To be pissed off with people saying 'I am not sending any Christmas card this year, I am donating the money to charity.'

[chrisinthesun]

Just admit you can't be arsed to send any.

And is the charity you are supposedly donating to, going to go wild about the 1.99p it would have cost for a box/pack of 50 Christmas cards? 🙄

I suppose some people will come on here and say they send at least 2 dozen cards out by post/abroad etc, and that costs them £50-60 in postage, but most people don't do this. Most people just send them to neighbours, close family, acquaintances, and work colleagues.

As I said, just admit you can't be arsed, and bore off with the sanctimonious 'I am not giving out any Christmas cards this year, I am giving the money to charity' line. (I bet most people who say this, don't even give anything to charity 'instead of sending out Christmas cards.')

I absolutely love sending and receiving cards. I like the personal touch. There's something not quite as special about a generic text message sent to all contacts!

I cannot believe you "PMSL"ed at a woman whose children have died. Actual mouth hanging open.

Agree, it is virtue signalling at its worst.

'Ooooooooh, look at ME not sending Christmas cards, and giving the three quid to Charity instead. Woo hoo!!!' 😂😂😂

Give yourself a big carrot!

Yes it kind of irritates me too. I just think they are two separate things: decide whether to send cards or not, and decide whether to give to charity or not. Why link them? For most people, whether or not they send cards isn't going to make a real difference to whether they can afford to donate or not. And I bet there is no relation whatsoever between whether people send cards and how much they give to charity on average. People don't say "I'm not going to the pub, and I'll give the money to charity" do they? So why cards? Maybe because going to the pub is more fun than writing cards.

I don't send many cards these days. Unlike other people, I don't give them to anyone I see around Xmas - so no close family, colleagues, neighbours, friends I tend to see quite often. I only give them to people I won't see in December/New Year - but would like to! It's actually not all that many...

Anyone who's already posting about sending Christmas cards needs their head read.

I don't send cards. We make a charity donation. Christmas cards are clutter and a total waste of money and resources.

@Buzzlightyearsbumchin yes I'm so sorry for your losses. And that people can be such assholes.

Are you seriously fucking laughing at a poster that has lost two children??
You should be ashamed.

Buzz-I am so so sorry for your loss

YABU. It's pure laziness.

Someone who has been through that can post whatever the fuck they want, in my view.

@irregularegular

Yes it kind of irritates me too. I just think they are two separate things: decide whether to send cards or not, and decide whether to give to charity or not. Why link them? For most people, whether or not they send cards isn't going to make a real difference to whether they can afford to donate or not. And I bet there is no relation whatsoever between whether people send cards and how much they give to charity on average. People don't say "I'm not going to the pub, and I'll give the money to charity" do they? So why cards? Maybe because going to the pub is more fun than writing cards.

Yeah exactly. As a few posters have said, it's pure virtue signalling.

Your opinions are twatty because why do you care what people do or do not do with regards to Christmas cards and their money?

Usage of "virtue signalling" as some kind of devastating put down is also a sign of being twatty.

You didn't read her post properly? What the fuck did you think it said?

I do this. Beyond the charitable side to it though (and the little bit of publicity that everyone’s ‘chosen charity’ gets on social media) I absolutely HATE the environmental impact of getting cards that are so obligatory-sent, often only have a name written in them and are binned/recycled the day after Boxing Day. Personal pet hate though. I’m sure there are bigger issues that I could get my knickers in a twist about though!

And yes, I do give the money. My DH and I also ask anyone who wants to buy a gift for us to donate the money on our behalf too. For us, Christmas is a time to be humble, charitable and grateful for what we already have.

I'm not religious or commercial so I don't do xmas at all.

If people are still going to send cards or give gifts after knowing that, what can I do?

I am very good at keeping in touch with everyone throughout the year.

Many apologies but....................... is not an actual apology.

PMSL 🤣🤣🤣 (real funny that)

@racecardriver

It's pure laziness

Yeah I agree. People should at least admit it.

I don't send Christmas cards, apart from to my parents, my sister and family, my Ex's parents and his sister and family. I don't make an announcement that I have donated to charity instead; I just do.
The paper waste involved in sending cards is frightening, although I do appreciate that some older people like the contact.

are binned/recycled the day after Boxing Day

Ours don't even hang around that long... straight into the recycling the day they arrive! Don't like the look of them in the house. Just tatty clutter.

A cursory sorry. I'd be apologising my fucking head off if I'd done that not racking on a 'sorry not sorry' at the end.

@chrisinthesun how about you donate to a charity for Buzz after that display.

Buzz we donate every year and I'm sure a lot of mnetters do. Maybe if you felt comfortable putting a charity on here we could donate to it for you.

I also think a good idea at Christmas is the local homeless shelter to provide warmth and food on Christmas day.

Why start a thread if you're only going to skim it?

Wow chris that's some response.

I do feel the need to call your opinions twatty because very fucking year me and many other bereaved parents I know get this and we feel like we have to explain ourselves every single year when Christmas without our children is bad enough. We have to constantly prove ourselves and our reasons worthy enough to get a pass from people who judge situations such as this.

Think beyond your own experiences and why some people may do this.

Thank you to the kind posters who understand and were sympathetic