universal which made it a little more expensive but the company i booked with lets you pay up in monthly direct debit so that made it affordable

last week i found out i'm pregnant and due 2 months before I go, when I told my mum I jokingly said "there goes Florida" and she said she would look after the baby to let us go

so, do I go or not?

So has this thread helped you decide? How does your boyfriend feel about leaving his baby, he has experience if he has 3 already?

MsOliphant It’s her mum that’s telling her to go!

So are you and your OH planning on going to Disney with his 3dc and leaving your new baby with relatives?

Ah yes, I read it that her mum said ‘there goes Florida’

I don’t think the 3dc are invited...

You would leave your young baby to go on holiday....people just continue to completely fucking baffle me!

Why wouldn’t you take your baby with you?

Probably ‘cause a baby will make a theme park a lot less fun

Take the baby with you!
The other children can't cry they're missing out cos it's not like the baby is going to 'experience' anything at 2 months old. The baby will very likely be free as well. She / He won't need a seat on the plane, as they will sit on your lap.

All good hotels will happily provide a bedside cot / crib.
You can buy nappies and wipes there.
Milk - try to breastfeed, that will make it so much easier but if you don't then you'll still be able to buy packs of formula when your there.

Most big theme parks do a stay in line thing where you queue up once for a ride, one parent goes on it whilst the other waits with the baby and then you swap for the next turn on the same ride so you don't have to queue up twice.

@EwItsAHooman Crikey. Fair enough - I had severe PND and no bond with my baby whatsoever at that stage but even I couldn't have left her to go over an ocean for that length of time when she was so little! I just assumed nobody could be a less attached parent than I was at that stage!

Ring them and see what they say, you might be able to put it off for a while or even get a refund so you can go at a later date. There's just too many variables

Msoilphant
please stop. Your assumptions are not appreciated and you could not be more off the the mark, there is no need - "a theme park would be alot less fun" please tell me what I have said to imply that?

I was genuinely just looking for advice from other mums if it would be feasible to go on holiday or just to cancel.

Cancel.

No I'd cancel

Your Dp has 3dc?

What does he think

Early days new baby etc?

You don't know how you will feel after you have the baby, you'd be surprised how little you will want to be parted from her - except maybe a couple of hours so you can sleep :-).

Why don't you speak to the travel company and see if you can go somewhere else, less hectic, family friendly and luxurious where you can take your baby. Preferably when she is a little older than two months.

There will be opportunities in the future for you to go to America.

I was genuinely just looking for advice from other mums if it would be feasible to go on holiday or just to cancel.

You don't have to do either. Take the baby!

I think once the baby’s born you won’t want to leave it so soon for so long.

I’m no attachment parent or anything but when my first DD was born I missed her even when I just popped out to see a friend for an hour. When she was that tiny, if I was apart from her for any length of time I felt like I’d lost a limb.

Tiny baby age is the ideal time to travel though because they sleep loads and are very small and portable.

I didn’t say you implied it at all!

In what universe would a theme park not be less fun with a teeny tiny baby in tow?!!

I'd cancel. There is no way I could have left my dd at that age. I appreciate that some mothers do, and fine for them, but most wouldn't want to.

No way could I leave a child that young, at that age they are so tiny and need the parents! They also change so much at that age so quick, I don’t believe many parents could leave a child of that age tbh

Either take baby or cancel

Honestly can't imagine anyone being okay with this. Two weeks is so long at any age but at 8 weeks and to be an 8 hour flight away? And I would consider myself very relaxed about these things. I think you'd cancel after the baby arrives and lose your money once you realise how you feel, which would be rubbish. Four grand would also get a lot of baby paraphernalia.
You absolutely wouldnt be able to establish breast feeding. Plus you're assuming the baby cones on time (could be two weeks late or even longer). And then that you wouldn't need an emergency c section or stitches, or some other complication. You might not even be cleared to fly medically. I think you'd cause yourself so much added stress that you really don't need. Having a newborn is lovely but stressful enough :) x

Also imagine how cool it would be to save the money and take your little one to Disney when they're a bit bigger. I can't think of a more fun way to see the parks except through the eyes of a child.

If I were in your situation, my choice would be between a) taking the baby with me, or b) cancelling. Personally I'd have chosen option A. Option c of leaving baby wouldn't have been a consideration.

Another couple of thoughts - if you do have medical interventions I would've thought that might make your insurance go right up given how expensive the US medical care is. And if you do have an overdue baby and emergency c section you probably wouldn't be deemed fit to go on any rides that might jar you or put any pressure on your belly and if you did and something awful happened I imagine they'd say your insurance wouldn't cover you.

Change the holiday. Surely that's the obvious answer?