To hate those “Mother” / “Mama” / “Mutha” sweatshirts / jumpers?!

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Those jumpers emblazoned with the words “Mother” / “Mama” / “Mutha” etc. that seem to have been around for a couple of years now – am I alone in finding them just beyond annoying? I find them just unbearably smug, contrived, attention-seeking, cringeworthy… especially as I am currently (desperately) TTC. I think they are kind of rubbing my nose in it a bit, I could be over-sensitive, but aside from that, I just think they are DEEPLY uncool anyway and I would not be seen dead in one! Just smacks of wanting to look like an instamum to me. ABIU?

My husband bought me one for mother’s day from the selfish mother as profits go in part to charity. I love it but now going to feel self conscious wearing it. I am definitely not an insta mum you lot are judgemental.

I don't worship anything but I do find it awful that people think women are 'smug for wearing a sweater. Clearly nothing much going on up there or in your real lives to presume you know the reasons people buy an item of clothing.

I love my Mother jumper! Might wear it today so comfy and I do like to support their charities

I’m totally wearing mine today too now

Ergh, people, wear what you want, it's a jumper. The person wearing the jumper doesn't care what other people think..... the slogan is not offensive, vulgar or rude. People just love to get offended.
I don't own one but I might just buy one now!

Thing is, if you’ve got your kids with you, people can tell you’re a mother. Why do wearers need to announce the role when they’re not with their kids? . I can only assume it’s tondo with some sort of inferred status that wearers need others to be aware of.

Im confused. Because I think it’s uncool to wear anything with a mother/yummy mummy/babe etc slogan amongst many other things I am jealous of other people. Plenty of stuff in my wardrobe that others would deem uncool, I don’t care.

Never seen them. But they sound annoying.

I don't understand why what other people wear is annoying? We all like different styles. I wouldn't wear a striped Breton top like many mumsnetters but it certainly wouldn't annoy me if I saw someone wearing one.

It's not bitchy to say you don't like or don't think a slogan jumperis cool. It's an opinion, not everything is everybody's style. I also don't like breton tops, or reproduction 50's dresses, or parkers, but if you do, great, go for it. You can also just give money to charity without buying a jumper, shocking, I know.

'I would assume there was a silent 'fucker' (medi, lowering the tone since 2010)'

I've only seen one and assumed same

I like them and didn’t realise they’re for charity. I’ll definitely get one now! Plus it has the added bonus on repelling miserable-sounding types like the OP. Anyone who interprets other people’s clothing as ‘smug’ sounds judgmental and horrible so this is a great way to keep them away. Win win!

@toomanyidiots this is AIBU. What do you expect? Measured, gripe free, rational debate????

I've spent years trying not to look mumsey so no way would I buy a 'mum' jumper 😂

I like that money goes to charity for buying a certain brand but I personally wouldn't wear one. They're really naff. I particularly dislike "Mama bear".

Should we maybe just ask MN for a list of the rules of what we can and can’t wear because I’m beginning to lose track. No professional dress at the school gate “dressed up to the 9s”. No track suits or leggings unless you are doing fitness and never if you are over a size 10. No short skirts or any hint of cleavage if you are near others’ DP. Jeans and top ok, but only if it’s the right top. Or, here’s an idea. Perhaps people can stop being so damned interested in what women wear and let them be.

The comments here about judging have got me thinking. I don't think it's a problem to discuss whether or not we like a particular sort of clothing (several examples gave been given here) but it is unfair to then make judgements about the "type" of person who wears those clothes, which I have been guilty of... But then, unfortunately, that is what we do as humans, form impressions and make judgements on people. I'll try harder not to do that (And I mean that sincerely) though at the same time I reserve the right to dislike various fashion items

They are too “try hard”. I expect they were cool at one point but now they are everywhere and it’s always the same type of person wearing them. Yawn! I bet they wear saltwater sandals and Breton tops too. And skinny jeans from Boden. Mummy uniform.

I would wear a t-shirt or a jumper with Winging It without any issues. Also, I am far from being a cooler than cool and greater than great Mutha.

@Twinning1 - I wouldn't touch Boden with a barge pole. Saltwater sandals - yes, if it were the only way to protect your feet left on this Earth after a Mad Max-like apocalypse.
I still would wear them, why not. It's just a slogan. But I am also partial to the Primark own "Kinda Care, Kinda Don't", "Own Kind of Beautiful" and Guns 'n Roses and Metallica stuff. Trashy and naff .

Am a bit taken aback by the strong feeling my post seems to have evoked, and on reflection perhaps my original post struck too much of a judgmental tone – it wasn’t meant to be particularly goady. I still think those jumpers are naff, and wouldn’t wear one personally; they make me feel excluded from a club I’d love to be a part of, but I am very aware that I am possibly rather over-sensitive on this matter. I fully agree that people should wear what they like without fear of being judged. I think that’s one of the greatest things about our country! And the charity element (which, hands up, I wasn’t hitherto aware of), makes them a lot more palatable. It does raise a lot of questions for me personally. I like to think of myself as someone who isn’t overly judgemental but I guess I actually AM a bit shallow and do take a view of someone based on how they present themselves to the world. Not sure this is a good quality. But perhaps if I am one day lucky enough to have kids, a lot of this current shallowness will dissipate… and I’ll look back on myself with horror?!

Ime mama top wearers are not usually the breton top chelsea boot brigade. Mama top wearers usually a bit more glam with pointed nude nails with mega brows in these parts.

they make me feel excluded from a club I’d love to be a part of

One of the many reasons I can’t stand them as they just come across as smug

Does calling Mumsnet 'Mum'snet also make people feel excluded? No, apparently not because they are on here, berating mums and calling them smug for wearing a 'Mother' sweatshirt...

@inthenavy good point!

I love my Selfish Mother jumpers. They raise money for brilliant causes. They’re really warm and comfy. They work with some great brands and designers (Leah Wood, Alice Temperley, Charlotte Olympia etc) so I’m not too worried about appearing ‘deeply uncool’ according to random MNers who I’m sure are style gurus themselves.

Anyway I try not to judge other people by what they wear, and I think it’s absolutely ridiculous to say people who wear those jumpers haven’t been through struggles or hardship - how on earth is anyone qualified to say that? What a ludicrous assumption.