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Why would he need 2 iPhones ??!

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Feelsick18 · 19/09/2018 18:14

NC for this. ‘Dh’ works away most of the week. He recently got a new company iPhone, but kept his old one.
I use find my iPhone app while he’s away to see if he’s back from the office in his hotel room so I know it’s a good time to call most evenings. I noticed tonight that not only has he got his new iPhone and I pad away with him, but his old iPhone too... and it’s online... why would he need it?? I’ve got a horrible feeling in my gut....

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ThunderInMyHeart · 19/09/2018 18:33

Like a PP, I once had three phones - two for work, one personal. I always wanted to keep personal and work lives separate...god knows what your employer monitors on your search history, and also I just didn't want work life bleeding into real life.

I wouldn't automatically think affair.

WhenIWasAYoungWarthog · 19/09/2018 18:33

So did his company phone replace his previous company phone? Or is it one work gave him and he still has his usual phone? My dh works away mon-fri. He has a work phone, a personal phone and his iPad to watch films on in the evening. It’s never occurred to me that he’d be doing anything nefarious.

WhenIWasAYoungWarthog · 19/09/2018 18:35

Well it could be anything he doesn’t want work seeing. Watching dodgy YouTube videos, watching violent films, googling stuff and/ or watching porn.

ThunderInMyHeart · 19/09/2018 18:36

It's only been 8 weeks too - maybe he hasn't bothered to sell the phone on yet

Dljlr · 19/09/2018 18:38

There's just no point in rowing about porn use, there really isn't. If that's what he's taken it for then at least he's confining his jollies to his own hand, which renders the taking of the phone his business entirely. Have you asked him why he's got it with him?

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Feelsick18 · 19/09/2018 18:38

To clarify:
His phone is provided by work. He uses it for both work and personal things, so he only needs to carry one phone.
The old phone was defunct about 8 weeks ago and has been in his bedside drawer ever since. Until he took it away with him this week and is clearly using it for something as it’s online.
We use find my iPhone a lot as a couple, primarily for me to see what time he’ll be home depending on traffic, and when he’s away so I don’t FaceTime him with the kids whilst he’s still in the office and in a meeting!
Maybe I am jumping to conclusions. I just can’t think why he’d take it away with him when it doesn’t even have a SIM card in it.

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MrsStrowman · 19/09/2018 18:40

Are you sure he hasn't decided to separate work and personal like most people do, and just got a sim card for his old work phone? I like many others have a work and personal phone, I work away a lot and don't have a tablet too, but most of my colleagues do

RangeRider · 19/09/2018 18:41

Be logical OP. If you think he might be cheating on you why would he need 2 phones given that you know about both of them & see them around at home? He could cheat quite easily with just one! All he'd need to do is give this supposed bit on the side his new number, sorted. If he had a secret phone that you'd found hidden away then yes it would look dodgy, but he hasn't. He's merely taken his old & new phones away with him. Maybe his old phone has features he prefers or something? But it doesn't indicate cheating because you don't need 2 phones for that. Just ask him & I bet he has a perfectly reasonable explanation.

JensenElephant · 19/09/2018 18:41

Maybe I am jumping to conclusions. I just can’t think why he’d take it away with him when it doesn’t even have a SIM card in it.

because there is wifi in the hotel and he is using it to go online. No-one would go online from a company phone- it will probably be be trackable and so even if it is doing an ocado order it makes it public property..

HopefullyAnonymous · 19/09/2018 18:42

Does it not need to have a SIM card in it for you to track it?

adaline · 19/09/2018 18:42

Maybe he uses it for WiFi in the hotel room or something? I don't think it's a reason to be suspicious!

MrsStrowman · 19/09/2018 18:42

Btw using find my iPhone to track a partner is a recipe for disaster because you have one tiny piece of information and no context, that leads to wild assumptions and jumping to conclusions, which will rarely be positive. Don't you think of he was doing something dodgy he'd leave his office at the hotel or turn it off as he knows you track him?

easyandy101 · 19/09/2018 18:42

Because one's a work phone and one's a private phone, with different numbers and different uses/allowances

I wouldn't give up the number I've had for 20 years just cos I had a work phone

Also lol at checking if it's a good time to ring

MrsStrowman · 19/09/2018 18:44

*leave his phone at the hotel

Alpacanorange · 19/09/2018 18:47

Not s great feeling but just ask him, if you check each other’s locations then tbh I think that is s good sign on this situation. The porn thing is shit but you can’t and shouldn’t try to monitor every moment of his tim away from you, it is not healthy.

fiorentina · 19/09/2018 18:53

I have two iPhones. Personal and work. It is quite usual I think. Did work let him keep the old phone for personal use. Our work policy won’t allow me to use work phone for personal calls/browsing.

whoareyou123 · 19/09/2018 18:54

Has he simply taken it with him because he needs to check/clean the contents before he returns it to his company?

LemonysSnicket · 19/09/2018 18:55

DP used his work one for work- so no FB, no games, no porn.
Because you do t want to get caught doing weird shit on your work phone.
So regular phone for life, work phone for work. V normal.

divadee · 19/09/2018 18:55

I had 3 phones in my old job. My personal one, work one and then I was the on call medic most days so had that one as well.

LemonysSnicket · 19/09/2018 18:55

Plus iPad for TV as bigger screen

Popc0rn · 19/09/2018 18:56

"We use find my iPhone a lot as a couple, primarily for me to see what time he’ll be home depending on traffic, and when he’s away so I don’t FaceTime him with the kids whilst he’s still in the office and in a meeting!"

So basically you use it to see where he is? He could just text you when he's leaving work surely? Takes 10 seconds and would make more sense then you repeatedly checking the find my iPhone thing?

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Feelsick18 · 19/09/2018 18:57

He uses the ‘new’ iPhone for everything, going online, Facebook etc etc. Which makes me think he’s using the old phone to go online for porn. He knows I hate it and we’ve nearly split up several times over his porn use. I don’t think he’s cheating. I also don’t think he realises that I could see that the old phone was online. Also, he has his iPad to browse the net which has nothing to do with his work, so why use this third device? It makes no sense to me. Unless it’s something he doesn’t want me to know about.
He’s not back until Friday so I guess I won’t know until then.

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LipstickHandbagCoffee · 19/09/2018 18:58

I have 2 phones work and personal
I don’t use the work phone socially and keep them both separate
It’s not necessarily sinister

Seniorschoolmum · 19/09/2018 18:58

If he works in an industry where jobs don’t last long, he doesn’t want to give all his friends his works number only to have to revert to the old one after a year.
Plus the huge effort of informing bank, mortgage co, utilities, tax office etc etc.
I usually have two phones.

blueskiespls · 19/09/2018 19:02

Did he transfer his original number to the new work phone?
Assuming he did, then the old one can't be used for much.

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