To think I will get together with the guy I'm crushing on?!

[EleanorLoves]

Please give me hope. Did you fancy someone and get together with them? I've got closer and closer to a colleague over the past couple of months and am totally smitten. I'm scared by how attracted to him I feel. And that's making me scared that we might not ever actually get together. Did you ever get with your crush? Just the happy stories please. I have the blues...

BTW I'm a 41 year old professional woman, although I know I sound about 15!!

Are you very young Eleanor?

Some people have relationships with people they fall for, some do not. If you're scaring yourself, you're probably scaring him too.

It's probably just because you have to see him every day it feels more intense.

You wouldn't feel this way if you only saw him a couple of times a month.

Crushes are awesome, can't say I've ever had one that's made me feel scared though, it's supposed to be fun.

Not young Bombardier25966, I'm 41. I've relatively recently come out of a long relationship. I'm scared by how strongly I feel because I haven't ever felt quite like this before. It feels so special. If he's 'the one', I don't want to mess it up.

Buzzlightyearsbumchin, it is fun. When I'm with him the world is wonderful. When we're apart (at the weekends), the world feels empty.

Yep. I married him 30 years ago.

Furrycushion amazing!!! How long did you fancy him before something happened? And who made the first move? Had he been feeling the same?

I don't think you will get many happy stories. It's called a crush for a reason. I did get together with a crush once, but it's sadly not a happy story.

Good luck though, but please don't put him on a pedestal, because you are setting yourself up for a disappointment.

Does he show signs of reciprocating? You'll find many, many stories of people getting together with a crush

We had a few false starts (we were very young) but got there in the end. We worked together too.

Thanks CaptSkippy. I wonder why that is. I wonder why people don't fancy each other for a few weeks or months before making a move.

Haven't you posted about this recently?

LanguidLobster, we flirt together. He has a certain tenderness about me. He singles me out. We are very close. But I don't know if it's close friends or close potential lovers!

Ahh, Furrycushion, that sounds sweet.

crimsonlake, yes! I was looking for seduction tips... 😳

Not another thread about this man! You need some other focus for your thoughts. You're obsessed! 😆

@eleanor I’m going to be harsh but hopefully fair. You’ve just come out of a relationship? Have you given yourself time to mentally get over this? Is the crush a distraction from the pain of the past? Perhaps this is why it’s so intense. I’m concerned you say your weekends are empty without him. Why? Do you not have friends , family or hobbies? This doesn’t sound particularly healthy and I think you need to take a step back. Also you work with this guy. It could be incredibly awkward if he doesn’t feel the same

Btw, I met my husband at work 🤣🤣🤣

crimsonlake, I know! I'm sorry. I'm the kind of person who tends to fall hard.

Is he single?

Bad plan to “get close” to a work colleague you fancy. Better to ask him out early and date him if the feeling’s mutual, or just move on / stay professional (as in not “being close”) if he’s not interested.

Is he even single?
A bit of harmless flirting at work does not mean love and happy ever after are on the horizon

Direct eye contact definitely helps.

Strongmummy, I've had a full and busy weekend but I find myself thinking "this is fun, I wish I could share it with X!" Or "I can't wait to tell X about this".

I think I'm over my last relationship. I think I'm just in love.

Oh wow spaceraidersrock, that doesn't sound good.