To be pissed off with people saying 'I am not sending any Christmas card this year, I am donating the money to charity.'

[chrisinthesun]

Just admit you can't be arsed to send any.

And is the charity you are supposedly donating to, going to go wild about the 1.99p it would have cost for a box/pack of 50 Christmas cards? 🙄

I suppose some people will come on here and say they send at least 2 dozen cards out by post/abroad etc, and that costs them £50-60 in postage, but most people don't do this. Most people just send them to neighbours, close family, acquaintances, and work colleagues.

As I said, just admit you can't be arsed, and bore off with the sanctimonious 'I am not giving out any Christmas cards this year, I am giving the money to charity' line. (I bet most people who say this, don't even give anything to charity 'instead of sending out Christmas cards.')

tell not let

Just a suggestion, but perhaps this would make more sense if you were to go and see for yourself some of the situations that reputable charities are helping and witness the callousness and cruelty that has led to such suffering. It might help you understand where people are coming from when they give and highlight the charity they've given to as a way of making others aware of the need in that area. The injustice those groups are suffering is heinous - would definitely put virtue signalling (if that is what your friend was doing) into context.

This is so sad. Is it really about charity vs Christmas cards? No it isn’t. For those of you saying that Christmas cards just end up in a land fill, don’t you ever experience the joy of recieving a card from someone who you perhaps haven’t seen for a while? People who remember each other enough to write and say hello?
It’s certainly not all about being ‘green ‘ either. I bet there’s loads of people who moan about the paper waste who buy shit loads of plastic shite. I could go on but I won’t cos it’s self explanatory and very depressing.
Send a Christmas card with fucking good will to all man kind why don’t you?!

People still give and receive Xmas cards? Wow I haven't had one in at least 7 or 8 years 😳

Seriously can't get wound up at people not wanting to receive Christmas cards and decide to donate to charity instead. Seems like a nice thing to do. Not everyone wants to receive them for whatever reason, maybe they think they clutter, not environmentally friendly, social media messages and virtual cards are enough, I don't know. All valid reasons and people shouldn't huff just because they don't want any.
Sometimes people don't feel up to writing cards. I found it a struggle mentally last year to get them all written and posted on time. Don't understand why some take it as a personal slight if they don't receive a card but get wished a very happy Christmas either in person or over social media. You're still being thought of and wished happy thoughts.

Yeah I think it’s daft. It’s a crappy little donation anyway, what’s the big deal? Smug off, I want a card

Fk me, you sound delightful. All "crappy little donations" when put together add up to make lots of money for charities. It's not always about giving loads, people give to charities close to their heart as it all helps and it's not about giving big showy donations in some misguided belief that that's what's important.

For those of you saying that Christmas cards just end up in a land fill, don’t you ever experience the joy of receiving a card from someone who you perhaps haven’t seen for a while? People who remember each other enough to write and say hello?

Why would you send a card to someone you no longer see? If you can't be bothered to interact with them during the rest of the year, why waste their time at Christmas? You can say hello any time, so why not pick up a phone and do it, instead of waiting until December?

I give up. I still maintain Christmas cards are a very lovely thing.

Christmas cards are a lovely thing.I still like to receive them. I don't judge those who can't send them for any reason though or would prefer to donate to charity instead of getting or sending one.

I love Christmas cards, sending and receiving. I don't give or receive so many now, my family and acquaintances are far less in number than in previous years which is normal as life goes on.

If you buy cards from charities, you are giving money to charity as well as brightening up someone's day.

A big merry Christmas to you rainbowsandsmiles 😊

It’s so cringey when an OP humiliates themselves and then only replies to people who agree with them, with lots of trashy ‘lol’s and emojis to indicate the sheer banter.

This.

I can't believe anyone is getting worked up about people saying they are giving money to charity. My friends are nice people, I like them, if I see someone donating to charity I think, ohh, that's nice, and if its a charity I like, sometimes it encourages me to donate too. If that pisses you off, well, it says more about you really.

And cards are a pain in the arse, I send very few these days.

Why thankyou, aintnothing. We're a little early but a very merry Christmas to you too lol.

have a joyful and merry one and I hope the cards you send will spread joy and love 😉x

I don't think you're being unreasonable.

Sending cards is a tedious chore, but we do it. And I absolutely love receiving cards from people at Christmas time.

Why not do both?

Donate to charity and send a few cards. Why does it have to be either / or?

Of course by doing that, you wouldn't be able to make the whole social media announcement that you're donating to charity.... 🤔

If you're still sending Christmas cards, charities really do benefit from them - from awareness as well as fundraising, especially the smaller ones.

www.cardsforcharity.co.uk do a brilliant range of national and local causes.

Get them at local volunteer-run pop up shops, or online. At least 75% of the purchase price goes back to the charities.

I gave up on Christmas Cards years ago. Don't sent any to family or friends any more. The only ones I do send now are to my neighbours. For some reason they are important to me and I send them with a genuine good will to all a very happy new year message. My friend and family don't need cards because I can tell them in person but somehow it's important to me to give that message to random people who live next door/across the street.

"It’s so cringey when an OP humiliates themselves and then only replies to people who agree with them, with lots of trashy ‘lol’s and emojis to indicate the sheer banter.*"
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Shocking lack of self awareness.

I actually do give to charity at Christmas £10 to cerebra for brain injured children and £10 to the donkey sanctuary. Cerebra get another £10 mid year too. I'm on benefits or I'd give more. I send one card every year to a neighbour and have been working through the same box for several years now. But you're right, i truly cannot be arsed, I'll phone, text, email or see someone. I also throw away any cards i receive the minute I have read them.

@notangelinajolie exactly. The lady that makes me Welsh cakes every Christmas even though she's never met me always gets a card with a photo of my son.

My Gramdma's friend who I've never met but looks forward to getting the 5 cards she gets I send one to.

Sending for the sake of it is ridiculous. But it really makes some people feel good and that's a big thing.

Btw I don't mention to anyone IRL that I give anything to charity i just thought it was a great opportunity to mention those 2.

We have become increasingly unChristmassy in my family. I give my YA DCs money directly into their banks and have my parents over (live locally) for basically a Sunday roast then we all go for a big dog walk. That's it, no decorations, no wrapping, no presents, no leftovers. I do miss it but my whole family have zero romance in their souls and i was pushing against the tide.

I send Christmas Cards to immediate family I must admit I like the Mum/Niece/Auntie type cards. They're the only ones I put up. The only other ones I send are to friends who live in the same village and that's only because the Church does a postie service that only costs 20p per card & the money goes to charity

Any other cards I get I don't even put up. Pretty much all my friends are the same.

I think in time Christmas Cards will go the same way as postcards & very few will be sent.

Always send cards to friends and family. Do it because I care about them and want them to know I'm thinking about them.
I do have a rule though and that is if I don't receive a card back for 2 years I don't bother anymore.
Love to receive cards too.
And I donate (quietly) to charity.
[santa]

"For those of you saying that Christmas cards just end up in a land fill, don’t you ever experience the joy of receiving a card from someone who you perhaps haven’t seen for a while? People who remember each other enough to write and say hello?"

No not really and I hate the ones with a family newsletter. I don't give a toss that baby marigold who we've never met or will has learnt to dribble sophisticatedly or that you've been of a cruise. Tell your loved ones you seen not every Tom dick and Harry send coloured in paper to!