To be pissed off with people saying 'I am not sending any Christmas card this year, I am donating the money to charity.'

[chrisinthesun]

Just admit you can't be arsed to send any.

And is the charity you are supposedly donating to, going to go wild about the 1.99p it would have cost for a box/pack of 50 Christmas cards? 🙄

I suppose some people will come on here and say they send at least 2 dozen cards out by post/abroad etc, and that costs them £50-60 in postage, but most people don't do this. Most people just send them to neighbours, close family, acquaintances, and work colleagues.

As I said, just admit you can't be arsed, and bore off with the sanctimonious 'I am not giving out any Christmas cards this year, I am giving the money to charity' line. (I bet most people who say this, don't even give anything to charity 'instead of sending out Christmas cards.')

Most charities ARE self serving and pointless

Say what now? Do fuck off.

I can't be arsed to send cards...and I don't lie about it either 😂. I was so fed up reading the Facebook posts about 'donating to charity' last year that I put my own, truthful, one up that said 'You won't get a card from me this year, just like you didn't last year...no charities will be benefiting from my slackness either...I just can't be arsed' 💁‍♀️.

I don't actually give a f@£k what anyone does or doesn't do, but lets at least be honest about it 🤷‍♀️

I love writing and receiving cards.

I get a little annoyed when people who happily buy unnecessary items all year suddenly go sanctimonious about Christmas cards. Why don't they give up wine so the bottle doesn't have to be recycled, or chocolate so the wrappers don't go on the bin?

I send cards to people I don't see often, but for people I see every day? Nope, can't be arsed and say so. I do weaken and return cards to people who insist on giving me one anyway though.

I think it's sad, I love giving and receiving cards. I also care about charitable causes, which is why I buy charity Christmas cards and pilfer a few stamps from the office stationery cupboards

I also love giving and receiving cards, though I don’t receive many back to be honest. I think most people can’t be arsed these days, especially my generation (25-35). I’m not on any social media either so luckily I don’t have to worry about the sanctimonious posts. The charity thing would annoy me. Surely most of us give to charity anyway, we just don’t tell everyone - it’s pretty crass to tell people when you give to charity imo.

I find it really hard to receive Christmas cards. DH died 10 days before Christmas and it’s realky hard not to mentally go back to that horrendous month in 2016. It hurts receiving Happy Christmases.

It’s even harder to write cards without DHs name on it, but I do send some to those who have supported us since DH died, and to relatives - especially DH’s - with some photos of the kids inside.

I don’t send as many cards as I used to. It’s hard to find the time as a lone working parent, especially now the children want to write cards to so many of their classmates and they need help because they’re little.

I was so pleased when a few friends posted on Facebook that they were donating to the main charity that raises money for the illness DH died from instead of sending Christmas cards. I know it’s a good charity - I did my research before embarking on fundraising with friends and family that’s seen us raise over £40k in less than five years.

It’s good to be kind and generous towards others at Christmas in terms of how you think about them surely, as well as what you give? Judging people for sending or not sending cards, giving or not giving to charity, seems rather anti Christmas spirit.

I only post to explain don’t expect a card. I see family and good friends in person. I donate to abplaxe that makes Christmas meals for the homeless, food and dogs treats to dogs trust and money to a hospice close to our heart. I only say a few words on social media ‘thanks for the cards I am spending card money on pooches’ I don’t give a shiny shit if anyone thinks it’s virtue signalling or whatever.

I find the number of cards I get has really dwindled in recent years. I don't think it's because I suddenly have fewer friends. I think it's because a lot of people just text now.

While I hate to see old customs dying, I also hate sending out twenty odd cards and getting about ten back.

Research So sorry. That must be very difficult.

YANBU

It is laziness and bad manners I think.

I love Christmas cards, writing and receiving. People who don't send them are rude - and I think they lie about giving to charity. Next time they say that I will ask to see the receipt. And what if they are donating to a charity I don't like?

Misers, miserable bah humbug misers.

People who don't send them are rude

WTF?! Why is it rude? And as for asking for a receipt for the charity... the mind boggles. Christmas cards aren’t a necessity. People have the right to choose whether they send them or not, even if they don’t give the money they would have spent to charity.

don’t you ever experience the joy of receiving a card from someone who you perhaps haven’t seen for a while

No I don't. If people want to be in proper contact they will be. I'm not interested in a force of habit card. I don't see it as them thinking of me - they're just going through their Christmas Card list.

I see how much joy they bring to my mum and dad so I keep sending them. I think it's rather sad that Christmas cards will probably die out before I die. A sign of the times.
When a friend said that she loved my card and it was on her mantelpiece but that she wasn't going to bother sending any herself I made a mental note to cross her off my list!

I don’t get this either. By all means let people know ‘please don’t send me a card, I’d rather you donated the money to x charity’ but to not send them yourself you are essentially making a choice for people to donate to a charity of your choice on their behalf.
What if I don’t want the equivalent of my Christmas card going to ‘help the pooches’? What if I’d prefer to receive a Christmas card with the thought about me that implies or what if I’d rather give 20p to the lifeboats instead?

Actually next time someone says they are donating to charity I will make a point of asking which charity (and if I am feeling brave I might ask them how they decided what would be an appropriate amount to donate).

I have a relative that did this last year. Old family members would have loved a card from them or their children. They were simply lazy. We never get thank you notes from the kids either despite lovely birthday presents and the kids being old enough to write them. It's sad but folk are pretty lazy these days.

I think notes in general are out of fashion now. We never do thank you notes/cards, I get my daughter to call the person and actually say thank you to them.

My friends and myself put up the link/thanks/confirmation of said charity on their facebook, when declaring no cards.

I always give cards to close family, neighbours ( who are not on my facebook) and they're always children's charity cards.

"Times are a changing" .. think of the trees... you can personalise, add giphs, sparkles, whatever you like really and wish everybody a Merry Christmas, via social media/text/email.
and never in my life have I paid £1.99 for 1 card, never mind 50 !?

So, it really has nothing to do with " Can't being arsed" and it certainly isn't sanctimonious, so why are you 'pissed off' with this?

There isn't any of my friends who I think for a moment are telling lies and pretend they've given to charity, instead of buying cards.

Be kinder spirited, read a few books and stop being a pleb, this might be why you're not receiving Christmas cards!

It's 2018. Does anyone still send Christmas cards? I don't think I have given any out since I left school in 2000. I certainly never get any apart from one woman at work and I will be honest I just put hers in the bin because I hate clutter. I see her every day so not sure why she just can't say "happy Christmas".

I am crap at sending cards (kept never getting round to writing them until it was too late) so the charity donation is a fab excuse for me. I win and charity wins.
Can't see a problem

YABU I can't stand Christmas cards. Just a load of clutter and crap to be honest. I always bin them!

It's a massive waste of paper and time plus the money would be better spent going to a charity.

@Research
I know in our church there were hundreds of cards being exchanged among a group of people who saw each other every Sunday. So one year there was a table put at the back where people could put a card / message to the whole congregation, and a collection was done for a charity we supported. I think another year people were encouraged to donate items to the food bank in lieu of cards. It’s actually become a really nice tradition. (I think cards are still sent to the elderly and housebound, along with flowers etc, who can’t make it to services any more.) Lots of offices locally have started doing similar and having a food bank collection instead of cards for colleagues (I volunteered at the food bank for several years so I saw the good that this did first hand).

We get hundreds of cards every years. Every single person I know here does the family photo card. Ughhhhhh. People actually ask me why I don't do them!

When I was a child back in the Dark Ages it was really normal to have a hundred cards in the house and we would write letters (not newsletters) to go in each card we sent out. But...contact was so much less as the phone was very expensive, no email, no texting. It's progress and more continuous contact that has caused the decline in Christmas cards.