Lesbians would never fancy straight women?

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My friend is gay and we were having a convo about our love life etc.
She admitted to having a crush on a woman who was straight and still fancy's her.
Do you think this is odd? Surely if she knows she's straight what's the point?
I didn't say anything I just kinda laughed it off.

So what's your point here, op?

I was curious if any other gay women were the same as my friend.

I have a bit of a crush on Three out of Four of the Chris'.

Even though my gaydar pings on 2 of them.

Oh don't be ridiculous! Personally I don't bother with 'straight' women usually though I have slept with a few who've made the first move. But as to who you're attracted to? Could be anyone. As for the definition of 'straight', you really never know. I've slept with straight girls who subsequently realised/decided/whatever that they were bi or gay afterwards/later on in life.

My favourite was falling for a dead, gay largely fictional man.

I was straight - or at least presented as straight - and a gay woman fancied the pants off me. We've been together 12 yrs now and married for 2.
I wasn’t the first ‘straight’ woman my DW had been with either.
She never took women’s ‘straightness’ as a barrier to them being a potential partner.

I loved Robin the Boy Wonder even though he never replied to my fan letter. Your heart wants what it wants.

I've had to fend a few off, including a lesbian manager who fancied most of the female workforce, and wouldn't take no for an answer. So I guess some do, some don't.

Most of the worlds population is straight. So obvious it's slim pickings for us lesbians.

I think that's my friends problem.
The type she has,there isn't many gay women who fit that type I guess.

All the people saying, “I went with a straight woman...now we’ve been together 15 years,” or whatever. Well, your partner obviously wasn’t straight in the first place was she - she just hadn’t realised it. That does not mean that other women can be “turned” in the same way and we’re all open to anything. As I said, I find many women beautiful in many ways, but physically the female body does categorically nothing for me whatsoever and I would never want to kiss or touch a woman in that way. This I do know, as much as I can be sure if anything. I also have a “type” in men. So that’s me, but I imagine I’m far from alone in feeling this way. As I said, some people are more specific by nature. If I found out a crush was gay, then that would ruin the crush, for me.

I've had to fend a few off, including a lesbian manager who fancied most of the female workforce, and wouldn't take no for an answer. So I guess some do, some don't.

This is sexual harassment and should be reported, in the same way as if it were a straight male manager harassing women in his team. It's not at all typical either; my DH's line manager is a lesbian and it never interferes with her job, it's her private life same as my DH's relationship with me.

This has been a massive eye opener.
I honestly thought gay women /men would only fancy people attainable.
Thanks for all your opinions on the matter.

I sevretly fancy poldark guy a tiny bit. No chance though. Even if he climbed naked into my bed i still wouldn't sleep with him. I just find him likable on screen despite his character being a massive twat.

Thats not how sexual attraction works - none of us decide who we're attracted to - it just happens. Lesbians dont have a massive neon sign on their heads so all the other lesbians know who to fancy.

Not weird at all. It’s fine to have a crush on someone you know it won’t ever happen with. Think of all the celeb crushes.

We’ve all had crushes on the unobtainable.

Same here racecardriver

"Straight crushes" are very much a thing and I think many LGB people have been through them, often with a huge amount of heartache.

To start with, sexual orientation is quite fluid, and most people are not a Kinsey 6 or 0, but somewhere in between. That means that even if someone appears to be straight, they might not be 100% straight, and even if someone says they are 100% straight, five years down the line that could be a different answer. Many LGB people assume they are straight until they meet someone of the same sex that they fall for, not everyone knows from a young age. (And 100% gay people can have opposite sex exceptions too. Think Stephen Fry always said he was gay except for Rowan Atkinson's wife, but RA asked her out first.) That means that there is always the small possibility that the woman she has a crush on is not as straight as she thinks she is.

Also think how often women fall for their male (straight) best friend. You love your friends, and if you're physically attracted to their gender, then your feelings can get quite complicated. It's always a risk in these situations. Imagine if your closest friends are women, and you're attracted to women - some of the time you're going to fall for them. But just because you've fallen for someone doesn't mean you will pursue them - the majority of people will respect that the other person is not going to be interested. Doesn't stop the feelings though.

Surely you people fancyots of people without knowing that person's sexuality?
Chris Hemsworth is the most beautiful man of Earth. That wouldn't change regardless of sexual orientation. And I'd have the same chance of having sex with him as I have now.
Dude who plays Aquaman is a gorgeous beast of a man. No idea of his sexuality.
Guy I used to volunteer with was beautiful, my flirting didn't work haha, we were mates but it was a while before he mentioned looking for a man. I'd given up flirting by then and moved on but it doesn't actually change how hot and attractive he was

I honestly thought gay women /men would only fancy people attainable.
As opposed to all the women who fancy Tom Daley?? John Barrowman. Ricky Martin. Jason Simmons

I had a very interesting time when I was about 42 and assume it was my ovaries shouting about last chance as I developed an EXTREME schoolgirl-like crush on an actor in a USA glossy crime drama who is A very young and B I'd guess gay and C obviosly I will never meet in my life.

I felt genuinely upset that I was never going to be in a relationship with him. At the same time I had enough distance to be quite intrigued by this hormonal last gasp and enjoy it immensely.

I hadn't felt that way since Bowie in Labyrinth.

So there you go OP.

If everyone only ever fancied attaniable people then what are boy bands, "glamour" models etc etc for?

I am happily married and so TBH was incredibly happy that my perimeopausal body/brain overdrive went for someone I will never meet rather than some bloke in the ofifce which would have been hideous.

Dwayne Johnson, vin Diesel, Jason statham- any would do.

I doubt im any of their types... but I can daydream!