To hate those “Mother” / “Mama” / “Mutha” sweatshirts / jumpers?!

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Those jumpers emblazoned with the words “Mother” / “Mama” / “Mutha” etc. that seem to have been around for a couple of years now – am I alone in finding them just beyond annoying? I find them just unbearably smug, contrived, attention-seeking, cringeworthy… especially as I am currently (desperately) TTC. I think they are kind of rubbing my nose in it a bit, I could be over-sensitive, but aside from that, I just think they are DEEPLY uncool anyway and I would not be seen dead in one! Just smacks of wanting to look like an instamum to me. ABIU?

I think they look cosy and probably make you feel like you are part of a community. Like the 30s version of wearing university sweatshirts.

I like the look of the winging it one, but £55

You'd be truly winging it if you just wrote it on your jumper with a crayola.

They’re a bit naff but nowhere near my personal least favourite:

“It takes a real man to make [daughters, twins, a redhead, etc.]

I really like them (and don't use Instagram). Can't justify spending £55 on a jumper though. Maybe if I get some Christmas money.

Haven't seen 'Mutha' (!) but I'm the owner of a 'Sista'. I've never been on Instagram in my life. I am also a mother and have zero interest in Instamums(? couldn't name one).
I got one each for my sister and myself when we were doing a sporting event together, 35 years after we'd last done the same sort of thing as children. It's just a very nice soft grey sweatshirt. Not making a statement to anyone, other than my sister.

@NerrSnerr got mine in the sale. £55 definitely a stretch!

I have a grey one. It's dead comfy and hides my belly.
I'm not white either.
I got it as a present - I would never spend that money on my self.
I see your point on the overstating the mum role aspect.
I just wear it cos it's easy and I like the print. I have never given it any more thought than that.

Stay away from Disney then, whole families with their familial role emblazoned on their ample chests, such a display of vulgarity!

I have the 'selfish mother's hoody and I love it,likes huge blanket. And as a short rough looking chubster I Def don't look Instagram, do Instagram or indeed give a f*CK 😁

I have the Winging It jumper and love it. It’s very good quality and managed to get it 50% off. I don’t like the Mother ones though, I struggled to conceive then had a stillborn baby and at certain points, seeing someone wearing one would have been very hard. But then again I also dislike baby on board things in cars (or bump on board. Vom. I’m looking at you SIL)

I’m not that bothered by the Mother ones (except Mutha, that’s not ok) and I appreciate the charity initiative behind it but the “winging it” one pisses me off. I know it’s currently considered cool to talk about how hard it all is and all your mental health issues etc but I’d prefer a t shirt that acknowledges that I’m a competent and capable adult that doesn’t need to “wing” life. But then I guess you get into “YOU GOT THIS MAMA!” territory which is even cringier.

Also the “Dadding it” is such eyeroll-inducing wank.

It'd be a bit dull if we all liked the same things and dressed the same wouldn't it?

My niece bought me a black one from fmlystore with a star on it. It's gorgeous and so comfortable.

I'm not even a mother 😂

But then I spend my days with my job title emblazoned across my back so maybe anything after that is dead classy!

@HypoCali agree that when it comes to being an adult im very capable and organised, but when it comes to ‘wrangling’ my DCs day to day and entertaining them I definitely don’t feel as ‘together’

I have 3, 2 winging it and a Mama one. They are super comfortable well fitting sweaters, the main reason I repurchased was because the sleeves are the perfect length for my orangutan like arms. I’ve honestly never had a jumper fit so well. DS2 calls me Mama of his own accord so I quite like it. I’m not middle class or privileged, had some pretty shit times of it and these jumpers make me smile 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’m on instagram, but I don’t tend to follow ‘instamums’ can’t recall seeing them on there except from the FMLY page

Don't even know what they are. But yabu. It's just a jumper. It wouldn't even occur to me to judge someone based on the wording on a jumper... unless it was cunt, or something.

I live close to the fmly store (outs self) and because they do super cheap sample sales every now and again pretty much everyone who is female has at least one. On any given day about 25% of the mums at the school gates will be wearing one. You’d hate it here OP

Never heard of them. Was hoping there might be a pic on here so I could judge but I'm still none the wiser.

I'd rather have one that identifies me as a 'woman working in tech' thanks very much. Yeah but some people don't feel like that, do they? I'm a working mother who finds being a mum 100 times more fulfilling than my stressful, thankless, anxiety-inducing job. Is that ok? Or is that lame? Because I feel like that's what people are really protesting against here. Someone wanting to advertise the fact they're not the "super career woman" we're all meant to aspire to be.

I have a couple of t-shirts, including a mama one. They're super-comfy. I wear them especially for lounging around the house. The other day I nipped out to the shops in one. DS(6) looked at me and said, "You're not going out in that, are you?"

I have 3 of them, a Mother, Mama and Winging it. I fought a very long infertility battle and lost a few precious babies but it was worth it to eventually be called Mama by my beautiful miracle boy. I let my inability to have a baby define me for so long.

I am not middle class, privileged or an over achiever. I have struggled for most of my son's life with post natal depression so I treated myself to a couple of jumpers in the Fmly store sample sales. They make me feel like I'm part of a community and not alone or a weird alien person who is a complete waste of skin.

Plus they wash well and fit me better than any other jumpers.

Oh and I also don't have Instagram and I'm not smug.

I have several from selfish mother - I specifically bought my first because it donated money to Tommy's- the miscarriage/stillbirth/prem birth research charity. Something unfortunately close to my heart. And I like the designs.

Meh, I like them