I'm stupid / useless but don't know how not to be

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Aibu to not know how to change?
As a kid I was always the book loser, key loser, Pe kit loser etc. My Dad dispared and I hated that it cost him money to replace so it was never about not caring or understanding.
As an adult I'm not much better. I still lose keys and phones, I lost my phone about a month ago on the bus and just spent an hour trying to find the bus I left my bag on. It would be my money lost,y money to replace, my time wasted on lost uni notes so again it isn't about having a lack of come back on me for doing it.

I cook and forget to turn the cooker on or off.

I'm clumsy so even if I don't lose my phone I drop it constantly.

I've forgot to take the baby's stuff out and so had to go back or replace or improvise so again, I'm fully aware and distressed at the consequences.

But I still don't know how to stop being so fucking useless and stupid!

If I mention about the bag everyone will just be "typical Sleeping" and when I got pregnant there were so many comments about how I'd leave baby somewhere and forget.

At work I felt it affected how professional I looked (me and I'd badges were a nightmare) and in my personal life it just makes me the butt of jokes and rolled eyes be abuse everyone knows how stupid Sleeping is.

But I don't know how to change and that seems ridiculous. I'm mid 30's, care for a medically complex 3 yo, am studying for my second degree.

How can I change and be less sodding useless?

Sounds like dyspraxia or adhd
This is so unhelpful to the OP. She needs strategies, whether she’s got a label or not for this.

Actually, it's not. I got diagnosed with dyspraxia and work Occupational Health put me in touch with the DWP Access to Work. They actually reimbursing my employers for a coach to come in and help me with putting organisational strategies into place. Around five grand's worth of help. I would say that's helpful.

do you struggle with left and right and directions? not particularly and good spatial awareness of anything not my body. Can do the puzzles where you work out what it looks like from a different angle etc.

I looked on the dyspraxia page, it doesn't hugely fit

I was reading on the ADD stuff that they'll only consider an assessment if it affects two areas of your life from famy, education and work. But I'm a sahm so I only have one area!!

How do I walk into the doctors and say hi, some nice people on the Internet think I might have IADD or dyspraxia??

Anyone who does also get tinnitus? I've always had it, I thought it was normal to have a tone in your ear intermittently more often than not but apparently not :D

No tinnitus but in response to a pp asking about dyspraxia & periods, mine is worse when I'm premenstrual. I'm also hypermobile & that gets worse before, too. Some of my nastiest falls have been around when I've come on. I've done some online poking before & these conditions all have some links/over lap and oestrogen affects them. I also have a sky high dose if natural oestrogen so it's rather fascinating.

I have PCOS so I have periods about 3 times a year lol