9 weeks pregnant with DC2 and OH is not happy about it, we agreed we'd like another baby in the future but hadn't planned on trying for a few years. Contraception failed (coil) and here we are, I want the baby and he doesn't. We've been together 4 years.
I have posted about my coil failure on here before before I NC, so please no lectures on contraception.
He has an older child from a previous relationship who he hasn't seen for eight months due to the fact the mother stops and starts contact when it suits her. She has never wanted me and our DC (her childs half sibling) to have anything to do with her daughter so it has been difficult from the get go. Since she has stopped contact this last time, one of many, OH has done nothing but mope about yet refuses to get off his backside and take it to court.
He states the above as a big part of the reason he doesn't want this baby, because he "has two children already but is only seeing one" I reminded him that he's done fuck all to secure court ordered contact where the mother can't pick and choose when he's allowed to see the child, so he can't play the victim when he's not doing his bit.
I'm anti abortion (no judgement toward others) so aborting isn't an option, although I very nearly considered it for a day or two thanks to his constant doom and gloom when I raise the topic, and then i come to my senses.
He has emotionally checked out of the pregnancy and is acting as though its not happening, not wanting to discuss it or have a proper conversation.
I've lost sleep over the whole thing and am absolutely gutted, only for him to call me just now from work and rant for 17 minutes straight about his colleague getting on his nerves.
I hung up and told him not to bother me with trivial crap when there are real life matters going on under his nose.
Aibu to think he's a complete waste of space who has no business fathering children If he can't step up to the plate