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perpetually single son

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indigenouscelt · 28/09/2018 09:06

I feel guilty but I somewhat resent my son for not making more of an attempt to get into a long term relationship, he's had a few drunken one night stands but never anything serious. He is slightly overweight and somewhat shy but I can't see why he can't just put himself out there and just settle. He is intelligent and funny, but he can be morose and quiet at times. I wonder how I can help him with this? I want some Grandkids!

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CoughLaughFart · 28/09/2018 13:11

You want your DS to find love and maybe have kids- what's so wrong with that?

The answer is already there in your comment. It’s what SHE wants for her son. Has the OP asked or even considered what her son wants?

A lot of comments on this thread - intended to reassure the OP, and probably meant with the best of intentions - are taking the ‘He’ll find someone, maybe he just needs time’ angle. The thing is, maybe he won’t find someone. Ever. Because maybe he isn’t looking. And that’s entirely his decision.

There’s a big difference between not having found someone and not wanting to look. I’ve never taken my driving test. A friend of mine has failed hers several times. We’re in the ‘same’ position in that we can’t drive, but our experiences are completely different in that it’s only a problem for one of us.


Heartofglass12345 · 28/09/2018 13:16

My husband had been single since he was around 20 when he met me (his fiancée cheated on him and he never met anyone else) and he was 34. A year later we got married, a week later I had our son, and here we are 6 years later with another son to add to the mix 😊 we met on plenty of fish! Dating websites are good for shy people in my opinion as you can chat for a while before meeting up


SpikyCactus · 28/09/2018 13:20

Being overweight, quiet and shy isn’t relevant. I’d much prefer a humble, self deprecating man to some cock who loves himself and thinks he’s gorgeous. Leave him alone, he’ll date when he’s ready and will find someone who loves him just as he is.


johntitor · 28/09/2018 13:52

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