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IS THIS GUY WORTH BOTHERING WITH

39 replies

vivprod · 28/09/2018 00:29

My friend has met this guy he is good looking and charming. She has spent time with him at his place. He has not asked her out on a date as yet, says he is interested in her and wants to get to know her better. But does not text very regularly and does not reply to her texts for hours. Is she wasting her time, is he keeping his options open thats what i think!

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adayatthebeach · 28/09/2018 00:43

It’s early days. Maybe he is cheap and doesn’t want to spend money? She should suggest doing something out of the house that’s free. Hope she waiting tdtd

hadenough · 28/09/2018 00:45

LET YOUR FRIEND SEE HOW IT GOES AND GET BACK TO US

KC225 · 28/09/2018 00:47

She is on the back burner. If he wants to get to know her - going out on a date is the best way to start but he is stalling. Sounds like a non starter to me.

Rebecca36 · 28/09/2018 00:47

Maybe he is keeping his options open but no reason why your friend can't keep hers open too.

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vivprod · 28/09/2018 01:11

Thats what I think he is keeping her on the back burner. I believe that he knows that she likes him a lot and his is using this to his advantage. My friend is not very confident.

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SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 28/09/2018 01:16

But does not text very regularly and does not reply to her texts for hours

This describes me and about 2 dozen people I know. Is not replying to text messages instantly seriously used as a yardstick? Otherwise, it sounds as though they're just two people starting to get to know each other.

Has she asked him out on a date?

LagerthaTheShieldMaiden · 28/09/2018 01:17

WHO CAN KNOW. LIKE OMG.

Holdingonbarely · 28/09/2018 02:17

DAMN YOU ALL I WANTED IT FIRST

MrsSarahSiddons · 28/09/2018 03:21

PROBABLY NOT

TeddybearBaby · 28/09/2018 04:04

It wouldn’t be for me and I wouldn’t like it if it was my friend. Not the lack of texts so much as the not going anywhere ever.

MereDintofPandiculation · 28/09/2018 04:08

But does not text very regularly and does not reply to her texts for hours. Maybe he has a job?

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vivprod · 28/09/2018 08:26

IF ONE DOES NOT WANT TO BE CONTACTED THEN DONT GIVE YOUR MOBILE NUMBER OUT!! PERSONALLY I THINK IT IS RUDE THAT IF SOMEONE TAKES THE TIME TO TEXT YOU SURELY ITS POLITE TO RESPOND!

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Mundotothemax · 28/09/2018 08:30

BUT WHY DO YOU NEED TO RESPOND IMMEDIATELY? I’m not a slave to my phone, sometimes I like to give attention to things that are happening IRL.

No wonder car accidents due to driver inattention are on the rise Hmm

TeddybearBaby · 28/09/2018 08:31

Why are you shouting 😂. You said he doesn’t reply immediately not that he was ignoring messages completely 🤷🏻‍♀️

PurpleDaisies · 28/09/2018 08:34

THIS IS SUCH AN URGENT QUERY THAT IT ABSOLUTELY MUST BE ANSWERED IMMEDIATELY.

ANY PSYCHICS AROUND? I DON’T KNOW HIM SO HAVE NO IDEA.

MissusGeneHunt · 28/09/2018 08:37

Is this a test page for sock puppeting...???

WomanAKAAdultHumanFemale · 28/09/2018 08:38

I HAVE NO IDEA WHY THIS IS IN AIBU

itwillbealrightpromise · 28/09/2018 08:40

WHY IS EVERYBODY SHOUTING ???

CaptainCorrigan · 28/09/2018 08:46

IF ONE DOES NOT WANT TO BE CONTACTED THEN DONT GIVE YOUR MOBILE NUMBER OUT!! PERSONALLY I THINK IT IS RUDE THAT IF SOMEONE TAKES THE TIME TO TEXT YOU SURELY ITS POLITE TO RESPOND!

ONE MIGHT BE BUSY PEOPLE DO HAVE LIVES YOU KNOW!!!! HE MIGHT NOT BE ALLOWED HIS PHONE IN SCHOOL LIKE SHE IS!

tlove · 28/09/2018 08:47

Your friend is you, surely?

starryeyed19 · 28/09/2018 08:48

NO

IF YOU HAVE TO ASK IF IT'S WORTH BOTHERING WITH, THE ANSWER IS NO

PoxAlert · 28/09/2018 08:50

LOUD NOISES

ShartGoblin · 28/09/2018 08:50

I WANT TO BREAK FREE

eelbecomingforyou · 28/09/2018 09:05

HAVE THEY SHAGGED WHEN THEY SPENT TIME AT HIS PLACE? IF SO, HE JUST WANTS A FUCK BUDDY.

Juells · 28/09/2018 09:09

HE MIGHT NOT BE ALLOWED HIS PHONE IN SCHOOL LIKE SHE IS!

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