Lesbians would never fancy straight women?

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My friend is gay and we were having a convo about our love life etc.
She admitted to having a crush on a woman who was straight and still fancy's her.
Do you think this is odd? Surely if she knows she's straight what's the point?
I didn't say anything I just kinda laughed it off.

Does there have to be a “point?”

Huh?
So I can't fancy gay men then?

Dammit. I've met a few I would...

It's a crush though. I've had crushes on long dead pop stars, gay film stars and all sorts. I don't find it odd at all.

Erm. We don't pick who we're attracted to I'm gay yet get attracted to straight men all the time

'nobody ever fancies anyone who wouldn't fancy them back'.
Ridiculous thing to say, no?

I'm pretty sure it's same sex attraction, not 'same sexuality' attraction. Why on earth wouldn't a lesbian have a crush on a woman? What a stupid thread.

Yeah true when you put it like that
Just when I was in college I fancied a guy and the moment he said he was gay,instantly I thought nope off limits.
I guess everyone's different

People fancy celebrities all the time.... chances of meeting them and having the feelings reciprocated are zero...

Feelings aren’t logical, OP.

This is often one of the more painful aspects of being gay.

I have a little crush on the main guy in White Collar and he is gay

I get crushes on people I know there's no chance of a relationship with. You can't really control these things!

Some people have crushes on cartoon characters. It’s a crush not a marriage proposal

OP, put on your thinking cap and think about whether you have ever been attracted to someone who wasn't available to reciprocate, be that a fellow commuter you see on the train, your parish priest, a pop star.

There doesn't have to be a point? You don't choose who to find attractive, surely. You just do.

...straight people are unfathomable. Most people have had crushes on totally unavailable people. What difference does being gay make?

I have a crush on him too weasleytwins and I'm a mostly gay woman. Never gonna happen!

I think my logic was she knows she's straight yet continues to fancy her.
I guess it's the same as me fancying Alan shearer

Never gonna happen !

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Again, OP,

YOU

DON'T

CHOOSE

WHO

YOU

ARE

ATTRACTED

TO

Got that yet?

No, I think I understand where the OP is coming from. As a straight woman, if I found out a man I had a crush on was gay, then the crush would be instantly gone because it’s a different dynamic and that’s that.

How do you think your friend should switch her feelings off and stop fancying the other woman? If that were possible, everyone would just fall out of love whenever things went wrong, there would be no agonising over bad relationships and a lot of our best literature, films and songs would be incomprehensible!

I fancy Tom Hardy. He doesn’t know I exist and is I think married. As am I. Doesn’t magically disappear the crush.

I quite fancy John Keats when I read his letters, and he’s dead, for goodness sake.

So I don’t think crushes rely on the actual availability of your crushee.

Isn’t it the same as being attracted to a straight man (if you are heterosexual) and the feelings aren’t reciprocated?

As in, met a guy I fancied the pants off but he’s not attracted to me.

It’s not strange at all.

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