To be pissed off with people saying 'I am not sending any Christmas card this year, I am donating the money to charity.'

[chrisinthesun]

Just admit you can't be arsed to send any.

And is the charity you are supposedly donating to, going to go wild about the 1.99p it would have cost for a box/pack of 50 Christmas cards? 🙄

I suppose some people will come on here and say they send at least 2 dozen cards out by post/abroad etc, and that costs them £50-60 in postage, but most people don't do this. Most people just send them to neighbours, close family, acquaintances, and work colleagues.

As I said, just admit you can't be arsed, and bore off with the sanctimonious 'I am not giving out any Christmas cards this year, I am giving the money to charity' line. (I bet most people who say this, don't even give anything to charity 'instead of sending out Christmas cards.')

some people think it's a damn lame excuse

I give less than one fuck what "some" people think. And after your appalling behaviour on this thread, I give even less than that about what you think
And are you giving yourself points for overuse of the phrase "virtue signalling", or something?

Yeah I think it’s daft. It’s a crappy little donation anyway, what’s the big deal? Smug off, I want a card

OMG let it GO!

Well as I am off work with a broken ankle for the next 4-5 weeks, I am going to write my cards and sort out what sort of presents I am going to buy whilst I cannot drive or weight bear!

Buzz

Chris, given Buzz's reasoning and your somewhat dismissive apology, do you feel it's appropriate to continue with your virtue signalling trope? Perhaps it would be wiser to apologise properly and ask Mumsnet HQ to delete the thread. It would certainly be kinder.

I do give money to my local hospice in memory of a loved one at Christmas.
I also think it's such a waste to send cards because it's something you "should" do, where you just sign your name and, job done. Send cards that are genuine, with a handwritten note for the recipient.

So now charities are shit too? Hmmm, ok

Buzz sorry for your loss and for the so called apology you received because someone was too lazy to read your post.

I only give cards to close family members and I couldn't give a flying crap whether anyone thinks I can't be assed or whether I give to charity. I really can't summon up the energy to get enraged because people don't send Christmas cards.

@glintandglide

Yeah I think it’s daft. It’s a crappy little donation anyway, what’s the big deal? Smug off, I want a card.

LOL yeah exactly!

I HATE virtue signalling. And as a few posters have said, why tell everyone about it? it's just an excuse to not send any. At least OWN it.

I hate people telling me they've donated to charity full stop, cards or not.

Why can't they donate (if they want) AND send cards. Tight bastards.

YABU
I hate cards.
And a waste of paper!

I totally agree, but I’m always honest, and say “I can’t be arsed”

@tinytemper66

Well as I am off work with a broken ankle for the next 4-5 weeks, I am going to write my cards and sort out what sort of presents I am going to buy whilst I cannot drive or weight bear!

Well I am not writing mine out YET, but I will be by mid November.

I don’t think you need to worry about the floods of cards clogging your letter box op. You seem absolutely determined to bang on about ‘virtue signalling’. It proabaly is just the person explaining why they aren’t sending a card. I send cards to 5 people only.

So sorry to hear about your loss Buzz!

I think it's a sign of the times

It used to be you'd send Christmas Cards to old neighbours of your parents and uni friends you don't see anymore as a way of letting them know you still think of them

"Should old acquaintance be forgot" etc

Nowadays all those people on Facebook and you never drop them a comment but you nose at their photos

It's due to both can't be arsedness and wastefulness but the nostalgia element is gone too

I'd say as a tradition it's dead within a generation as a quaint relic of the past

Yes it's sad and particularly for lonely people but that's how societal trends evolve

I'm really not expected any/many cards this year and didn't get many last year

I was moving house around Christmas and couldn't get round to it but it's definitely dying out even among my age group 35-40

Yeah I think they could give to charity AND send cards too!

And as a pp said, just say you're not doing it this year.

I enjoy card making as a hobby but have cut down to immediate family because of cost mainly but also the environment.

I don't see what's wrong with sending/ not sending cards for any reason, and I'm really glad charities that matter to people are getting support from those choosing to donate. When a few people have told me they're donating over the years it's always been because they are giving to a charity they care about. I think that's a nice thing. I don't think I know any 'virtue signallers' who are just telling me for the kudos!

Yes pawnee I agree. Many people of the younger generation now don't bother so much. And many of them DO only send to older relatives (55+.) There are a few older people in my family who would never forgive ANYone who didn't send them a card

I don’t see the point of cards at all. Waste of money and trees.

My mother writes a virtue signalling Facebook post (to match all her other Facebook posts tbh) every year about what a fucking amazing person she is as she is donating to charity instead, in case all of her admirers around the globe wonder why they haven’t received one, as if any fucker cares.

My mil on the other hand measures hers and others worth by how many cards are received, at Christmas and other occasions (“I’ve done really well for cards this year, I have 103 already and it’s only October”) and comments on our lack of cards when at our house, and fucking reads them all when we are out of the room (I know this as she found out we had contact with dh’s dad, having assumed we were non contact, by reading our cards)

I like getting handwritten things in the post. The cards look decorative when put up. I have quite a limited list, the number received dwindles each year. If we really wanted to save paper we could not bother wrapping presents I suppose.
I do get fucked off with a generic Facebook message that goes something along the lines of “I am so very touched by all of the wonderful cards that I’ve received from my amazing friends and family. This year I have decided to donate to charity instead. Happy Christmas Everybody”. I usually interpret that as someone who likes feeling wanted but can’t be arsed to reciprocate.

I like cards.
I like seeing what people chose to send out and what type of cards we receive. It's nice people put effort in. Shows they care.
I hate trite messages on social media for exactly the same reasons.

I also am so sorry for your loss, @Buzzlightyearsbumchin no words.

I actually completely respect people who give to charity rather than send Christmas cards. I always end up sending cards because it's the expected thing to do. But it is a waste of money with the cost of postage these days.