Lesbians would never fancy straight women?

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My friend is gay and we were having a convo about our love life etc.
She admitted to having a crush on a woman who was straight and still fancy's her.
Do you think this is odd? Surely if she knows she's straight what's the point?
I didn't say anything I just kinda laughed it off.

If I fancied a Gay man and a Straight man at the same time, the Gay man would be the most fancied. The fantasies would be better

In fact the fantasy would probably involve the straight man too

Zachary Quinto. I would. I'd ask him to wear his Spock ears.

Your hormones don't give a shit about what orientation they are.

Christ, I fancy gay men all the time. All very different to one another, but that's the common denominator. I think that might be 'my type' which is really unfortunate when you're a woman.

I regularly have crushes on characters in books - Mr Rochester, Darcy, Edward Cullen, Adam the werewolf in the Mercy Thompson books, Kaz Brekker from Six of Crows (I could go on and on and on!) These men are not real, they are not even human on some cases, but I have a crush on them that I don't expect to be reciprocated, but I love them all the same!

I'm a lesbian and I've had a couple of crushes on straight women I know in real life and I actually quite like it. When I have crushes on lesbian or bi women I know it's all a bit angsty - does she like me, was she flirting with me, should I say something to her, getting your heart broken etc. With a straight woman, I know it isn't going anywhere, it's just a harmless crush and I enjoy it for what it is.

Maybe the woman isn't straight.

I was married to a man for 15 years. 3 kids.

I have a girlfriend now.
Never lose hope ;)

I think I like the simplicity of unrequited love ;-)

I'm a straight woman and have had a couple of woman express interest in me - it's no different than a man you don't fancy being interested.

On a different subject, it annoys the heck out of me that older men (50s-60s) seem to think that a mid-40s woman (me) might be interested in them...I get a fair few of those nowadays.

Eh, no, I don't want to look after you in your dotage (I'm assuming they're after a long-term relationship). Not to mention I have a lovely DH .

I think Wentworth Miller is absolutely gorgeous. He's gay. I still fancy him. I'm straight.

Well my lesbian girlfriend apparently fancied me. I was in my 40s never fancied a woman and had two teenagers. I had actually was one who made first move as she thought she had no chance. 3years on we very happy. The heart wants what the heart wants.

Lesbians would never fancy straight women?

I think this is probably true. Straight men famously have no interest in Lesbians.

I also fancy Don Draper, and Edward Rochester and they're not even real!

You don't choose your attractions ffs. You choose if and how you act upon them. Massive and a very obvious difference.

As a bisexual woman, I have had crushes on straight women.

Before I really knew much about my own sexuality I told people I was straight. Met a lesbian (who knew me as straight) and somehow ended up with her.

I have also met a few other women who seemed to target straight women. Some successfully and and some not.

teenagetantrums Did you post about you and your DP at the time?

I remember a thread where a straight woman fancied another woman and they ended up going out!

I’m a lesbian and ever since I can remember have had a crush on Gillian Anderson. I’m absolutely captivated by her. I still occasionally watch old episodes of the x files on amazon prime video just to see her, despite the fact I hate horror films and it scares me. And I think she’s just as beautiful now as she was in her early 20s in the first few x files series.

I believe she is straight. Then there’s the small matter of her being an international star and not having a clue I exist.

I just enjoy watching her on screen

Is this for real?

I’m straight and have had several lesbians hit on me. I’m sure they don’t have magic lesbian radar’s to help the seek out gay women only?

Omg Don Draper, yes.

I’m starting to realise through this thread that maybe some people actually do get to choose who they are physically attracted to! And that maybe the OP is like that?

With me, it’s almost like I can see someone, not know anything about them and get some sort of a flip in my stomach as if it’s lurching towards them. When I look at them I feel a bit funny and it’s clear I’m physically attracted. I might later find out he’s gay or married or a horrible person but it doesn’t stop the fact that somewhere in my chemistry there’s something going on. I wouldn’t ever act on it unless he was single, straight and a decent person so it’s not like I just fall into bed with anyone I fancy. I’m extremely picky but can’t pick who I get the physical feelings for IYSWIM?

It works the opposite way too, sometimes you can know on paper that someone could be perfect for you and you give it a chance but you just don’t fancy them.

Pot plant GA is gay!

GA is gay!

NO! I didn’t know that!

Perhaps she would be into me after all. I take it all back

Attraction isn't a choice though? It's instinct driven. I've certainly felt attracted to men I have no hope of having a relationship with

I didn't mean she fancied a woman and didn't have a clue about her sexuality she knows this woman is straight.

Also I have quite an unhealthy obsession with Tommy Shelby and I'd say the chances of me having a relationship with a fictional character played by Cillian Murphy are considerably smaller than your friend having a relationship with a straight woman she actually knows

It doesn’t make a difference wether you know or not!

You still get the feels. It’s not a logical thing. It’s biological, instinctual.

I have a female partner after being married to a man for 12 years.
Can we stop with the labels please? Attraction is attraction..nothing to do with gender but feelings....if more people were open to this and not so scared, we’d have a much more fluid view to sexuality than currently....imho