Nobody wants to come...

[GucciMara]

Arranged a meal for a few of my friends before baby arrives (I'm 30 something weeks). I've given lots of notice but every single one of my friends bar one have said they won't be coming.

They genuinely might have plans already, but a few have just been a bit flaky and said 'yeah maybe'. I'm done with chasing and just wanted a nice meal out. Bit gutted nobody wants to come.

I understand it could be a money thing, double booked, etc etc. We all have our reasons and I'm not accusing people of having rubbish reasons. Just a bit sad...

AIBU to be a bit disappointed that 9/10 people said no? Feel a bit Billy no mates and want to cry in to my pillow! Been to some lovely baby showers where people have travelled far and wide and just have a funny feeling of loneliness and like I don't really have many good friends...

[spinabifidamom]

Find new friends. Most of my friends are my age and we all have really small children. Once a month we do a play date at a local park or indoor play park with the children. We also have a pub quiz night where the dads babysit and we have a laugh with one another too. It’s fun. I’ve also have friends from Facebook and mom and baby activities who I’m still in contact with. I’ve found it helps me feel less lonely and keeps me sane too. We text and call to arrange to meet up.

[Boblingoblino31]

It’s sad you’ve not had anyone say yes because it sounds a lovely idea.
Just want to say that I’m pushing 60 and my closest friends have come into my life over the last 25 years. I
had no one I could count as a good or close friend before DD was born. So you totally haven’t missed the boat I promise.

[TickleMyPickle20]

I'm sorry, this sucks. I know the feeling and if we were friends then I'd totally come to your before-baby meal, and when you have your baby I would totally help with him/her. I have a young baby myself so know how this feels

[shearwater]

I do think lots of people can't be arsed to make the effort to go out these days, and text messaging allows people to make feeble excuses.

Almost every special meal or event I've attended in the last few years has had tons of people crying off at the last minute. It's shit. If you have committed to something, unless there is some dire emergency you fucking well go.

[eatingtomuch]

I have made my best friends since the kids started school and clubs.

I was lucky and able to join local baby/toddler groups. I made lovely friends there too.

This weekend I'm out with a gro

[eatingtomuch]

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With a group of mums from school (both my children have left primary school).

[PurpleDaisies]

You’ll need to start a separate thread fidelity. You’ve accidentally posted on someone else’s.

[WaterOffaDucksCrack]

You'd think some people are looking to hook up for a romantic date based on their photos!! in the nicest way possible maybe some of the people you invited find you a bit judgemental?

[GucciMara]

@WaterOffaDucksCrack aren't we all! I personally think that it's odd that a woman looking for friends would post a pouty photo with not much on and boobs hanging out, but hey that's just me! Seems more like something you'd put on tinder that's all.

[WhateverHappenedToTheHeatwave]

Have you got a local facebook page? I asked on my one for baby and toddler group recommendations. Mainly church ones in my area.

[WaterOffaDucksCrack]

Do you mean wearing a low cut top? I don't really see the problem with that. I don't personally pout in photos but how someone chooses to position their own face wouldn't bother me. They might be lovely people. A couple of my good friends post photos like that. One does so because she just likes to look that way! Another does it because she's insecure and worried about being judged by others if she shows her true self. Both lovely people and I'd hate to think we wouldn't be friends because I'd already cast them aside due to their photos.

[Butterflycookie]

Doesn’t matter whether it was a Sunday or not . If they wanted to go they would’ve. I know exactly how it feels and you’re not the only one.

[SwanConvoy]

they all know someone else who is going. They all know me as well - a few of them had baby showers with loads of people who didn't know each other.

This will totally be the reason - they will have seen a group of people invited most of whom they don't know. They may also assume that they are the only one who doesn't know everyone else - if you know what I mean.

I am fairly sociable but I would probably not prioritise this sort of invitation - not because I don't like you but because I would think that I would be sitting at a long table in a bar or restaurant and having to make small talk with a lot of people I don't know - and probably not even get to spend much time with you. More would probably actually come if it was a traditional sort of baby shower - as you can mill around and sort of pop in and out of it.

It is not personal here I can guarantee it. I bet if you reach out to these people individually or in much smaller groups (where they know the other person) they would come.