How do I move on from the realisation that I will never achieve anything academically that means something to me?

[Puddingmama2017]

Just that really. I'm 30. I have no qualifications. I've been offered a place on an Access to Combined Sciences course, but I won't be able to take it. I really will never be able to have a career that means anything to me at this point.

I'm useless, pointless, defunct and worthless. The best I can hope for is just to potter along until death.

How do I move on?

Why can't you take the place on the course?

Why won't you be able to take the Access course?

No one to get my children to and from school on the days it runs. It's from 9 until 3 in a different town.

Potter along till death??? You're 30 years old!

Why can't you take the Access course? Have you looked at nightclasses? Have you looked at the OU?

What's your dream job?

Have you looked at the OU?

weird hollow, same wording too.

Is there no wraparound care at school? Are there not a couple of friends who could help out? I assume you can't afford a child minder.

Can't you ask the other parents if they can do it on the days the course runs, and you do the same for them on the other days?

The Access course isn't held at night at this college.

The access course is my best chance of success.

My dream job? Urologist. The access course in combined science was to pave the way onto the access course to medicine which is accepted by my local medical school.

You are not useless, for a start you're keeping kids alive and in school.

You're too young be to defunct and useless.

And no one is pointless.

It's annoying that this access course isn't going to work atm. How old are the kids? Do they run it closer to where you live? Does school do wrap around? Is Dad about?

And yy to OU.

DO YOU HAVE INTERNET AND A LAP TOP?

I am sorry but this is a ridiculous pity party.

My DH and I studied with the OU, around full time
Jobs and having a family. We live 1,000 miles from our family so no additional support. I went into hospital to have DD, with a bag full of books as I had an essay due a few days later.
We did our Bscs (both in our 30's) and are currently having a break before doing our masters.

If you want something hard enough, you will do it. You just need to look at the options.

What do you want to study?

No friends. No early care at the school as one of my children has a disability and they don't have extra staffing.

I know no one from the course.

1. You can do Access online.
2. I am 53 and am just about to graduate University. I never thought I would get into Uni let alone graduate and here I am with 2:1. Never did A levels or any other academic stuff.
3. It is NEVER to late to do something.
4. Never write yourself off.

Try to think as creatively as you can about ways to make it work.
Explain to the college what your difficulty is just in case they can help.

I once managed to go to something I needed to go to because a child's classmate was able to have my DC for a while before and after school.
I hate asking for help but I'm glad I did and I paid it back threefold.

You can do access courses online - I’ve been looking into them and you can use the student loan system.

I’m similar to you but I always told myself that the financial commitment of going back to study was too much for a qualification for a job I wasn’t enthralled about. I just couldn’t justify it. I’ve never had a particular calling in life and I accept that now.

I’m now nearing a decade on you and am just going to do something that takes my interest because what I do like is money and know I am more than capable of earning more but need the qualifications as an ‘in’.

You’re not to old, childcare is a hurdle not a dead end. You can do it.

There really are no other options if there is no one to take them to and from school so I can attend classes in a town half an hour away using public transport that's spotty at best. I've looked at everything I can think of.

No breakfast club at school? After school clubs?

It's so so important to get qualifications in a subject you love, and go on to get a career. I'm convinced that's why some people get depressed and suffer MH problems. It's not just for the money, but also the feeling that you can be proud of yourself, hold your head up high, and earn respect from other people.

Can't you get a child minder?

Online with OU

Firstly, having a lack of formal qualifications doesn’t make anybody useless, pointless or worthless, what a daft thing to say!

The advice given by pps is right, either get yourself some wraparound care, do an OU course or adjust your view of yourself and accept that further education will have to wait.

I know no one at their school, except school gate chit chat, and no one will have my 8 yr old doubly incontient and prone to poonamis son with severe learning disabilities. I've tried thinking creatively, I really have.

Go through the open university, seriously, they have thousands of degrees and do stem degrees. You'll be able to get a student loan, and it's all distance learning. I'm just starting my 5th year with them towards a social policy and criminology combined honours degree. Have a look on their website. I'm 30 next month, and I don't have any qualifications, other than my GCSE's they accept everyone, you don't even need GCSE's, just the motivation to learn.

I can't afford a childminder. I had to give up my job in June.

I didn't mean to be condescending.
It's just sometimes you can get stuck in your thinking.

Have you looked into OU courses?

I've usually got a future learn course on the go to keep my mind occupied.

It's not the same as something that would get me closer to a long term goal but it keeps my confidence going.

Have you given up work to care for your son OP? Are you claiming carers?