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To think I will get together with the guy I'm crushing on?!

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 19:00

Please give me hope. Did you fancy someone and get together with them? I've got closer and closer to a colleague over the past couple of months and am totally smitten. I'm scared by how attracted to him I feel. And that's making me scared that we might not ever actually get together. Did you ever get with your crush? Just the happy stories please. I have the blues...

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 19:29

Loopytiles, yes he's single. He's leaving the company in 2 months and we have a very strict no relationships in the office policy.

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 19:30

There's loads of eye contact LanguidLobster!

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blackheartsgirl · 23/09/2018 19:31

Yes got together with my crush a few months ago.

I had liked him for a long long time but gave him.absolutely no sign i liked him even though we had a shared hobby outside of work and we had loads in common. He also liked other people. Then out of the blue he asked me out and and we've been together ever since. Im also 41

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 19:33

Oh lovely blackheartsgirl! Can I ask why you were holding back and not giving him any signs as presumably you wanted him..?

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Herehere66 · 23/09/2018 19:34

Is he single?
Does he have children?
Do you have children?

Strongmummy · 23/09/2018 19:36

@eleanor, oh I see. Well as long as you’re doing stuff and not moping around. 🤣🤣

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 19:37

Herehere66, we're both single. No children. Both come out of long relationships in the last year. Both want children if possible but not a deal breaker.

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 19:37

Strongmummy, only moping in my heart! 😂

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LanguidLobster · 23/09/2018 19:40

Hmm, sounds positive. Unless you wanted to ask him out for coffee/drink you're going to have to wait though, young lady.

You're getting excited as it's nearly time to go back to work, aren't you??

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 19:51

Ha! LanguidLobster

I'm away with work for 2 days so won't be in the office until Wednesday. Might not see him until Thursday. Unfortunately...

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HollowTalk · 23/09/2018 19:53

Do you ever have any contact, eg by text, outside work? Does he seek you out?

FrogsSpawnofSanta · 23/09/2018 19:58

I am marrying my crush next month Smile. I fancied him for a year before I finally acted and told him how I felt. I'm so glad I took the chance and was brave enough to say "oy, I really like you."

If he is leaving shortly then tell him how you feel. You have nothing to lose.

BalloonDinosaur · 23/09/2018 19:58

I'm sorry to say, none of my work relationships have ended well. First one broke my heart and properly fucked me up for a long time,

2nd one, more recently, though pre-DP, took advantage and just left me feeling like crap.

Maybe wait til he's left, especially if there's a no work relationships policy. Make a move at his leaving do? Good luck!

DoYouLikeHueyLewisandTheNews · 23/09/2018 20:02

I married my work crush. We've been together 8 years now. I was exactly the same as you, all giddy. Also petrified of saying something, but so glad I did. I see you're both single, have shared interests outside of work and he's leaving soon. Nothing ventured nothing gained I say!

CaptSkippy · 23/09/2018 20:03

Ah, I was clearly wrong. There are quite a few happy stories it seems. Please, disregard what I posted earlier.

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 20:10

HollowTalk we don't have much of an out of work text thing going on. Just occasionally. I think we're trying to be professional!! 😂

But yes, I do feel like he seeks me out at work.

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 20:11

Amazing FrogsSpawnofSanta! Had he fancied you the whole time too? How did it affect the balance of things? I'm constantly being told that I have to let him chase me and not the other way around (by friends, society, etc!).

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DarthLipgloss · 23/09/2018 20:12

Totally fell massively in love with my assistant 2 years ago at Xmas. I was 45 at the time. He's younger than me and i felt very mid life crisis about it and could not work out at the time if he liked me, but on reflection it was obvious he did. However we've been together 18 months now and looking to move in together, so who knows?

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 20:12

I will need to say something by the time he leaves I think BalloonDinosaur.

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 20:13

Did you make the first move DoYouLikeHueyLewisandTheNews? How did you do it? Did he mind you making a move rather than the other way around?

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 20:13

CaptSkippy 😘

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 20:15

Oh wow DarthLipgloss, that's incredible! Please tell me more! Did you make the first move? What did you say? Had he been feeling it all along?

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EleanorLoves · 23/09/2018 20:15

This thread has cheered me up! 😊

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HollowTalk · 23/09/2018 20:17

Can you think of something - a gig or similar - that you know he'd like and that's after his end-date, and ask whether he fancies going to it?

gonnaenodaethat1 · 23/09/2018 20:18

I did a work placement about 2 years ago and fell HARD for someone I worked with - cried when I had to move back to my hometown, thinking I'd never see him again. Turns out I'd drunkenly given him my phone number, and now we've been living together for a year and get married next year!

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