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AIBU?

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Two families in a holiday home

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eco1636 · 09/09/2018 09:27

One family of 4 (mum, dad, dcs 8 and 10) and one of 5 (mum, dad, dcs 6, 8 and 10).

Not really an Aibu because I really don’t know - should the families split the cost of renting the holiday home exactly? Or the larger families pay proportionately more for the extra child?

I think it’s going to be a 4 bedroomed place.....

OP posts:

AjasLipstick · 09/09/2018 09:56

It doesn't matter that places accomodating 9 are more. You'd never book an 8 bed alone would you? So you're still saving money.

greathat · 09/09/2018 10:03

Contact the 8 bed places and ask if you can take an air bed too?

KnotsInMay · 09/09/2018 10:03

If I had 3 kids and could see that the price for houses sleeping 9 was higher than 8 I would offer / insist on paying the difference.

On the other hand if I had 2 kids I would be relaxed with splitting it 50:50 by rooms, because sharing a house is still more economical than not, and presumably houses that sleep 9 are more spacious in living areas etc so everyone will benefit.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/09/2018 10:05

Honestly just split it 50/50. You don't need to book somewhere with another room as all the dc are in two rooms. I can't believe you're even questioning it.

Lalliella · 09/09/2018 10:05

Split 50:50. We are a family of 4 and went away with a family of 5 and we split everything equally. The kids dragged mattresses off the beds so they could all sleep in the same room in a mass sleepover, it was great fun

Witchend · 09/09/2018 10:06

We're a family of 5 and often if you speak to the owners they're quite happy for us to book a 4 berth and take a blow up mattress-sometimes they even offer to put a small bed/mattress in for us for our youngest.
I imagine the same will be true of an 8 berth for 9 people. That way it won't make it more expensive them having 5.

LoniceraJaponica · 09/09/2018 10:07

Is there nowhere where there are two cottages side by side where you can accommodate one family in each?

flumpybear · 09/09/2018 10:07

I had this recently, were the bigger family and were using 3 rooms, one was shared with their child, so I suggested that we pay 4:3 ratio. They checked that we were ok to do that as it would cost us more and I thought it was fair as we earn much more than them anyway

But I think it depends on the situation and if we were the smaller family I'd probably suggest 50:50

Alpacanorange · 09/09/2018 10:09

I don’t think you should be going on holiday with these people, you seem to hold a petty view of splitting the costs, one extra child will not make much different to the cost.

WipsGlitter · 09/09/2018 10:09

How big is the price difference??

FanciedAChangeToday · 09/09/2018 10:09

Have the family of 5 offered to pay a bit more?

MiddleClassProblem · 09/09/2018 10:12

I’m not sure why the other family needs to compensate for your budget. Surely you look into a holiday and if you can’t afford it after looking at prices you don’t go or look for something cheaper...

hubby · 09/09/2018 10:12

We are a family of 5 and regularly go away with a family of 4. We divide costs by 9 and they pay 4/9. However this may be as we are better off but I feel more comfortable this way

LillianGish · 09/09/2018 10:14

It has to be 50:50 - especially if it’s a 4-bed. I echo what others have said that if you are worrying about splitting the cost of the accommodation then you are going to have a lot more angst on holiday. If you are the sort of person who hates splitting the bill in a restaurant on the basis that you didn’t have a starter then don’t go on a group holiday.

slashlover · 09/09/2018 10:24

Splitting it by people makes it 44/56 approx. so if you were spending £1000 the difference would be £556 vs £444. Obviously, I don't know your budget but you have to think if the savings would be worth possibly causing resentment, especially as a 6 year old often wouldn't be charged at full price.

ExFury · 09/09/2018 10:30

I’d speak to the places that sleep 8 and see if they’ll allow a camp bed for the 6yo. Many would.

If I was you I’d split 50:50. That said if i was the bigger family (we are with 3 when we holiday with friends who have 2) I’d insist on paying more. Especially in an AirBnB type situation if the one extra took it into the next price bracket for a property.

ADishBestEatenCold · 09/09/2018 10:34

"But we are struggling a bit with budget, the places accommodating 9 are more than those accommodating 8."

Shop around ... there tend to be a little bit of fluctuation (even within a particular type/size) in holiday rentals.

Discuss it with your friends fully before booking, including how food and activity costs will be shared. Deal with it all in advance then, assuming you still go ahead, there is no cause or room for later resentment on either side.

TomHardysNextWife · 09/09/2018 10:36

50/50. You can't split hairs over who has more children. That's only going to start the holiday off on a sour note. And same with food etc. If you can't share equally, don't go on holiday together. It's nit picky and not nice.

arranfan · 09/09/2018 10:36

If the costs of 50% of a larger place are more than you'd pay for something for just your family, tell them you're going to rent your own place? I assume you won't be able to share care, chores etc. if that was part of the implicit arrangement but it would be more affordable for you.

LockedOutOfMN · 09/09/2018 10:38

If there are 4 bedrooms then presumably it's 2 rooms per family. I'd split the accommodation 50:50 and probably groceries too, given that the "extra" person is only 6 years old (unless among the adults there is a great disparity in grocery consumption - e.g. one person wanting expensive coffee, lots of booze, protein rich diet with lots of steaks, seafood, etc.) If you go out for a meal then each family should pay for what they ate.

I'd have a frank discussion about it before you go so that no one has an assumption and is then offended when others don't have the same one.

serbska · 09/09/2018 10:39

If this is concerning you now then I don't think shared holidays are for you

This.

You don’t sound like a very relaxed person to go on holiday with!

There will be many small issues and if you’re going to stress and post on MN about them all, this is not for you!

I’d rent a 4 bed place and have the three siblings bunk in together.

LoniceraJaponica · 09/09/2018 10:42

If you were in hotel you pay by room, so 50:50.

loubluee · 09/09/2018 10:43

I would split 50:50 in all honesty and the food when there. It’s not as if a 6 year old is eating a huge amount on a daily basis. I think it starts to get petty when splitting to the percentage etc. Just go halves.

TSSDNCOP · 09/09/2018 10:50

Get 2 villas as close as possible.

If your haggling over this now the holiday will be a nightmare of splitting bills and budgets.

thomasthecheekyone · 09/09/2018 10:51

We had this, but more complicated.
4 bed villa,
My mum
My sister
My partner, me and 1yo
My other sister and her 3yo

I said split the cost by room, we were out voted and it was split by adult. Villa was £1200, so by room it was £300 per 'family', per adult it cost £240 per adult. As we were the only family with 2 adults it cost us £180 more. Each 'family' had their own room.

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