I recently ended up ending my friendship with my best friend of three years, ultimately due to her wedding, which is planned for August 2019. I was asked to be a bridesmaid and told she wasn’t having a maid of honour which is fine, I had no problem with this as I was happy just to be there and involved.
The whole drama started in a group chat where I said I was going to do a speech and she told me that I’d been pretty shy, hadn’t been interested in planning the wedding with her and that I had no interest in meeting her fiancés family.
I sent her a text trying to find out what was wrong and was hit with 7 long messages of things I had done ‘wrong.’
At the engagement party I transported balloons and also spent over 30 minutes setting up a balloon arch which was left to the last minute as her fiancé had failed to set up the marquee until an hour or two before the event started. I sat with ex work mates, one of which is also a bridesmaid. Another bridesmaid spent the night inside interacting with only a handful of people. She knows I’m an introvert and not comfortable nor have any desire to seek out and interact with people, though I did have a small conversation with the few people she introduced me to, because I wanted to make her happy.
The next morning we had to go back to get the car and she was mad at me for sitting down and talking to the few people there instead of helping her mother clean up after her party, even though she sat down the entire time to eat. I feel like this was a horrible thing to expect as my own personal opinion is you wouldn’t expect your friends to completely set up and clean up your party when you easily could do it, it just came down to poor planning and over catering.
We’ve been talking about her wedding for well over 2 years, well before she even got engaged. I’ve oohed and Ahhed and looked at so many things with her but apparently I wasn’t interested or excited enough for her, so much so that despite my attempts to go dress shopping with her, I wasn’t invited.
She even tried to have a go at me for not being there for the passing of her family cat, even though she never told me about it and I only found out two days later via social media.
We haven’t spoken nearly as much as we used to over the last few months, we’ve both been very busy with work and life in general, though she did try to tell me she speaks to the other bridesmaids more than me though I remember a time before she asked them where they didn’t speak to her for weeks and months at a time.
I said to her that our friendship was between us, not between her fiancés friends and family and that while I can be polite, have a conversation and get along with everyone for her wedding, I wasn’t interested in getting to know anyone beyond that, but apparently I’m a horrible person for wanting privacy and being myself?
After we decided to end our friendship, she asked for the bridesmaid box she had gifted me back and asked that I return it undamaged, needless to say I was gobsmacked by that, I couldn’t believe her cheek.
Don’t get me wrong, I was excited for her wedding, but with it being a year away and Talking about the wedding non stop it starts to wear you down, she really changed in the first few months she got engaged and I’m so heartbroken that this is how things ended.
Has anyone else been through something similar with a bridezilla? Or was I in the wrong?