to hate the abbreviations on here

[tlove]

I may have even used one myself even though it's AWFUL! Can't we just say 'husband' 'partner' etc or is it a 'mumsnet identity thing'?

Use what you like. I thought it was twee when I first came here, but now I don't even think about it. It just is.

It’s when they get convoluted and ‘try-hard-y’ that gets me like
“STBXHDSIL’sDS” etc

Yabu it’s an internet thing and at least twenty years old. Shorthand/abbreviations make sense when you’re typing.

It’s not just a mumsnet thing though, is it? I’ve seen these abbreviations everywhere on Internet forums.

I think it's the inclusion of 'dear'. Why 'dear' we could just use H for husband, S for son etc. 'Dear son' ack cringe.

Perhaps I'll just get used to it.

My favourite is STBXH , I interpreted that as stupid b**tard ex husband, for ages.
I work in an industry that to outsiders almost has its own language with acronyms, abbreviations and terminology, so it doesn't bother me on here, it's just like having different languages for different purposes or environments.

What others have said. It's a usage convention of internet forums, not just MN.

Yes! I hate it, too. Even more so when people create their own abbreviations and I have no clue what the f**k they’re talking about. 😂

I thought it was just me!

Yeah as PP said above, it's the D for "dear / darling" infront of H, C, F etc which really annoys me!! The others I find easy to read so it doesn't bother me!

When some posters are referring to a cheating partner and still use the D in front of it, it baffles me.

I always read RTFT as "Read the fucking thread". Only recently saw it was "Read the full thread".

How do you know the d stands for dear tlove. It could stand for a whole lot of things beginning with d.

Haha some of the abbreviations are ok like ltb or wtf etc but DEAR and DARLING are so fluffy and awful!

@pigsDOfly What does it stand for then?!

fanfan I knew it was supposed to be "full thread" but I still read it as "fucking thread", perhaps because that's more in the spirit of MN

I hate them, half the time I don't even know what they stand for, I only found out what stbexh (if I've got it right lol) means and I've been lurking on here for 3 years! I was having to google everything I read for ages. I just say husband or daughter etc, much easier to read what you're on about.

Oh I thought that too fanfan.

Oh and I learnt "rtft" only yesterday, I thought it was "read the full thread"?

Fanfan, I thought it it was fucking thread as well.

Fucking thread is much better!

Isn't stbexh "soon to be ex husband"? 🤔

tlove Could be damned, demented, dopey, doolally, I could go on. Anything you want really. Just read it differently in your head and it will stop standing for dear or darling.

I know what you mean though, it always seems very odd when you get a poster complaining about their awful sister in law, for instance, and putting DSIL all through the post.

Well, they aren't compulsory. I quite often just say husband/son/mother etc.

And if they annoyed me as much as they seem to annoy you, I'd probably just stop using the forum, rather than arriving on Mn and complaining about a well-established usage that isn't unique to Mn.

My aunt (who doesn't use forums) refers to her estranged husband as DH. She means dick head....

@EggSurprise Kind of a lighthearted thread so I wouldn't take it too seriously

I thought it was fucking thread as well