To be sick and tired of the fucking menopause?

[Miladymilord]

I'm in bed. Feel wide awake, alternatively hot then cold. I've got leg cramps, greasy hair (wtaf), I feel really grumpy. Can't relax. I know ill wake up again in about 3 hours, drenched in sweat with restless legs. It's totally shit.

Thank you for the replies about memory - it IS reassuring to hear about other experiences and will be following the thread.

Just to add to the comments about ground flaxseed - I started putting it on cereal after colleague said it had helped her. I had been having lots of night sweats which have reduced - not sure if it’s coincidence.

Oh God.. Memory loss is awful.
I have lost words for thibgs... And I am a doctor and sometimes cannot recall the common word for a drug or diagnosis
It's so worrying I thought early dementia too

I started HRT last year using the Gel Oestrogen as I already have the mirena. Best thing I ever did, I was struggling badly with brain fog to the point of nearly losing my job (well I did but then switched to another internally), I’ve noticed the hot flushes creeping back in some I’m wondering if my dose needs adjusting. I had to reduce my dose a few months ago when there was a shortage on the product I use and I was a nightmare my poor DH and kids all noticed “how odd mummy has got” thankfully I was back to myself once the correct dosage was re-enstated but made me realise what an impact taking it has had on saving my sanity and marriage. I flipping hope BriExit doesn’t interrupt the supply of the product again as it comes from Europe.

I can start taking it tomorrow. I'm chickening out. Wondering whether to do supplements for a month.

What makes you want to chicken out, Milady? What are you planning to take?

Its the cyclical one. I've had two friends message me to say they developed breast cancer a few months after starting hrt

That's very sad to hear, I'm so sorry.

You have to do what's right for you.

Op, I would imagine that is coincidence and they already had cancer but undetected so far.

I've got a mammogram booked for mid October so maybe I'll just go for it...

I agree with Ihatethecold.

On the plus side you save a fortune on heating!

I too was diagnosed with breast cancer a few months after starting HRT but I believe the cancer was already growing and the HRT just accelerated the growth making the lump noticeable.

Sorry to hear the about the breast cancer diagnosis. Cancer does take a while to develop but if there is a cancer present that is fuelled by oestrogen then it makes sense that HRT would fuel that growth. So not cause it per se but create the environment where it flourishes.

I believe this happened with me and the pill. Can’t prove it though!!

Under 50, no increased risk found at all.

Over 50, the risk is equivalent to being obese or drinking one glass of wine a night.

Of course I totally get that for some this is a risk too far, however in my case - it has honestly changed my life. It would have to be one hell of an increase in the risk for me to come off it

HRT is a replacement

It is replacing a missing hormone.

It’s not adding more

Lostandfound81 - what HRT regime are you on? What products?

I'm really having a lot of hot flushes this week ... don't want HRT as had early stage Breast cancer 8 years ago .. just had a clear mammo so don't want to risk it .. do love my wine and coffee .. does anyone find it helps to cut them out .. ( sob ) .. does anyone know if Black Cohosh is ok with Tamoxifen ?

I’ve just missed my first period, def not pregnant, mid-late 40s. Like another poster I keep on getting cramps and then nothing. No other physical symptoms but everyone is getting on my last nerve!!

Evocol 50 patch

Ive just bitten the bullet and booked a private consultation at a menopause/ well woman clinic in oct.
My Gp was pretty rubbish when I spoke to her a year ago, said to come back when I haven't had a period for a year!
karma will get her in time I feel ( I'm kidding, she is a lovely Gp but like most, woefully inadequate when it come to peri and menopause)

We women do have a bum deal. I remember my first period at 11 and thinking there was no way I could do these for decades!! I had an early hysterectomy a few years back, don't miss it one bit. But my joints have started aching, my brilliant teeth, 2 of them have recently crumbled and my sex libido, well it was like some switch had been flicked at the time of my op - it vanished with my womb.

poster fieryginger are you on hrt? www.nhs.uk/conditions/hysterectomy/considerations/

53 - been through the heavy irregular periods, had 10 months til last one in may, none since them so am possibly over those now. Not too bad with the hot flushes (more warm), restless sleep is slightly improved by not drinking any liquid after 7pm, and taking magnesium citrate. My worst thing is loss of libido and dryness. Also my get up and go seems to have died a bit. Weight is fine, but I calorie count and weight train. Am thinking of oestrogen pessaries? Anyone tried them?

I think the nhs recommends oestrogen pessaries. Otherwise you can end up wit( vaginal atrophy and/or urinary tract problems. I use them, they work.

I was told that I could have oestrogen pessaries despite a breast cancer tumour that was fuelled by oestrogen. Feel wary though. Only because of my history.