To be pissed off with people saying 'I am not sending any Christmas card this year, I am donating the money to charity.'

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Just admit you can't be arsed to send any.

And is the charity you are supposedly donating to, going to go wild about the 1.99p it would have cost for a box/pack of 50 Christmas cards? 🙄

I suppose some people will come on here and say they send at least 2 dozen cards out by post/abroad etc, and that costs them £50-60 in postage, but most people don't do this. Most people just send them to neighbours, close family, acquaintances, and work colleagues.

As I said, just admit you can't be arsed, and bore off with the sanctimonious 'I am not giving out any Christmas cards this year, I am giving the money to charity' line. (I bet most people who say this, don't even give anything to charity 'instead of sending out Christmas cards.')

You clearly have way too much time on your hands OP. I am.going to make a charity contribution in your name after reading this thread.

Take that for virtue signalling or whatever shite you want

What if I don’t want the equivalent of my Christmas card going to ‘help the pooches’? What if I’d prefer to receive a Christmas card with the thought about me that implies or what if I’d rather give 20p to the lifeboats instead?

But that suggests you’re somehow entitled to a Christmas card. You’re not. It’s a nice thing to do if someone wants to, but no one has a right to one. The money your friend or relative gave to ‘the pooches’ or similar is theirs, not yours. What don’t you understand about that?

FlapAttack - love it

I've not heard of anyone not giving Christmas cards because of charity, but I've heard of people not giving Christmas gifts instead of gifting that money they would have spent on the gift to charity, but usually that is mentioned in the card they send, so maybe OP is getting the two mixed up?

Anyway, does anyone still send/receive cards these days? I thought cards went out before the mobile era even.

But to answer the question, I think it is self-righteous and an attempt at grandstanding. I would wager that many people who were to receive the gifts already donate to charities.

Flapattack

CoughLaughFart of course I’m not entitled to a Christmas card from anyone and the person who is not giving them is very welcome to give their money to the pooches or whatever cause they want but then don’t dress it up as instead of Christmas cards. That implies that I was ‘entitled to’/ going to be given one but instead the giver has decided on my behalf to give to their charity of choice instead, which as I said, might not be mine.

I would totally understand and respect the reverse where someone put a FB post or similar up saying ‘please don’t send me cards this year, I’d rather you made a donation to x’.

I am doing the very thing that pisses you off, but I am not doing it to be virtuous. Yes, I cannot be arsed but only my nearest and dearest know that. I am also giving a reasonable amount of money (again which I will not broadcast) to a charity who have given a lot of support to a friend of mine.

That implies that I was ‘entitled to’/ going to be given one but instead the giver has decided on my behalf to give to their charity of choice instead, which as I said, might not be mine.

No - it implies that they were going to spend that money on you, but have it to charity instead. There’s no ‘on your behalf’ about it.

That implies that I was ‘entitled to’/ going to be given one but instead the giver has decided on my behalf to give to their charity of choice instead, which as I said, might not be mine

No. It just means that rather than spend their money on Christmas cards, they will spend their money on a charity of their choice. It’s not on your behalf, it’s choosing how to spend their own money.

I wouldn't criticise anyone for doing this.

With social media and texting, it seems pointless to send Christmas cards these days. Years ago (pre mobile phones) it was good to send them to people you rarely got to see or who didn't even have a landline phone.
I send out five or six to people I worked with years ago and have never seen since. We swop news in our cards.

It's nice to exchange Christmas cards with friends who I'm not in contact with on Facebook or via text, but other than that, sending cards is just another chore in the run-up to Christmas like Christmas shopping.

Sometimes I do wonder why I'm bothering, but the same thing could be said about all of the Christmas season. Why entertain my MIL and cook a turkey, why the stockings and presents? Why decorate a Christmas tree?

But I participate in it every year, and do enjoy seeing how much my DDs enjoy it.

I can definitely see why people can't be bothered to send YOU a card.

I'm not sending any cards this year, not even to close family, nor am I giving the money to charity. I do give gifts though.
I can't be arsed to be honest, there is enough to do without wasting time on a card.
They are just an inconvenience even having to open them.
They are handy for lighting the fire though.

Total waste of time money and thankfully card sending is slowly dying out.