Two families in a holiday home

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One family of 4 (mum, dad, dcs 8 and 10) and one of 5 (mum, dad, dcs 6, 8 and 10).

Not really an Aibu because I really don’t know - should the families split the cost of renting the holiday home exactly? Or the larger families pay proportionately more for the extra child?

I think it’s going to be a 4 bedroomed place.....

But we are struggling a bit with budget, the places accommodating 9 are more than those accommodating 8

If you're starting to question how things are split at this stage (before you've even found somewhere to stay) because money is tight and you don't think a 50/50 split is fair then I think you need to think about whether holidaying with another family is for you.

Every meal out, every time shopping is bought, every round of drinks/coffees is going to need to be split so how will you want that done? Each family paying for exactly what they eat and drink (easier when you eat out but what about a supermarket shop?)?
Could cause a few arguments and be seen as petty

If this is causing issues for you now I wouldn’t go away with them FYI I would split 50/50

Split 50:50
Miserable otherwise

it is always harder with 3 children, extra cost.
what size house do you want op?

50:50 split anything else would seem petty and mean. I get that you need to look at properties accommodating an extra bed, can you not say you're struggling with costs and suggest looking at cheaper places e.g. Smaller or less good location?

I would bet my house this "holiday" will not be what you think it will be

Why don't you rent 2 smaller places near to each other and pay for yourselves? Xx

The budget for what we can spend there is generous so there won’t be worries on that. We have been away with them before.

Dh has a set budget in his mind for accommodation and we’re going over that with the 9, bit I think we’re going to have to.

Whoops the "xx" was not intended

Split per rooms used I think.

We just split 50:50.

We're a family of three, and the friends we go away (separately) with are all families of 4. We just split the costs in half, but we do ensure that the two adult rooms are of a similar standard, both with doubles and where possible a bathroom. Else we take it in turns to choose the 'best' bedroom!

If 50% of the shared holiday is cheaper than accommodation for 4 then you are still saving money.

The post suggesting you contact 8 bed holiday homes and ask if you could squeeze an extra child in was a good one.

Aww x

But OP, 50 % of a 4 bed house that accomodates 9, will be cheaper than a 2 bed house that sleeps 4. Sharing the hoiday is making it cheaper for you than not going with this family.

we need a bigger place based on their extra child and it’s upping the budget.

How? Would you otherwise have gone for a 3 bed and put 4 kids in one room? Double bunks?

I'd do 50:50 in that scenario.

Would it be cheaper to get two smaller separate properties near each other if it is more expensive than you can afford?

Split 50:50 definitely. You’re splitting the bedrooms equally so there’s no question about it, their extra child isn’t taking up any more room than your two. You can’t expect them to subsidise your holiday when they’re not getting anything extra, talk about being CF.

I'd offer to split 50/50 if I were the family of 4, and offer to pay more if I were the family of 5.
But like others, I don't think the holiday will be pleasurable for you all, if this is causing a problem.

50:50
I think you need to talk about how you split costs etc while you're away too if the extra child is an issue for you.

No, we want to go together. I didn’t ‘expect’ anything, as I said I genuinely didn’t know. But some posters still see fit to insult - sigh

Other way to look at it.
If you were to rent a holiday cottage for 4, would it more or less than paying 50/50 for the one for 9 people??

My first thought was 50:50, but if budget is really tight you could divide cost by number of people going. Times yours by 4 theirs by five.

I'd go for 50:50, anything else will set a bad tone for the holiday I think

I bet the cost of a house for 4 is more than half the cost of a house for 9. Just split it 50/50.
As a pp has suggested, contact some of the houses that sleep 8 and see if they will fit in an extra bed for a 6 year old.

Is the other family on a tight budget too? If not I think you will find it hard work if they want more expensive days out and also spend more freely on food etc. Just bear that in mind too.

If this is concerning you now then I don't think shared holidays are for you. There will be many more things to share such as groceries, bathrooms, work around the house(tidying, cleaning up etc) and this is a holiday you say??? Sounds like you can't be relaxed enough. No blame from me, it would be my idea of hell to share.