A long one sorry
A bit of history, 'D'H and I have been together 8 years, have 1dd (2yrs) I have Dd (18). Dd18 and DH have always had a strained relationship. They don't get on at all.
DH and I are having councilling because he's relenting talking at me. He is kind and thoughtful but everything ends up his way as he talks so much at me I give in to stop him talking at me. I had a meeting with the councillor last week as she wanted to say how I am retreating into myself and no longer talking. Before the meeting, he sat me down and for half an hour explained what I must do and say in the meeting, or else it's pointless going. I got quite cross and unlike me turned around and said he was being patronising and I knew what the purpose was, he got cross and told me off. Anyway after the meeting this went on more, resulting in me going home with my daughter (the 2 year old).
He came home that evening telling me he was cross with my disrespectful behaviour.
The next day I had hospital appointment, after which he came home when I turned up, I had had a biopsy, wanted a cup of tea and a lay down. I went to the loo, he was in the sitting room hadn't said hello or anything, I put the kettle on, he walked in and said 'Are you not going to come and tell me what happened then?' In a real arsey way.
After the councillor telling me to stop being so wet (not her words) I actually laughed and he asked what I was laughing at, I said being told off again. To which he started ranting, to which I said 'I can't hear you (I couldn't) but I assume you're telling me off as you you seem to spend your life doing that.'
He shouted and stormed off. Comes back later when the 2 year is napping, I said i didn't want to talk, so he starts shouting and wakes her up then storms off again.
In the evening I was sorting DD birthday present she's 18, he summoned me into a room, he gave me some money for her present, I said it's fine I didn't want it right now.
I was making vouchers for driving lessons for her and putting them in a box, so it was a bit of something lovely to open rather than just an envelope with them in.
So he waited for me to go to bed, I had been up all night the previous night with a poorly 2 year old. He called DD to the sitting room gave her £300 in cash ( I had said we wouldn't do cash as that's crap for an 18 and she'd waste it and lessons would get booked). He said this is for you to have driving lessons. She was so happy thinking that he for once done something for her for her birthday.
But when she opened her present from me (and him) this morning the dawning realisation set in on her face and poor thing felt so awkward and apologised to me!
I am so angry he to that excitement from her and think he did it out of spite to me.
This is all since Wednesday by the way.
Aibu?