To suspect DP had a fling with someone at DC after school activity.

[FrustratedDP]

NC for this.

DP & a Woman at this activity keep looking at each other, they seem to end up together chatting as soon as I go to see DD taking part.

I asked them both if they knew each other previously & they don’t.

She is not on his Facebook that I can see.

AIBU ?

MrsChollySawcutt on the set of Pride and Prejudice? I WISH, although I was still quite young and I didn't really appreciate the look until watching again older.
I'm not saying that's how the DH looked at the OW I'm saying the D'Arcy look is the very definition of "longing look"

Is this woman married?

• as a SP with a DD who does unreasonable amount of afterschool activities, I have found that it's often the Dads who will chat to me first and Mums give me filthy looks..... The Grandads REALLY go for it.

According to this logic I'm sleeping with all my DD's classmates fathers
I'm sleeping with one of mine and DH's good friends. When we meet up as couples with him and his wife, we (shock horror) greet each other with a big hug and a kiss on the cheek... In front of our spouses!!!

I also sit and work after school with a male colleague. We've been seen laughing and joking. Sometimes we even text each other about not work matters.
Essentially we are shagging all the time.

It's heartstopping and heartbreaking in its intensity

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-humber-45499334

Gut instinct

OP nobody can help you umless you're willing to actually write a proper paragrph giving actual information and examples

*Mumsnet logic -
Man accuses woman of having a thing for someone because he saw them talking / she text a colleague = LTB emotional abuse, paranoid, get your ducks in a row etc

Woman thinks man is having a fling because she has seen him talking to another woman = totes get it OP, there'll be subtle signals, believe your gut instinct it's there for a reason, go through his phone, you're not paranoid, do some snooping*

This is so accurate!

Twotailed
One way it's trust your gut instinct, we have gut instinct for a reason. The other way is how paranoid & controlling to weigh in on who you talk to.

I think there can be signs of something more.
2 people having a conversation isn't one of them.
A person going quiet and disengaging when the individual shooting them evils turns up isn't one of them

*OP:
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-humber-45499334

Gut instinct*

OP, surely you recognise that this is a preposterous comparison to make?!
You're comparing one man's "gut instinct" interpretation of a stranger's objectively suspicious pattern of behaviour towards vulnerable children, with your paranoid interpretation of, from what you've written, is completely innocuous behaviour from your husband and a woman you have an obvious dislike for?

SMFH.

Bluntness are you not a fan of that series? Either I'm a hopeless romantic or it's the Firth affect

Just because they chat?

There was a thread not long ago where someone thought her husband was having an affair and egged on to “trust her instincts” made a complete fool of herself confronting them about it (they weren’t).

Just because they chat?

How did this two-month-old thread pop up for you?

Ok, I'm going to give a different perspective.
A school mum once thought I was having an affair with her dp, because I said hello to him on occasion. Now she always gave me 'dirty looks', so I could never approach her to chat, but her dp was friendly and pleasant.
It turns out that he did have an affair, but with another school mum, and she just thought it was me in a desperation, he was acting suspiciously after all. So although his behaviour towards her had changed, she blamed the wrong woman. Because if we were fooling around, he would never have chatted to me so amiably in front of her.