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Why would he need 2 iPhones ??!

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Feelsick18 · 19/09/2018 18:14

NC for this. ‘Dh’ works away most of the week. He recently got a new company iPhone, but kept his old one.
I use find my iPhone app while he’s away to see if he’s back from the office in his hotel room so I know it’s a good time to call most evenings. I noticed tonight that not only has he got his new iPhone and I pad away with him, but his old iPhone too... and it’s online... why would he need it?? I’ve got a horrible feeling in my gut....

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fanfan18 · 20/09/2018 09:35

I think you should just text him and say you were checking the find my iphone app to see if he made it to his hotel yet and wondered why he'd taken both phones?

TheDowagerCuntess · 20/09/2018 09:50

i don't understand how this works, surely if he has a new phone with the same number then the old phone is defunct, as the number went to the new phone and the old one won't be working unless he has a new sim for it

You can still log into wifi and use old phones - DC have our old phones, they can't make calls as they don't have SIMs, so they're just in effect a mini ipad.

NerrSnerr · 20/09/2018 09:57

@Feelsick18 have you actually asked him what he's using it for?

GinDaddy · 20/09/2018 10:16

I really do not understand these kind of posts OP.

Is everyone so in love with the idea of being an amateur sleuth, that they’d rather do that than actually ask their partner?

Again similarly, what did we do before we were able to see our partner’s location dot on a map? We spoke to each other. He could call hands-free from the car, he could text to say he’s in a meeting... why the emphasis on the location thingy? (Yes I know we have evolved from the larder and the horse and trap, and tech is useful, but this? Hmm.)

Anyways my main point is, it’s surely easier to talk instead of all this guessing and subterfuge. I’d make a terrible husband for you because I couldn’t stand the immediate mistrust, and would wonder what I’d done to deserve it

wombat1a · 20/09/2018 10:28

I still use my old phone sometimes as well as my current 18 month old one. The old one has a payg card in it and I very often carry it instead of the new one so that if something happens I don't lose my main phone. Seems normal to me.

Failingat40 · 20/09/2018 10:51

I think we can credit the op with enough knowledge about her husband of 20+ years that her gut instinct is telling her something is 'off'.

I'd be suspicious too, it's funny how he'd need the old phone that's been lying dead in a drawer for the last 2 months because he's on a business trip.

Unfortunately men being men seem to look at these trips as an opportunity to stray without being caught and that's the only reason I can see him needing a different phone. Hook ups/hookers would be my first thought. Porn use, not so much. You can get that in the hotel room.

The other motivation for taking it may be so he can leave one at work/hotel so you think he's being a hard working husband while he's off to strip bars or wherever not thinking that you can actually see both phones online.

The fact is, you're never going to know. He's gone and no man will ever admit to anything he can't be absolutely proven to have done.

You can't control him or his behaviour, you need to either let it go and stay married to him knowing he is a porn user (this can and does lead to other things imo) or divorce and free yourself from the what ifs and torture of being unable to control him.

GinDaddy · 20/09/2018 11:13

“Unfortunately men being men seem to look at these trips as an opportunity to stray without being caught and that's the only reason I can see him needing a different phone.”

Hmm

Of course that’s the reason..

Oliversmumsarmy · 20/09/2018 11:22

I at the moment run 4 phones. Dp runs 2.

I know I am not running around having affairs. Nor is dp.

There are reasons why you run more than one phone.

Mine is because when I got my contract they were doing one phone for £12.50 per month (500 minutes 500 texts etc) add another for £7.50 for same deal and add another for a £5. So when I run out of minutes on one phone I start using 2nd and then 3rd. Much cheaper than topping up minutes.

Just got dds old iPhone which has my Fitbit on it to track my sleep

MeMyselfand · 20/09/2018 13:59

Just ask him why he's got the other phone it's not hard! I think if more people communicated with their partner instead of asking a bunch of random strangers what he's doing things might be a bit less drama in their lives

Eliza9917 · 20/09/2018 14:12

A company phone is just that - for company/business/work use only.

Most people I know that have a company phone also have their own personal phone too, I did when I had one. At one point I had 3 phones.

Eliza9917 · 20/09/2018 14:22

Feelsick18 Wed 19-Sep-18 19:20:45
Re porn, where do you want me to start?! There’s enough threads on here about the porn industry and the exploitation of women. I don’t think I really need to qualify my dislike of the industry for many reasons.

Are you as militant about sweatshops? Do you never ever ever buy cheap clothes for instance? There is plenty of porn that isn't exploitative. It's really not that big a deal.

I have total trust in him which is why I’m so disturbed at him taking this phone away with him for no reason.

The find my phone thing says otherwise, surely you'd just call & if no answer or an engaged tone, just hang up?

Eliza9917 · 20/09/2018 14:29

Maybe he does want to watch porn on this other phone. But he knows my feelings on it. Sorry I’m not so cool as to accept that my husband likes watching other women fucking. But I’m not. So shoot me

You can dislike it all you like but you can't stop him doing it if he wants to. That would be psycho controlling.

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