Firstly this does reference things like group chats and social media and on a few threads I've seen people mention anything like this there's been unhelpful responses calling them childish or whatever but I'm 24 and it's all relevant to the situation so please don't patronise me because I am genuinely concerned over this and don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.
I'm getting married next year, and I've been going over what to do in regards to my bridal party for months but can't seem to come to a conclusion.
I've known friend A in school and have been close ever since. I met friend B through uni two years ago, and we've been close ever since, I see and talk to her more than I do with friend A.
I introduced friends A & B as was planning a night out and wanted them to meet as my closest friends. I set up a group chat on Facebook where we all spoke for a couple of days prior just to sort of break the ice between them. They met and have been good friends ever since. The three of us kept in touch via the group chat and used it to arrange plans regularly.
Next we plan to go to a nearby city for a larger night out and get a hotel. Friend A invites her closest friend, Friend C. Neither me or friend B have ever met friend C but we add her to the group chat where we are making all the plans and all get on. We went out on the night out and had a good time.
Rather than making a new group chat we'd used the existing one and just added friend C, we used this chat most days so we continued to do so. This is where it gets a little awkward as it's now been well over a year of this group chat being used most days, Friend A & Friend C are still extremely close, however both Friend B and I have only met her twice more since that initial night out, but we are both close with Friend A. The group chat is still our main communication as we all live about 50 minutes apart etc, which the 4 of us are in.
Friend C is a nice girl, and frequently reposts photos of us from the few times we've met saying things like "miss my best friends" and refers to us as such frequently in the group chat and to other people etc. I guess I just feel awkward because I literally don't know her. If I ever want to post anything or plan anything with friend A & B I always ensure to include Friend C, as I don't want to be bitchy and look I'm leaving one person out.. but I don't know her?! Not really?!
I want Friend A & B to be in my bridal party, preferably with friend B as Maid of Honour and then friend A as a bridesmaid along with my sister. I just feel I'll look so nasty not asking Friend C? She's gotten upset in the past over such little things like me and Friend B tagging each other and Friend A in funny pictures on Facebook and not her (I know this sounds childish) and I know she'll take it personally.
I just feel strange having someone Ive met three times as my bridesmaid.. I feel slightly strange even inviting her to the wedding as I just do not feel like I know her at all. it's such a strange situation having someone call you their best friend when I only really seem them as an acquaintance and I've gone along with it for over a year just out of sheer awkwardness and not wanting to upset anyone.. but it just seems strange. I don't know if Friend B feels the same and don't want to ask in case I look catty. I dealt with lots of bitchy girls in school and don't want to be that girl 