To not want visit family 2 days after being home

[whyohwhyyy]

Came home from hospital Sunday night after having DD emergency c section.

OH family have offered to come here but it's to much we have a tiny living room and there's 7 of them coming.
4 of us here

So I agreed to go to his mums but now I just don't fancy it I want to be st home with my kids.

Now he's saying he will just take her on his own then I don't understand why they just can't wait until I feel better I hate feeling pressured.

Exactly what SoyDora says. It doesn't matter if others managed it, whyohwhyy is not feeling up to it and her partner should be the one who has her back and is making sure that she gets exactly what she needs to recover and bond with her baby. And she is posting on here as she is not getting that and needs the reassurance that it is perfectly normal not to feel up it and expecting his support. Which it is indeed. Birth is unpredictable. His family need to grow up and understand and he needs to get his priorities straight.

I would not have children visit my week old baby sorry. Hubby needs to get a grip. Visitors are tiring with a little baby (especially after a c section, emergency or not)... At that stage I would only allow people who will provide help :) good luck and good recovery op!

Oh and I haven't been apart from my 8 month old yet and her poor grandfather hasn't met her yet as his father died 2 days before my in-laws were due to fly over and he had to stay behind and I wasn't able to take her to see him in the intervening time as my mum was told she needed a triple bypass the same date as grandpa died and I had to go and look after my mum. My poor husband could only join us for a week in the middle of my longest stay with my mum and missed out on weeks with his baby. None of us has done anything other than roll our eyes and say "That's life".

Holy fucking Jesus what a monumental tosser. I should bloody well hope he did take you to A&E to have a dressing put on after the way he’s carried on. I’m so sorry you have to deal with this man child as well as trying to recover from major surgery and establish breastfeeding.

I hope your mum has given you a cuddle and sent you to bed- the fact that you needed a new dressing on your stitches shows you’ve been overdoing it. Are you able to try lying down to feed? It took me a good few weeks to master it but it was a game changer once I did. If not try and get yourself well propped up (in bed!!!!) and cuddle your baby. In fact I’d kick him out of the bed onto the sofa after the way he’s behaved and have the bed all to you and baby. He’s lucky if that’s all you kick him out of tbh!

But the baby is presumably too small to be around strangers anyway - no injections yet etc?

What since when was this a rule?

You should show him this thread OP see how he likes being slagged of because he is being a fucking prick and would deserve to hear it from other people, right enough it's not the same because what's being said on here is true and what they are saying is bullshit. Strange when you have s baby family act as though the have some automatic right to the baby and to inconvenience the mother for their own satisfaction. Tell them all to get fucked.

He's handled it badly. He should be treating you like gold after what you've been through.

If you're having such a bad time with recovery perhaps you should be checked out?