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Original poster

Two families in a holiday home

89 replies

eco1636 · 09/09/2018 09:27

One family of 4 (mum, dad, dcs 8 and 10) and one of 5 (mum, dad, dcs 6, 8 and 10).

Not really an Aibu because I really don’t know - should the families split the cost of renting the holiday home exactly? Or the larger families pay proportionately more for the extra child?

I think it’s going to be a 4 bedroomed place.....

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Babysharkdododo · 09/09/2018 09:29

I would split according to bedrooms. If each family uses 2 bedrooms then you pay 50:50.

LittleBookofCalm · 09/09/2018 09:29

split down the middle i would say

sexnotgender · 09/09/2018 09:29

If you both get 2 bedrooms then pay half each.

If they need more rooms or their extra child incurs a cost for adding a bed or whatever then they pay the difference.

CripsSandwiches · 09/09/2018 09:29

How will the bedrooms be shared out? Two each for each family? Or same sex kids sharing?

museumum · 09/09/2018 09:29

If it’s 4 rooms I’d split 50/50. If the bigger family have another bedroom they could pay more but even then I probably wouldn’t bother.

Boysnme · 09/09/2018 09:29

4 bed place split, both families need two rooms. 5 bed proportion split as one needs an extra room. Although depending on the cost and who the families were I may just split regardless.

Original poster
eco1636 · 09/09/2018 09:31

Bedrooms will be split between families - 2 x 10 year olds in one room and 3 x younger children in the other.

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Jasharps · 09/09/2018 09:33

It wouldn't even occur to me to split proportionally unless a massive difference in room numbers or beds.

I would spit 50:50

babasaclover · 09/09/2018 09:34

If you are using the same amount of bedrooms eachwhy would either of you pay more?

Original poster
eco1636 · 09/09/2018 09:34

I think we would consider it if we were having 5 bedrooms but probably not with the 4

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Oysterbabe · 09/09/2018 09:35

Definitely 50/50

Original poster
eco1636 · 09/09/2018 09:35

But we are struggling a bit with budget, the places accommodating 9 are more than those accommodating 8.

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Returnofthesmileybar · 09/09/2018 09:35

Ya for one child like that split 50:50, honestly anything else is just tight considering the bedroom split

MarthasGinYard · 09/09/2018 09:36

'It wouldn't even occur to me to split proportionally unless a massive difference in room numbers or beds.'

Wouldn't occur to me either

What would you want them to pay more for??

stellabird · 09/09/2018 09:36

I can't ever understand the idea of holidaying with other families. Sounds like hell to me. Split 50-50 if you are sharing half-half.

Ginorchoc · 09/09/2018 09:38

50/50 due to the bedroom arrangements. Is it self catering?

Original poster
eco1636 · 09/09/2018 09:38

Marthasginyard - it occurred because we need a bigger place based on their extra child and it’s upping the budget.

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Stompythedinosaur · 09/09/2018 09:39

I would split 50:50. Anything else sounds like a big headache.

ViscountTheVoraciousVampire · 09/09/2018 09:39

To make it simples, 2 families, split the cost 50/50.

It doesn't matter that 1 has another child, I think it would be deemed petty to do complex maths for something that should be so easy. I would suggest it would set a tone to a holiday far of & possibly breed concerns. For example your DC has 2 bowls of pasta, my DC left hers so you should pay twice. Not saying anyone would be that petty, but it'll make for an interesting holiday, if it's thought one family should pay more for having 1DC more.

Santaclarita · 09/09/2018 09:39

But we are struggling a bit with budget, the places accommodating 9 are more than those accommodating 8.

Then you can't afford to go. Don't be cheeky and expect someone else to pay for your holiday. You are both getting two rooms each effectively. Pay your share or don't go.

PotteringAlong · 09/09/2018 09:40

But we are struggling a bit with budget, the places accommodating 9 are more than those accommodating 8.

Well yes, but places that sleep 4 will be cheaper still...

KC225 · 09/09/2018 09:40

As you're doing equal room split, you are essentially worrying about the extra cost of a six year as the older children are the same age as yours. The child is six, not sixteen year old 6ft rugby player that can clear a fridge like a swarm of locusts. Six year olds will not impact much on your food budget.

Washedwithrain · 09/09/2018 09:42

Two 8 year olds and a 6 year old who arent siblings, so would be excited at sharing, in one bedroom would be a recipe for disaster. They will talk and muck about half the night and then be grumpy all day. Go for something bigger and halve the costs.

Jeezoh · 09/09/2018 09:43

I’d split 50/50 for accommodation and other stuff (food etc) if the children are of a similar age. If the 5 would be consuming significantly more food/drink etc than the 4, I’d split 4/9 and 5/9.

We have a larger family than some others we go away with and always offer to pay the correct proportion of costs. The offer is usually rejected though!

I think if you feel aggrieved or a bit picky about costs, going away together may not be the best idea. It has to be done with a degree of sucking up a few minor irritations or it just breeds resentment!

frenchfancy · 09/09/2018 09:43

Contact the places renting for 8 in 4 bedrooms and see if you can add an extra child. We do in our property at no extra cost.